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Original poster

to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

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fridgealwaysfull · 13/07/2013 12:27

Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

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PearlyWhites · 13/07/2013 12:28

Yabu and a little paranoid

MrsTerryPratchett · 13/07/2013 12:31

I find in life that it is always better to assume good motives for people's behaviour, rather than bad.

Possible explanations for thanking on FB:

They forgot at the time
They use FB differently to you and think it's just like messaging
They wanted to thank them publicly because it's nice
They had a great time and wanted to thank again
They are bastards who hate everyone and want to show off

Which one sounds like something I would think about "friends"?

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 12:34

Life mustve been so much easier before facebook OP stop being jealous and stop getting upset about nothing these people can use and say whatever they want on their facebook, If you are so insecure about other people maybe you shouldnt have facebook,

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WorraLiberty · 13/07/2013 12:36

My god, it wouldn't ever cross my mind to get annoyed about that.

VitoCorleone · 13/07/2013 12:36

YANBU

cheerfulweather · 13/07/2013 12:36

You mean posting publicly on the person's wall? I don't get that. Why not send a PM or an email? Why the public conversation?

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 12:37

Why the public conversation?

why not ?

cheerfulweather · 13/07/2013 12:37

I don't know about any other ulterior motives. Just don't know why the thank you would have to be public.

Dillydollydaydream · 13/07/2013 12:39

Ah, but did they also take a picture of said meal and post it on FB?

stargirl1701 · 13/07/2013 12:39

YABU. That's the point of Facebook.

AKissIsNotAContract · 13/07/2013 12:40

What is acceptable to put on FB then? In the past few days we've had complaints about holiday photos, school reports, any kind of parenting advice that differs from someone else's. What passes the MN challenge of acceptable FB posts?

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 12:41

with some of the people i haveon facebook some have no children so they are off on a random weekend somewher another lives abroad and has drinks by the pool most days, another has just gone on her first childfree holiday with a balcony a jacuzzi pool should I have envy building up because they have a nicer time than I do

ImNotBloody14 · 13/07/2013 12:42

We should all have every conversation in private. Anything else is excessive and braggy Wink

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 12:42

Akiss there is a thread running in chat about what is acceptable on fb Wink

quoteunquote · 13/07/2013 12:45

Invite them for dinner, and enjoy being thanked.

KirjavaTheCat · 13/07/2013 12:47

The only time I find it annoying is when the message is punctuated by phrases such as 'cheeky lil cocktail Wink' or 'having a sexy lil bbq with ma bestie X Wink'.

Because it's painful to read.

It is odd though that they're updating these statuses while in the throes of the wonderful time they're having. If it's so wonderful in the garden with the sun shining and your sexy lil bbq, why are you on your phone? Hmm

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fridgealwaysfull · 13/07/2013 12:47

It's bragging. Holiday pics etc I don't mind, but thanking someone for a meal and tagging the 4 people that were there is excessive. Yes, we know you are popluar and get invited to lovely bbqs on your decking filled with John Lewis cushions, but keep it to yourselves, no need to tell everyone. I'm not insecure, I think they are!

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KirjavaTheCat · 13/07/2013 12:48

Painful in the eyeroll sense, not the forever alone sense, btw.

theorchardkeeper · 13/07/2013 12:50

What? Confused

It's a social network! If you don't like it, hide it. Was given a very nice surprise present by DP a few days ago that I posted on FB, despite having already said thank you to him as it seemed like a nice thing to do for him and I wanted him to know how chuffed I was with it. I didn't actually once think about it possibly being bragging or show offy!

I'm also a skint single parent so I don't think John Lewis cushions come into it at all. This is your problem, clearly Hmm

theorchardkeeper · 13/07/2013 12:51

(I'm aware some people just think it's annoying but I only have close friends and family on my FB so it was sort of relevant in that sense. And again, if someone doesn't like it they can easily hide the story on their news feed. Problem sorted).

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 12:55

so if you are not insecure and see them as bragging then hide them why are they your friends are you normally so easily annoyed and what has JL cushions got to do with anything,

fwiw I have never been in a John Lewis in my life so have no idea what the JL reference is about

TidyDancer · 13/07/2013 12:58

Why does this bother you?! Just bloody hide the posts or delete people if you don't like reading it!

Me thinks a touch of the green eyed monster is in play here.

mrsjay · 13/07/2013 13:00

Yeah Envy is at play here you are just peed off they didnt invite you

Mintyy · 13/07/2013 13:01

Of course it is bragging! Yanbu to find it annoying. Some people love to boast on facebook, I don't know why there is such strong denial about this. I really dislike showoffy people, its why I have such a problem with one or two posters on Mn!