to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

[fridgealwaysfull]

Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

[mercury7]

they dont talk to each other because they feel the need to advertise how 'loved up' they are
clearly the type of people who do this are people who dont see over sharing as 'common'

[NewAtThisMalarky]

I really don't get what is braggy about it.

I could kind of understand it if it was the host making a big deal of it in a 'how awesome am I, putting on this fabulous meal' way.

But 'arent I great, I ate food that someone else cooked ' doesn't really sound like bragging. Unless the food was in a very expensive restaurant.

[fridgealwaysfull]

The John Lewis cushions, yes, I lost it a bit there! Not only do I have to read about what a wonderful night it was and how gorgeous everyone looked, but I also have to look pictures of the decking with cushions and candles beautifully lit. Obviously not done for the benefit of the guests but for the benefit of the fb public at large. Not convinced I'm BU, I've decided IANBU, but thanks for your input :)

[LadyBeagleEyes]

Exactly Malarkey, very odd.
I think the Op thinks it's bragging to go to someones for dinner and wanted to tell the hosts and other friends what a lovely night she had.
I think that's lovely and appreciative, not bragging.
It must have been the John Lewis cushions...

[carlajean]

I recently defriended a local friend who posted thanking 'all her lovely friends'for coming to her party, with lots of photos, including the seating plan. i just think you don't do that if there are local 'friends' on fb that you don't invite. so yanbu IMO

[SoupDragon]

If this kind of thing bothers you, I think it probably means you have too many Facebook "friends"

[Pagwatch]

I don't have any cushions from John Lewis. It's very sad.

[SoupDragon]

It's bragging.

Of course it isn't.

"Had another lovely meal with friends because I'm SO popular" is bragging.
"Hey, unpopular minions, look how much fun I'm having!" is bragging.
"I get invited out because I'm more popular than you" is bragging

[DoJo]

Genuine non-goady question OP - what sorts of status do you want to see?

[Thurlow]

Love FB. Can't talk about your DCs because that's sickly. Can't talk about anything bad that's happening because that's miserable and/or oversharing. Can't talk about a nice night out you had because that's bragging...

Agree with DoJo - what do you want to see on FB, if you are on it?

[AmyFarrahFowlerCooper]

I think the difference between statuses that annoy me are as follows:

Annoying: thank you had an amazing night at yours! Must do it again sometime!
Nice: Had an amazing time at 's. Looking forward to doing it again sometime!

Annoying: love my hubby wubby so much love you baby
Nice: love my hubby wubby so much

Annoying: love you so much little man! I'm so lucky to have you in my life! You complete me!
Nice: love my little man so much! So lucky to have him in my life! He completes me!

Sounds petty but the ones that annoy me are the ones that are directed at a person because its something you would say directly to them rather than everyone on your Facebook. Saying it about them is something you would do to everyone. Yes, I overthink this

[RonaldMcDonald]

Facebook is evil, everyone knows that

[kukeslala]

"lovely bbqs on your decking filled with John Lewis cushions"

This snippy comment doesn't paint you in a very nice light, you come across as jealous and bitter.

[maddening]

Yabu - fb is what you make of it - some like to use it to promote business, some for socialising, some to get sex, some to keep in touch with relatives, some to spread political messages, some for music etc - if you don't like the way your friends use it then hide their news feeds.

[MintyChops]

As long as they don't post a photo of the food followed by "nom nom nom" I won't need to punch them....

[Pagwatch]

My fb rules are -
No pictures of food unless it is shaped into a humorous thing. Penis shaped courgettes are fine. Pictures of supper - no.
No conversations between people who are probably siting on the same sofa. Wtf is that about.
No mawkish 'like if you hate kittens being stamped on' shite

I'll think of more. I will.

[garlicsmutty]

Oh, FFS!!! YAB tremendously U.

Imagine this scene. You are in the pub garden, with a bunch of your friends and DC.
Friend 1: "Those cushions on your deck are lovely, where did you get them?"
Friend 2: "John Lewis. I was lucky, they were in the sale."
You: "Oh, have you been to F2's house then?"
Friend 1: "Yeah, they had a barbecue. Great grilled fish, by the way, F2!"
You: "You horrible, stinky, consumerist show-offs! Don't talk about a lunch I didn't attend! You think you're so superior! "
Friends: " "

[BackforGood]

YABU, and I'm not sure if you are just a bitter person or if you are a very insecure person, but why would it in any way bother you to see someone (who is presumably your friend if you have them on FB) enjoying themselves ?

[aldiwhore]

I am destined to go to hell, I just took some photos of us in our paddling pool purely to post on FB. I also tidied up first, took down the washing, and put the cushions back on the garden chairs.

I am doomed and braggy and selfish.

I also live 300 miles from my family, 280 miles in the other direction from my sister, my husband is away, and my friends, the ones that actually would chuckle at photos of my lilo and floating babyseat that is now a PIMMS holder really really would not be offended.

Some local friends posted a picture of their BBQ last night, I wasn't invited, why should I ben invited to everything? They weren't bragging, and my comment wasn't "You fuckin cah with your fucking cushions, you're a bragging bitch why wasn't I invited?" It was simply "Looks like a good night, sore heads"? I even used a SMILEY!!!

I am positively doomed.

[icklemssunshine1]

Said this more than once but I'll say it again. Obviously these people aren't really true friends if they're annoying you. How many "friends" do you have? 300? I only have friends who I like and therefore enjoy reading and sharing in their experiences.

If it bothers you unfriend/hide people or just get off FB!

[pussycatwillum]

Oh dear I sometimes post things like 'Lovely lunch today at the Cock and Ferret with Jocelyn and Frances' I just do it because I want them to know I enjoyed seeing them. Won't do it again then.

[headinhands]

I read an article about this sort of thing a while ago. A study looked at how people felt after using FB and the researchers were surprised by how many people experienced a sort of mini depression after looking at their news feed.

[WorraLiberty]

Oh thanks for clearing that up OP

You have to read it. I didn't realise it was enforceable under the law.

Thinking of you at this distressing time

[AmyFarrahFowlerCooper]

That's interesting head, I certainly get depressed after reading my newsfeed! Fuck it, I'm taking another Facebook break. Might do me some good.

[aldiwhore]

I mostly belly laugh after reading my newsfeed, obviously I am bragging now, I'm rather smug when it comes to my friend choosing hiding skills.