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Original poster

To think it would have been polite to let us know?

115 replies

HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 19:51

Am prepared to be told I'm being a miserable cow but here goes..

Neighbours who rent the house two doors down, generally quiet but know them to say hello to, are having a huge party. When I say huge, I mean the works..music, loads of guests, squealing, water fights, obviously lots of drink involved, giddiness etc. Think it's a big birthday too, they've gone to town on the decor.

It's generally a naice area and quiet. Baby sleeps at the back of the house and is still awake with the noise.

AIBU to think they could have let us know or hired the nearest hall for party this size?

OP posts:
kalidanger · 13/07/2013 19:53

It's ONE night Grin YABU

KirjavaTheCat · 13/07/2013 19:54

Yanbu. Very inconsiderate and not very neighbourly.

onedev · 13/07/2013 19:55

If its a 1-off, then I think YABU.

Boosiehs · 13/07/2013 19:55

Yabu. One night and on a Saturday. It's also only 8pm.

MoreSnowPlease · 13/07/2013 19:56

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RaisingChaotic · 13/07/2013 19:57

YANBU to think they could have let you know. It would have been the considerate thing to do.

Any chance you could move the baby to the front of the house?

knackeredmother · 13/07/2013 19:57

YABU, I don't get how some people on Mm think everything should stop at 7pm for ther children!
It's summer, it's a party, it's not late, it's called life.

apostropheuse · 13/07/2013 19:57

Oh well it sounds like a one-off party for a big occasion, given by normally quiet neighbours. It doesn't sound too bad to me. If it were a regular occurrence that might be more annoying.

YABU

kalidanger · 13/07/2013 19:58

Best weather this year too. Lucky them. I'd genuinely be sad I wasn't invited Sad

Drywhiteplease · 13/07/2013 20:01

It's just polite to warn neighbours. YANBU

NoComet · 13/07/2013 20:02

YABU, as other say a one off for a special occasion.

Never bothered telling the neighbours about our once a year works BBQ which wasn't quiet.
Bouncy castle and fire juggling (I signed a form saying no one would be drunk on the bouncy castle Hmm)

PoppyWearer · 13/07/2013 20:06

Personally I would notify next-door neighbours but no further, so...YABU.

I remember trying to get our DC1 to sleep with a massive 60th birthday party going on down the road a few years back (with marquee, fireworks, the whole thing) and got quite upset on the night itself, but the next day I got my perspective back and realised it was a complete one-off...and it hasn't happened since.

Drywhiteplease · 13/07/2013 20:07

I just don't understand why people wouldn't warn neighbours just out of consideration

VivaLeBeaver · 13/07/2013 20:08

I'd have warned neighbours for a party that size. Yes it's Saturday but tomorrow I have to be at work at 7am, I'm sure I'm not the only one who works on a Sunday.

If a neighbour warned me I'd go and sleep at my dads house.

WhoNickedMyName · 13/07/2013 20:11

It's one night, it's only just 8pm and no, I wouldn't hire a hall or tell the neighbours a few doors down.

YABU.

JRmumma · 13/07/2013 20:12

Hall hiring is quite expensive here, i don't know how anyone affords it! If they are usually good considerate neighbours then YABU to expect them to not ever have a food time in their own home just because you have a child. They could have let you know yes, but what difference would it have made?

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 13/07/2013 20:20

YABU at the moment. If it is still going on at say 3am I could see your point. Yes that is the time people were leaving the noisy party 2 doors away last night.
As a one off I won't bother complaining. If it becomes a weekly event I might consider it.

Original poster
HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 20:24

I genuinely would have gone to my parents for the weekend if I had known.

I don't expect the world to stop because I have a child, I'm thinking of everyone else in the house too. Actually wondering how I'm going to sleep myself. I know it's only 8 but it sounds like nightclub throwing-out time already..can you imagine later.

Already accepted I am being a bit U because its only one night but one night is a long time when you're up at 6 with baby. I still think they are a bit rude.

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Drywhiteplease · 13/07/2013 20:26

JR I think be telling them it gives them the option to go out or stay somewhere else

SelectAUserName · 13/07/2013 20:26

YANBU to be a bit annoyed at the noise but YABU to expect advance notification, as you say they are usually quiet, it's an unusual occurrence and still early on a Saturday evening. If you are still posting this after about 11pm tonight, YWNBU.

What would you have done differently if you'd known in advance, and can you still do it?

Original poster
HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 20:28

Raising can't even move baby in with myself and DH, as we're at the back of the house too. I think we might all end up sleeping downstairs at this rate.

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mercibucket · 13/07/2013 20:39

yabu at the moment
if its still full on at 11 onwards, maybe not, but tbh, it doesnt sound particularly full on if it is just lots of guests and a water fight. is there a marquee? bouncy castle? fireworks? dj?
aldo, i do wonder if there is a bit of snobbery as they are renting?

perplexedpirate · 13/07/2013 20:42

Seriously, you expect people to hire a hall for a party because someone two doors down might not like noise at 8.30pm???
You need to get over yourself.

LST · 13/07/2013 20:47

YABU. We tell next door on both sides but would never consider going anu further down.. It's their home and it's 1 night.

LST · 13/07/2013 20:49

They are not rude at all. Not even slightly.