school report bragging on facebook

[emanjay]

AIBU? Can't stand this. My friend has written "*'s report was brilliant! Bet he keeps it up next year "

Recovery from illness and a new baby are much more newsworthy than a good report IMO. Unless the report is celebrating hard-work in trying circumstances such as "TSSDNCOP's".

Why is imparting information bragging? I just don't get it.

Imparting information about how great you or your family are when there's no need to share that information is bragging. That's what bragging means.

People really should keep off FB- it causes so much angst!

Who, apart from me, DH and their teacher, cares?

Well I care about how all my FB friends, and their familes are doing. Perhaps thats because I only have people as friends on facebook who I like enough to want to know about the little things in life which make them happy

I am not a member of FB.
But I would like to be - if only so I could do a spoof.
Am thinking:

1. My constipation finally cleared (photo)

It the phrasing that annoys me.

"OMG as if I could't get any prouder of my Ikle Boo!Great school report- Well done son!!!!!!Keep up the good work. I'm the proudest mummy on the planet. Watch out Oxford, here we come!"

Is far more annoying than:

"Very proud of X. I'm so glad his and his teachers hard work is paying off."

differentiating between hard work and effort put in by NT children and that put in by children with SN is incredibly patronising.

I expect both my children to try their best, and work as hard as they are able. I am proud of every achievement that each of them makes, whether that be academic, sporting, musical or social. Their achievements are varied, but each one is hard won for them

why on earth should it be ok to brag about my eldest's fabulous report, and celebrate the fact that she is moving onto NC level 1 (she is in year 4), but not equally be able to vcelebrate the fact that her sister is doing equally well, for her?

discrimination is not acceptable in any form.

I don't post about my dcs achievements on Facebook. It's too public. The people who need to know get an email or phone call. I tell my dc I'm proud of them as do their close family. How does a Facebook post make them feel more proud of themselves?

Not many people limit their fb to that though.

perhaps if they are going to get so worked up about perfectly innocent posts then they should!

'DC is doing well at school/DC has had a good year at school' is all that's required unless there has been some difficulty that's been resolved.

Aren't school reports meant to be private for the parents/child? I really, really couldn't care less about any of my friend's children's reports, that's their private business.

I don't normally read the FB threads but my friend has just done exactly this, and I'm a bit surprised by it to be honest! Granted, her DS is older than my toddler, but I just didn't know people put this kind of thing out there (must be out of date, me!) - especially since she generally uses FB as a way of marketing her business rather than as a family/friends thing.

I think it was the phraseology that got me - 'Well done XXX on achieving level X in all your SATs. Her DS doesn't have a FB account, so why address it to him?! Do her clients care about his progress?!

Until reading this thread, I think I would have classed it as bragging. Seems it's the norm in a lot of areas though so I stand corrected!

It is worse imo to get worked up about people who are obviously just proud of their children and want to express it, even if it isn't what you would do, than to put it on fb in the first place. I think it says more about the person doing the complaining. Just makes you sound nasty and petty.

Why do you think it's worse MadCap?

I don't see the point of posting that I am proud of my DC's reports as they are too young for FB. Instead I just tell them to their faces...

It does seem to be very difficult to get a bad report. Even when DS2 was being a bit of a mischief in school his report was very positive about how his behaviour was improving.

One of the mums in DD's class decided that she must be "struggling" as I won't swop details of her NC levels etc. Quite frankly I don't think it is any of her business. DD is far from struggling, but why should it matter to anyone else?

All FB school report boasters should be aware that they are no longer worth the paper they are written on. What sane teacher wants the hassle from SMT and the parents of being in any way critical.

YANBU!

It is naff in the extreme.
Have some decorum, people.

You are bragging.

I don't use Facebook but I thought this is pretty much what it's for. Why is it a bad thing to post that you're proud of your child . I can understand that scanning the report is OTT, but why wouldn't you share good news with your friends and family?

I am always baffled at how people think that other people are interested in their children. Generally speaking, people do not give a damn about the achievements or progress of your children, other than immediate family and very close friends.

I recognise this and act accordingly. My DH and I revel in our childrens' achievements. We talk endlessly of them and delight in discussing how utterly amazing,phenomenal and downright magnificent they are.

To the outside world however, we rarely mention and are reserved in what we say.