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AIBU?

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To think it would have been polite to let us know?

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 19:51

Am prepared to be told I'm being a miserable cow but here goes..

Neighbours who rent the house two doors down, generally quiet but know them to say hello to, are having a huge party. When I say huge, I mean the works..music, loads of guests, squealing, water fights, obviously lots of drink involved, giddiness etc. Think it's a big birthday too, they've gone to town on the decor.

It's generally a naice area and quiet. Baby sleeps at the back of the house and is still awake with the noise.

AIBU to think they could have let us know or hired the nearest hall for party this size?

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pictish · 13/07/2013 22:33

It's as with any of these things. As a one off or even once in a blue moon it's fine, you just have to suck it up. If it becomes a regular thing then you have cause to complain.

OvO · 13/07/2013 22:35

Hug, are you in a small Scottish town? I am and my neighbours are up to similar. They started at lunchtime and are still going strong. They are all absolutely wasted. The music is BLARING and they are all shouting and swearing. Total tosspots.

SirChenjin · 13/07/2013 22:36

Oh yes, definitely an early morning mow of the lawn. A very, very slow, leisurely early morning mow of the lawn - they'll be happy to suck it up I'm sure.

pictish · 13/07/2013 22:37

I agree about the mowing of the lawn - it works both ways.

Stixswhichtwizzle · 13/07/2013 22:47

Are you near me OP?
There's a young teenager party going on over the road from me and my god they're loud! There's girls screaming and squealing. Lads spilling out on to the street but can only occasionally hear them. The house is right opposite my baby's bedroom It best be done by midnight...

Lorelilee · 13/07/2013 22:47

Unless you were actually planning to mow the lawn, I think that would be churlish. I agree with most here, let them get on with it, on the assumption it is a one off. I would take a guess that there aren't many of us who haven't attended such a gathering in the past!

DuttyWine · 13/07/2013 22:55

Is your baby asleep now? Has it unsettled your baby so far?

pictish · 13/07/2013 23:00

Oh - I don't think you should deliberately mow the lawn!
Just saying...they couldn't exactly complain if you did.

Damnautocorrect · 13/07/2013 23:07

I think one offs are fine, we were kept awake til 4am by our neighbours no warning, and they own their property not rent it!
We inwardly moaned but its life, I'm sure we annoy them at some points.

HooverFairy · 13/07/2013 23:16

YANBU, it wouldn't have hurt for them to let the neighbours know, that way people could be prepared for an unsettled night instead of having it sprung upon them. They sound inconsiderate and rude, it doesn't sound like they're planning on being around long if they haven't bothered to warn the neighbours about the noise.

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HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 23:22

Do you remember a few years back, there was an advert where a woman ran to the top of a mountain and just sort of shouted and screamed at the top of her voice to let out her inner tension, or something?

Well I think I might do that tomorrow. In the garden. Since I will be up at six with the baby, I may as well start shouting at around, ooh..5.30?

Still going. Now singing, en masse and out of tune.

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ShellyBoobs · 13/07/2013 23:23

YABU. Very...

kerala · 14/07/2013 07:27

Don't have much sympathy if its one off having had properly bad neighbours.

Gangsta rap routinely played tick
Big staffie dog that would leap fence and shit on our lawn tick
Drug dealing tick
Loud gatherings in garden all the time as none worked tick
Screaming rows tick
My washing came in smelling of weed

Thank your lucky stars its a one off party. We moved btw

poocatcherchampion · 14/07/2013 08:17

not the end of the world is it op. time to see the bigger picture.

SirChenjin · 14/07/2013 14:13

Hope the neighbours saw the bigger picture when the OP woke them up nice and early with a spot of early morning mowing (that you were planning to do, natch )

Hope your neighbours weren't too inconsiderate and called it a day soon after your last post.

somewheresomehow · 14/07/2013 17:21

our neighbors did this last night they did warn us but my god was it loud and it went on till gone one and then loud cars/voices etc till gone two

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HugAMoo · 14/07/2013 19:26

Wish they had, SirC! Ended up going on till about 4 in the morning. They had the good grace to turn off the music about 1 but were then being loud, screaming etc.

After being kept awake for the entire night I have now seen the bigger picture; my neighbours are fucking rude idiots.

When we had parties like this when I was younger, we moved to the pub at 11. They have basically disrupted the entire neighbourhood because of their own selfishness.

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Whothefuckfarted · 14/07/2013 19:41

I thought you were willing to be called a miserable cow if being unreasonable?

I'll say it again, it was ONE night. Exam celebrations? 18th? 21st? Whatever it was, it's not a regular occurrence.

Prices at pubs these days are shocking. Renting a hall isn't cheap either. Much better celebration at home - cheap beer, smoke when you like, no last orders, gorgeous summer night.

They're not rude and they're not idiots. They're having fun. How do you know they didn't inform their neighbours? You don't live directly next door.

You are being a miserable cow who clearly never had fun bc*

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HugAMoo · 14/07/2013 20:03

farted, was it your party? You sound like one of these inconsiderate people who does this kind of thing a lot.

Yes, I do have fun. Guess what? I also manage to do it without being inconsiderate to others and believing that my enjoyment is more important than the lives of an entire neighbourhood.

I was prepared to be called a miserable cow. Until I was kept up all night.

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Whothefuckfarted · 14/07/2013 20:13

I don't have parties like that because I, like you, have a young child (16 months) to look after.

You already said these 'inconsiderate people' don't do this a lot, in fact you say they are generally quiet.

You sound like a grumpy person who can't stand it when others have a bit of fun. Jealous?

It was one night. If it happens next weekend, then the weekend after.. then you have every right to name call. Until then, get over it. I lived next to noisy teenagers in my last house, EVERY Thursday student night it was a total pain. I know what it's like to have rude inconsiderate neighbours.

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 14/07/2013 20:19

FFS, it was ONE night...one night out of 365 is hardly a lot is it? And no, I don't have parties every night and I have been kept awake all night by partying neighbours...but it's one night....get over yourself

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HugAMoo · 14/07/2013 20:21

They were shouting all night. All night. I didn't get any sleep whatsoever. They are inconsiderate. One night or every night, doesn't make any difference. If people where more considerate of each other, the world would be a nicer place.

Jealous? With an 18 month old, I would much sooner be tucked up in bed than singing along to beyonce badly at the top of my voice at 1am.

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ProperStumped · 14/07/2013 20:36

This ^^

And I am one of the most considerate people you will ever meet. People are allowed to have loud raucous parties once in a while you know, it's THEIR home too.

My NDN have a party every August that goes on all night long, is really loud, and right underneath my bedroom window. I just have to suck it up, it's once a year, and they always warn me. And I have FOUR kids.

You're being unreasonable. Maybe you're tired, but you sound like a right misery. Sorry.

inneedofsomehelpplz · 14/07/2013 21:04

yabvu & if you cant cope with the "renters" having one party & making noise at 8pm, may i kindly suggest you buy a house in the middle of nowhere..... how rude & i certainly wouldnt warn the whole street of a one off party. :-\

cardibach · 14/07/2013 21:21

One night does not an inconsiderate neighbour make. You need to get over it. As someone said, having children does not trump everyone else's wishes. And I think early morning mowing would be ridiculous - apart from anything else, what about the neighbours who weren't at the party and need to catch up on sleep?

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