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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think it would have been polite to let us know?

115 replies

HugAMoo · 13/07/2013 19:51

Am prepared to be told I'm being a miserable cow but here goes..

Neighbours who rent the house two doors down, generally quiet but know them to say hello to, are having a huge party. When I say huge, I mean the works..music, loads of guests, squealing, water fights, obviously lots of drink involved, giddiness etc. Think it's a big birthday too, they've gone to town on the decor.

It's generally a naice area and quiet. Baby sleeps at the back of the house and is still awake with the noise.

AIBU to think they could have let us know or hired the nearest hall for party this size?

OP posts:
poocatcherchampion · 14/07/2013 21:26

thing is I know I would hate it if my neighbours did this but I would also know that it was a one off and to be a grumpy arse about it was unreasonable.

ProperStumped · 14/07/2013 21:29

Exactly poo - I hate it too, but it's one of those things you should KNOW YABU about.

ApocalypseThen · 14/07/2013 21:31

Also, there are lots of ways neighbours can make life unpleasant. Faulty alarms going off at all hours. Dogs barking through the night. People mowing before 10am on a Saturday. One party is not so bad.

SirChenjin · 14/07/2013 21:40

YANBU at all. 4am for a fucking party and you're supposed to 'suck it up' or whatever?? Bollocks to that. I'm willing to bet money on it not being a 'one off' - most people who move into a nice neighbourhood want to keep it that way, and don't throw a party that involves water pistols and noise until 4am without making sure that the neighbours in the vicinity know about it in advance, esp. when they've not long moved into the street. Selfish twats.

cardibach · 14/07/2013 22:15

SirChenjin the OP says herself they are 'generally quiet'! Not sure how having one party stops it being a nice neighbourhood either, actually. I'm really glad my neighbours are more relaxed then you or the OP!

cardibach · 14/07/2013 22:16

Also, where in the OP does it say they haven't long been there? Have I missed that? I can only see that they rent, not how long they have rented for.

Whothefuckfarted · 14/07/2013 22:31

cardi I was just giving a bit of background, they haven't been in too long and I believe they are not intending to stay. However, I do think that this fact would make them less inclined to want to please their neighbours if they're not planning to stick around.

On page 2, after one of my comments.

I think Sir and OP are guilty of a bit of snobbery IMO.

Original poster
HugAMoo · 14/07/2013 22:42

farted, if you are quoting me, kindly quote my comments addressing the renting issue. No snobbery there whatsoever.

I think you, however, are extremely snobbish towards those who merely expect at least a couple of hours sleep in their own home.

OP posts:
ShellyBoobs · 14/07/2013 22:54

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes!
OP: No I'm not!

schobe · 14/07/2013 23:01

Just to add another voice to the camp that says NO you don't get to keep the whole neighbourhood up until 4am.

Go to a fucking nightclub.

I'd have called the police after midnight/1am ish. I genuinely don't understand why this is ok, even if it is one night in 365 (which it probably won't be).

I will probably be corrected here, but ime the police will call round and ask them to turn the music off when it's antisocial hours.

VelvetSpoon · 14/07/2013 23:03

I was at a friends house last night in a v nice area.

Her neighbours (3 doors along) were having a huge 50th birthday party - music (complete with proper DJ), marquee, fireworks at midnight.

We were sat out in the garden til late, left at 2 and the party was still going although the music had been turned down a bit.

It was loud, but it was a one off, hence my friend wasnt too bothered. I do think YABU to be put out by this, it's not like it's a weekly occurrence.

Original poster
HugAMoo · 14/07/2013 23:08

Shelly: not read the whole thread!

OP posts:
RubyGoat · 14/07/2013 23:14

Op. YANBU. My neighbours across the street had a party with very loud music etc in their garden a couple of weeks ago, until 3am. The council have taken a noise complaint from me & are going to warn them - apparently the police came several times & the music kept getting turned back up after the police left. My toddler was a nightmare the entire weekend as she couldn't sleep that night. I sympathise.

Whothefuckfarted · 14/07/2013 23:18

shellyboobs

OP: AIBU?
MN: Yes!
OP: No I'm not!

Grin Grin Grin

The overwhelming majority have said YABU.

pigsDOfly · 15/07/2013 00:07

Don't know where you live Lego, but when I rang the police about my NDNs regularly playing loud music from 4am until 7 or 8 (after coming home from their evenings out) I was told that the police don't come out for that sort of thing and I should phone the council. Thankfully they have moved out now the uni term has ended.

Someone else had a loud party down the road this weekend that started at about 7 Friday on evening and was still going on when I went to bed at 12.30 Saturday night. Fortunately for me, because of the position of the houses, this one didn't affect me greatly, but I'm sure others were not so fortunate.

Strongly suspect that won't be a one off.

Wibblypiglikesbananas · 15/07/2013 01:05

Gosh, I'm surprised at the number of posters here who think this behaviour is reasonable! Earlier on in the evening, annoying perhaps, but fair enough. However, any time after 11pm becomes a statutory noise nuisance. You should report them to Environmental Health, OP, and log every single incident. It is horrendous knowing that you don't have much time in which to sleep when you have a small child, and so every moment is precious.

I say this as the owner of a property who was plagued by a noisy, inconsiderate neighbour. Incidentally, he rented (his landlord wasn't meant to according to the terms of the lease of the flat) and did not give a shit about the rest of the owners in the block. Loud noise, music and arguments at all times of day and night, stealing milk of all things from outside people's flat doors, extremely aggressive when challenged - it was horrendous. Roll on six months and the freehold evicted him as so many complaints had been made, both to them and to environmental health.

And you know what? The first time he kept everyone up all night, we all tried to minimise things, rationalise things, and said - 'Oh, hopefully, it's a one off' - well, it wasn't and IME, people who are prepared to behave like this once, will do so again.

McGeeDiNozzo · 15/07/2013 06:48

YANBU to be pissed off but don't pick them up on it, as you will become known as the miserable hag what lives upstairs. As others have said, it is 8pm on a Saturday. There are worse neighbours out there than these ones.

CancellingTheApocalypse · 15/07/2013 06:58

I can add my YANBU to this thread too. It would have nice to warn you (and STFU before 4am FGS).

ExcuseTypos · 15/07/2013 07:32

YANBU

They are rude and inconsiderate

1.not to tell you ( where are people's manners now a days?)
2.to go on being very loud after 11 pm.

I'm very surprised at the number of people on this thread who thinks its ok to keep your neighbours awake until 4 am. It isn't ok and as wibbley said after 11pm, noise disruption is a serious matter.

Imaging living on a road where every neighbour took it turns to have a party which finished after 4. None of you would mind, despite each one being a 'one off'? Of course you'd mind.

Op look up your options on your council website. There will be a dedicated noise abatement department. They will have advice as to what to do if your neighbours decide to be inconsiderate and rude again.

Pawprint · 15/07/2013 07:45

I sympathise - noisy neighbours are a misery. During my Finals at uni, I was kept awake regularly by downstairs neighbours watching TV really loudly. For some reason, they had their TV on a stepladder and it was just a foot or so away from my head.

More recently, I've had two sets of neighbours playing loud music late at night.

I would definitely complain if it happens again.

JRmumma · 15/07/2013 09:13

I think there is a huge difference between inconsiderate noisy neighbours and neighbours who have one party.

If they haven't been there long, how on earth can you know whether they intend to stay or not? And even if they are gone in 6 months, doesn't mean they plan to have parties every week between now and then on the back of one night.

I think it would be a waste of police time to call them for this too.

ExcuseTypos · 15/07/2013 09:52

You don't call the police JR, it's not their responsibility.

It's the councils responsibility to deal with noisy nuisance neighbours.

JRmumma · 15/07/2013 09:58

Still a bit OTT after 1 party!

ExcuseTypos · 15/07/2013 17:24

Not if the party is still loud at 4am.

I'd have called the council at about 2.30, its inconsiderate and rude to be making a lot of noise at that time of night. Some people have to get up and work on a weekend. The council probably wouldn't do anything for a 'first offence' but at least it would be logged.

tallulah · 15/07/2013 18:07

I'm also Shock at the number of people who think this is OK. Explains a lot.

We used to live on an estate where people had parties. We were crammed together as the gardens were very small and every neighbour had at least one party during the summer. That meant there wasn't one weekend when we could actually get some sleep.

It isn't fair and it's about time it was taken more seriously by environmental health. Unless your nearest neighbour is miles away then you've got no business making a noise after 11pm. (and it's nothing to do with whether you have children or not. My children could sleep through anything, but I can't.)