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AIBU?

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To think it would have been polite to let us know?

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 19:51

Am prepared to be told I'm being a miserable cow but here goes..

Neighbours who rent the house two doors down, generally quiet but know them to say hello to, are having a huge party. When I say huge, I mean the works..music, loads of guests, squealing, water fights, obviously lots of drink involved, giddiness etc. Think it's a big birthday too, they've gone to town on the decor.

It's generally a naice area and quiet. Baby sleeps at the back of the house and is still awake with the noise.

AIBU to think they could have let us know or hired the nearest hall for party this size?

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shutitweirdo · 13/07/2013 20:49

My neighbour 2 doors away let me know today they are having party tonight but said it will stop at midnight. It's considerate to let people know. I let NDN know when we had a new kitchen fitted incase of banging on the wall. Hope they don't go on too late OP

FredFredGeorge · 13/07/2013 20:52

YANBU giddiness is never acceptable in a naice area.

If it was just a regular party though, YABU.

thatstoast · 13/07/2013 20:55

Agree with mercibucket. The fact you thought it relevant that they rent is totally unreasonable. Their one off noisy party which has gone on to the ungodly hour of 9pm is not connected to the fact they have chosen not to purchase a house in your 'naice' area.

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 21:00

Fred it is definite giddiness. And getting giddier by the minute.

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Whothefuckfarted · 13/07/2013 21:02

One party, one night. Totally get over yourself.

Like others have said, I would tell our next door neighbours (well neighbour as I live end of terrace) but no further down the row.

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 21:03

Don't read too much into the renting thing. I was just giving a bit of background, they haven't been in too long and I believe they are not intending to stay. However, I do think that this fact would make them less inclined to want to please their neighbours if they're not planning to stick around.

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 21:05

Why get over myself? I don't think I deserve to be given special treatment, not at all. Just don't want to sleep in the middle of a nightclub tonight, that's all. Not too much to ask, surely.

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Whothefuckfarted · 13/07/2013 21:06

You believe they aren't intending to stay? Why do you think this? Oh and you believing it doesn't make it fact.

Wbdn28 · 13/07/2013 21:07

YANBU but don't see what being a "naice" area has to do with it? It's a polite thing to do everywhere.

Whothefuckfarted · 13/07/2013 21:08

Why? It's only one night. That's why.

pictish · 13/07/2013 21:17

I don't mean to disrespect you when I say this OP, but there have been one or two threads recently about this sort of thing, and I wonder where some of you get the notion that children trump all, and the rest of the world has to keep to your hours...and what's more, they are rude if they don't!

It's a one off, it's early, it's summer....you can't expect to control everything!!

JRmumma · 13/07/2013 21:25

Would you really have stayed away from your own home if they had told you they were having a party?? They would hardly knock and say 'i just wanted to let you know that on saturday we are going to have lots of people here shouting, getting wildly drunk and doing so until the early hours' they would have just said im having a party, sorry if we disturb you.

Also, you are assuming its gonna be a nightmare, they might send everyone home at 11. As far as im concerned, if its a one-off then they can be as wild and obnoxious as they like until 11pm.

babyhmummy01 · 13/07/2013 21:29

I have to say I agree with most people here that YABVU, we used to regularly have parties and only ever told the direct next door neighbours and most of the time they turned up and joined in! I would never have bothered calling down the street to tell everyone.

It is still early, its Saturday and while you may have to work tomorrow they don't. If the noise is still bad at 1130-12 then pop up and ask them to turn it down politely explaining that you are at work in the morning. otherwise leave them to have fun!

Jux · 13/07/2013 21:30

Time was you wouldn't dream of having a party without letting the neighbours know, but nowadays? Not a chance! You might end up having to invite them

Alisvolatpropiis · 13/07/2013 21:40

Yabu.

I don't notify my neighbours of anything because I don't live in a very neighbourly area. Also I live on a very long road,could take all day letting people know

jazzandh · 13/07/2013 21:52

Put a fan on in your bedroom tonight - high speed....will give a white noise effect for sleeping.

get the lawn mower out nice and early tomorrow morning, those of us up at 5 or 6am need to make use of that time of the day

Winterwardrobetime · 13/07/2013 22:01

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YesIamYourSisterInLaw · 13/07/2013 22:12

Oh god you sound like our old neighbours. We had a summer BBQ and they rang our landlord in Switzerland to complain at 7pm!
Yabu

PastaBeeandCheese · 13/07/2013 22:17

Sorry YABU. 2 doors down teenager had an end of A Level party last night. It was very loud and went on for a long time. I also have a baby who struggled with it but I don't begrudge him his fun for one night just as I would expect neighbours to tolerate me having the odd party.

TBH it awakened very pleasant memories of house parties i went to when I was his age

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 22:21

Winter please read the thread, in which the renting subject is addressed.

Why on earth should anyone be looked down on because they rent?! They could be waiting to move to their own house, they could rent their whole lives like members of my family and a lot of my friends.

Still going on. Still loud.

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SirChenjin · 13/07/2013 22:23

YANBU - it's generally considered good manners to let your neighbours know if you're having a party on a scale that involves water pistols and loud music blaring. It's one of the things that makes a naice neighbourhood naice.

Notcontent · 13/07/2013 22:27

I agree that they should have informed you.
We all need to put up with a bit of noise, that's part of living close to other people, but a big party, particularly outside, is going to mean that other people's loves are going to be disrupted.

DameEdnasBridesmaid · 13/07/2013 22:28

OP, It's not that late, they will probably start to tone it down in a bit. It's probably a one-off, extremely annoying but just one of those things we have to accept in life.

SirChenjin · 13/07/2013 22:32

In my experience, a good party only starts to get going around now.

chicaguapa · 13/07/2013 22:32

YANBU. I think it's neighbourly to let people know. They don't have to, but it's considerate. I hope it doesn't go on too late for you. As consideration seems to be undervalued, don't forget to set your alarm to cut the grass first thing tomorrow.

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