to get annoyed when DH speaks like this to waitresses, air hostesses, call centre/marketing women in front of me

[sodeveryone]

Example of a recent phonecall about his mortgage of which I only heard one end:

WHere are you from? Let me guess from your accent?

You sound irish, I bet you're Irish

No it's a very nice, very beautiful combination of features - freckles, pale and your accent sounds northern Irish. Where are you based? Ah I love Belfast.

to the girl behind a bar in New York a few months ago:

You have amazing colouring where are you from?

Oh really? I guessed from the colour of your eyes, they're hazel right?

(she leans in close to his face and says "no they're green")

DH: Oh I get it now, green eyes, black hair, that's very rare

(Turns to me and affirms) That's very rare you know!

Well next time somebody from a call-center in India/South Africa calls me about my ppi claim, or somebody calls from Microsoft to tell me I have a virus that will shut down the interweb in 5 -4 3- 2-1 I shall regale them with

"Oh, you have such a lovely soft accent. I bet you are from Mysore. Are you from Mysore? I have been to Bangalore, loved it. Do you have black hair and soft chocolate brown eyes? Men with black hair and brown eyes are so handsome."

How do you think they will react to that?

How will I be perceived ????

Precisely, pigs.

OP does not like it. We don't know if she has asked her DH to stop, but she needs to do so and to note his reaction.

It really does not matter if some women are (inexplicably) all-a-giggle-and-a-flutter because some guy they don't know from Adam thinks their colouring is 'amazing'. The same guy's wife is annoyed by it and finds her DH talks to the barmaid rather than her...so there we have it, he has to stop.

LOL @ Quint.

I'm going to do it with the helpdesk (I use 'help' loosely, you understand...) next time my internet goes down.

'Oooh......I love your delightful accent. Is it Liverpool? My granny was born in Huyton. What colour are your eyes? Mmmmmmm.....brown, yummy. What? You want me to reboot the modem? Aw......sugar pie, I was just getting to know you!'

Bleurgh.

i'm sure it would make a change from the usual hail of abuse people in call centres in India put up with.

(I'll let you into a secret - people working in call centres do not actually care what you say. They do their job with one eye on the clock and their mind on their bank balance. Most do their job properly. The odd enquiry about accent/weather or Big Brother breaks the monotony)

Depends on his whole general style I think!

Is it more Sergeant Wilson from Dad's Army or Richie from Bottom?

I don't find it lecherous I just find it more like a bad dad joke and I don't know where to put myself because it turns into a conversation between DH and the other woman rather than a conversation between DH and I!

This is what makes me . The OP doesn't find it sleazy, and by the reaction of the other women involved, they don't neither. Am i right in thinkin that OP isn't uncomfortable because she thinks her DP is hitting on the women or is going to cheat on her, but that she is not included in the conversation? Op has stated that she doesn't want her dp speaking to other women instead of her. But surely her dp is entitled to speak to whoever he wants as long if his intentions are innocent?

I totally disgaree with tiktok.
She is saying, the wife, feels uncomfortable; therefore it is inappropriate,
Erm, sorry, has anyone questioned, WHY the wife feels its inappropriate?
Because, do far, nothing about the Op's dh, seesm "inappropropriate".

I'm with oblomov also. Though I had to scroll for Britain to find it. Genuinely puzzled at what's offensive.

It's rude to flirt wit people you don't know in front of your wife.

I'll eat my own arm if he's not flirting?

Does he ask male bartenders what colour their eyes are?

Does he, in fact, engage them in conversation at all?

There wasn't meant to be a question mark after "I'll eat my arm if he isn't flirting@

ALSO

Bad dad conversation is embarrassing because it's usually a sad attempt by our dads (who we don't want to see as sexual) to flirt IMO

one of the benefits of having a Midlands accent no one says 'I love your voice it sounds like a combination of adenoids, clinical depression and a double figure IQ

It may have been on page 2 but it deserves a revivial composhat

Or revival.

And now I've read the stuff about the BIL and the prostitute and the breakfast I've got to search OP's name. Does that make me bad?

Probably, but OP please don't ask for your posts to be deleted yet.

revivial sounds so much more exotic though

He seems a bit buffoonish. But complementing someone on...their skintone...which can be particularly beautiful, in a kind of haunting way

I have two things to say.

'Wayne' and 'Rooney'

We once looked at a house and he told the seller that he wanted a secluded garden so that we could shag in it, although I think he used the phrase, 'making love'

This is the thread that keeps on giving. Thanks consils

Years ago, when I was what he would have described as a 'young moisty'

Thank you Shakey.
Limited, Wayne and Rooney. GodSaveMe. Seriously. If you have ever seen a pale faced irish skin that you thought was very attractive, then "I'm so sorry 'Wayne Rooney' Count ME IN".

I AM NOT APOLGISING. LET me make that very clear.

Agree with Oblomov.

Don't get the outrage on this thread; I love being complimented and flirted with, however cheesy it may be.

Guess we're all different though.

oblomov My father was Irish and looked like George Best. Except he was older so Georgie Best looked like him. With sideburns.

Anyway, I've inherited hauntingly beautiful looks. I don't have a profile so you're going to have to take my word for it that I look more Daniel Day Lewis-like than Rooney-spud-esque.

I don't mind Wayne, as it goes, but haunting would be the thing of nightmares rather than anything else if he was standing at the end of my bed.

Sounds cheesy and a bit sleazy ole man,ESP since they can't tell him to fuck off
You see on services industry staff can't tell wisecracking Buffon to piss off
Despite wanting to,ESP if they blether on like your dh

Jamie is spot on - does he do this with male bar staff, call centre workers etc? No? Then it's not innocent friendly conversation.

Hauntingley is supposed to be a compliment. I consider it so.

Presumably he doesn't crack onto males,so it is bit sleazy

I don't find it nice to be complimented by a man whose wife is standing just next to him and really, if you have ever worked in a bar and are halfway decent looking, you get complimented 10 times a night. It's so old-fashioned, like older men who say when you are waitressing 'you're a pretty young girl aren't you?'- what can you say? I can't believe people think this is a genuinely nice experience for women who work in bars and restaurants, call centres is a bit different but it's still sleazy to comment on a woman's appearance like that, especially when you can't see them!

I would die of embarrassment if my husband came out with that type of conversation to a barmaid.

My DW works in customer service, has an accent which is clearly not English and hates stupid questions about it.