school report bragging on facebook

[emanjay]

AIBU? Can't stand this. My friend has written "*'s report was brilliant! Bet he keeps it up next year "

Our school reports mark for effort and they do say they need to work harder/I prove in such Adm such ams they have been honest about behavior issues. In our 5 ds2 had referrals to camhs and we worked really hard with the school to improve his behavior etc. That wa reflected I'm his report this term. A comment on fb along the lines of 'proud mummy moment fabulous reports for the boys' and a wry comment on how they save their beastly behavior for me is IMO fine, not massively 'braggy' and my friends and family appreciate it.

My DD2's nursery report says that she is well liked and makes friends easily but can take charge of the game and exclude others, is that not negative? I'm not saying its not true and it shouldn't have been in there but surely they should have mentioned it at parents evening if they wanted to include it in the report. My older daughters report had loads of gradings that meant nothing to me

thepowerof3 maybe your DD2s report is very positive compared to what they really want to say?

I love the teacher speak. I think it's a real skill to be that diplomatic.

Xxxx is always a willing participant in class discussions = Xxxx will not shut up.

Xxxx likes to take the lead in group activities = Xxxx is bossy.

Xxxx has a natural exuberance = Xxxx won't sit still.

Brilliant!!

Nah don't think so Xylem, at her parents evening her teacher said if she had a whole class of kids like her she'd be happy, so that doesn't add up

Ha ha yes, ds4 in receptioin had a comment about how lively he is and his great imagination...that means he doesn't sit still and tells enormous porky tales, I know ds4!

I've had my first experience of this today!! My dd got an excellent first ever report but I don't really feel the need to write about it on fb. It's not good to get too complacent. X

X. Have no idea where that x came from. Bleugh.

ThePOwerOf did you work out the gradings? It's easy to look them up online.

Thanks Neo, I'll have a look

I agree about the FB bragging thing. I used to be on there but had to come off because it made me feel inadequate! I was quite happy with my life but felt that if I wasn't posting pics and "checking-in" somewhere great every day, then I must be really boring. Maybe I am..... The only people who are really interested in whether your child does well at school are parents and family.If a friend asks then fine, tell them but bragging is a different thing altogether. Is pride not enough to just be felt and expressed to your child? It is for us.

Nobody likes a boaster.

I don't brag on fb and to me it seems the mums who do are the ones with dc not doing as well as implied.

In the playground I've come across the reading level brag (a very easy comparison I guess). The mum was impressing others with her dc's level then turned to me and said princess your dd is bright isn't she? What level is she?... I replied a vague "I'm not sure" - of course I know but she was 2 levels above the woman's dc and is none of her business. Not sure the comment was terrible on fb though - scanning report would be too much imo

My friend did a brilliant spoof one about how awful her child had been. I could have written it for real about ds2 though

Seriously, I detest fb bragging. Naff and cringey in the main. I also know the main offenders on my fb friends list have some major issues behind the scenes, so I do tend to take bragging with a large pinch of salt.

I used to find it annoying but what you have to remember OP is that this kind of boasting is generally masking deep insecurities - ie it is done by people who know that deep down their child is a bit if a thicky, slow etc. so you should pity them really. YABU.

I have someone who does a sort of odd dismissive brag ie "x is excellent at such and such" of course he is now tell me something I don't know! She posts complaints on fb simply to show off. That I find annoying but I will admit that later this month I will be posting how my dc have done but its gcse and A lvl results and easiest way to let friends and family know.

I don't mind other people doing it at all. It sometimes comes across as a little attention-seeking but I find other peoples pleasures pleasing, and their standards for their children fascinating, and quite telling.

I don't do it myself, because it is a bit naff, and tricky to do in a way that won't irritate people who are less obsessed than me with my own children (and lets face it, only a parent or grandparent REALLY cares about this stuff). When I post eg a picture of DCs after a successful karate grading/ ballet exam/ whatever, I limit the people that will see it (IE so the doting grandparents see it but not acquaintances and colleagues).

I've seen far worse boasting about reports. That's pretty tame.

I couldnt agree more.
These are my pet hates:

I am so proud of my little and his outstanding school report! Seen too many of these. Im proud of my sons but I dont want to brag/bore you with

Sports day bragging - double yawn

First day at school pictures - yawn

Conversations that are supposed to be cute, 'Esme said tonight mum I love poo!' grrr its only interesting to you

Kids at a festival - arent we cool

People announcing their babys birth - she is the most gorgeous, beautiful baby and we are in love with her. yes ok you have had a baby who looks like a baby

Lots of baby photos, baby bump photos and scans, move onto a family private photo sharing app

Ive run 1.5 mils in 5 seconds in my Nikes - bog off

Mid life parents in sports gear running marathons etc

Peoples cats

Empty nesters replacement babies - puppy then dog pictures

First time parents asking for advice on whether to get immunisations...

Its snowing photos with kids making snowmen, kids who have lost a tooth photos

The list goes on.

So is it ok for me to post that I got the equivalent of a First in my last Uni assignment and the one before, just in case someone thinks im bragging! I am a very mature student going through loads of shit over the last year and I am very very proud of my achievements. And I can't post about my eldest daughter who has completed her first year of a foundation degree despite everyone not thinking that she was capable of it?

If you don't like what people are writing, unsubscribe from their feed!! I have done that with several friends. I don't want to not be friends with them but don't want to read the minute details of their lives.

1 friend shared a picture of their child's first poo in a potty yesterday, and another friend went through a stage of taking before and after photos of feeding her baby and a 3rd friend decided to post weekly pictures of her bump then once baby was born he posted a picture of every new outfit baby wore, which when baby was new born was often more than one outfit a day... after that I'm quite happy to see school reports/sports day posts, at least they aren't every day.

xxxxmrsxxxx Well done in your uni work and well done to your daughter.

The only people who care if your kids are clever are the parents and possibly the grandparents. No-one else gives a shit. I do like funny updates about my friends' kids though, stuff they've said or done if it's recounted in a witty way. I like most details about people's lives apart from outright bragging or how far they just ran.

Blimey. I like reading my friends fb updates about their children, their holidays, new cars whatever! That's what it's for surely? I live on the other side of the world from most of my friends and family so hearing the minutiae of their lives helps me stay connected with them, and I think fb is utterly bloody marvellous because of that. As they say in Ireland, Fuck the begrudgers!

So anyone on my fb can post away to their hearts content, I love it except my SILs angel gubbins.