to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

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Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

I don't mind the boasting or the photo's of cushions and decking.

I quite like to be nosy at other people's stuff.

Yes there is a lot of bragging that goes on fb but I don't think saying thank you counts as showing off! My friends often text me after a meal or whatever even though they've already thanked me when they left so I suppose some people use fb rather than a text now. And tagging the people involved just makes sure that they see the message.

If I got a thank you on fb I'd find it a nice gesture. Perhaps you should leave fb if it irritates you this easily!

The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up. Yes is you're about 14

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Sorry this sounds like jealousy/insecurity on your part.

My friends live in an amazing 6 bed house with an outdoor pool the size of a hotel one (nearly), they also have a pool table and games room etc.

We are invited sometimes but if we are not I would never think oh look at them with their fancy pool and expensive house if they post photos, they are my friends and as much as I would like what they have got I am happy and secure with my lot!

OP just defriend them as you obviously dislike them, so why would you want them as "friends".

YANBU in my book but I'm the norm because I can't stand Facebook - really don't get the point of it at all unless you happen to have family/loads of friends overseas. I'm really not insecure, I do lots of lovely things, have nice-looking kids and take great holidays but it wouldn't enter my head to put any of it on a public forum - what for? I honestly don't get it - and when I have looked at FB it does come over as showing off (but realise it's just me!)

I'm not the norm I mean!

YANBU

80s mum has it bang on!

oh dear, I do this to actually say thank you on the odd occasion we go out. I could PM them if it offends!

I think this type of post is done publicly because it involves a social activity. ie other people. If you think this is some form of boasting, perhaps you need to develop more of a social life yourself instead of sitting on the fringes, criticising.

YANBU. Agree with 80s mum! You've thanked them face to face, so why the need to ensure you also thank them in front of an audience?

We did all used to laugh at Christmas round robins, didn't we?

I occasionally post a thank you on fb, mostly to prove that I do actually get out of the house once in a blue moon, and I am not actually a sad little loner without any sort of social life. Which I am really, as the social events I post about happen about twice a year, if that!

I went to a lovely barbecue on Sunday. There were about 20 of us there, some on facebook, some not.

Dh and I sent a thank you card in the post! Can you believe it?

If we'd said "thank you" on facebook it would have been meaningless to 95% of my friends.

See, obvs I know how to use fb properly and the rest of you don't .

We did all used to laugh at Christmas round robins, didn't we?

Some still do They're nothing but a boast-fest, usually!

It is not up to your friends to censor their page because you don't like their posts.

Hide or de-friend.

My point about round robins is that social mores have changed. If twenty years ago, you'd sent a letter to all you friends and relatives to say "and then we went for a lovely meal with Bob and Janet (thanks Bob and Janet)" we almost certainly would have found it odd.

I love that, it is almost like an endless, constant round robin, Facebook is.

I sometimes do a status update tagging several people who were there if it was a big group - saves sending 15 text messages saying "Was great to catch up". I sent one the other night to have a laugh at myself for dropping my phone (smashing the glass) on the way home and to share some pictures of the night. It got lots of likes though, granted there is no "I am highly irritated by this status update" button either.

But then I also don't get out much, so I feel like advertising when I do. I am out. On a Saturday night. With no kids. Woo hoo!

The whole point of Facebook is to show off.

I don't think it's showing off necessarily, (though it can be) it's more like "my news". Broadcasting yourself. Discovering your inner journalist. Much more akin to a round robin (though a steady stream of updates, not a summary of the year) or the bit on PM where they read out people's personal news. I find mundane 'news' about individuals I know in general often more interesting than the local or national broadcast news.

I also think the purpose of Facebook is indulging noseyness. I find it fascinating what you can find out on there.

In the words of TOWIE, OP, you are well jel.

To be annoyed by this is not cool, basically marks you out as bitter and sad. Be happy your friends are having fun surely?

Why broadcast your life though?