school report bragging on facebook

[emanjay]

AIBU? Can't stand this. My friend has written "*'s report was brilliant! Bet he keeps it up next year "

Because It makes you sound like a misery hound that is only interested if it is something bad happens to someone else. I'm genuinely happy for my friend if her dd won her swimming race or got a new car she's been saving for for awhile even if I haven't seen her for a few years. It doesn't affect me negatively in the slightest. To me, if you are bothered by other people celebrating whatever small thing makes them happy, it is you that has the problem. It is just so petty.

I'm genuinely happy for anyone who posts on here about getting their degree! I'm happy for TSSDNCOP that her DS got a good report. Happiness isn't rationed.

I am totally baffled as to why people would not be interested in or happy about news and events that are important to their (genuine) friends.

I am as pleased for my friend who just had a baby (not seen friend for a good 4 years) as I am for my friend whose daughter just started walking, as I am for my brother who just got the job he wanted, and my aunt who has just paid off her holiday of a lifetime. All stuff which makes the world go round, and its nice to be involved in people's everyday lives, that's why we want to keep in touch.

I can't believe the small minded pettiness of posters who think a sport or musical achievement is 'better' to post about than an all round report. Or that being proud of a child with SN is ok, but being proud of a child without additional needs is not.

Achievement is achievement, whoever and whatever it is.

I enjoy reading about comical and cute things my friends dc do. I post similar things about mine, hopefully just frequently enough.

but it felt a bit vulgar to say "My children are fucking perfect you losers!".

I don't see the point of posting that I am proud of my DC's reports as they are too young for FB. Instead I just tell them to their faces....

I just tell them to their faces too! Even though two of my DC are old enough for Facebook.

Yes and no. I have two friends with DCs in DS's class who every year put the most gushing FB statuses up on report day (tomorrow here). It hurts a lttle because DS really struggles in school, But they are lovely people who are rightly proud of their lovely DCs and why not.

I told my dd ( both of them!) to their faces how pleased and proud I was. I also shared the news.

We celebrated as a family (lunch out) and I shared photos of that too. Clearly I am unspeakably naff and uncouth for wanting friends to be up to speed on our family news and events.

i am happy to read that my friends dcs are doing well at school

this is because i only have people on FB that i like.

It is worse imo to get worked up about people who are obviously just proud of their children and want to express it, even if it isn't what you would do, than to put it on fb in the first place. I think it says more about the person doing the complaining. Just makes you sound nasty and petty.

I agree.

We have friends who relentlessly post 'what a fabulous/clever/amazing family/parents' we are on FB. Knowing them well, as I do, I know that she's depressed and he's utterly unsupportive. So while their posts make me feel vomity, I know the truth of their grim marriage.

So their school report posts I feel able to take with a pinch of salt.

They never, ever ask how my family are doing. Or know that I feel proud of the fact that DS2 is managing school at all... .

everlong

I'm interested in my friend's achievements. That's what being a friend is.

I think it makes you pretty small and petty minded to actually think people are bragging because they're proud of their children.

chocluvva - as a matter of interest, what would you class as "brilliant"?!

What can people put on fb without objection fgs?
I fail to see why some individuals bother to go on fb as they seem to moan about everything from good to bad zzz

I have started a thread on chat, pumpkinsweetie- so far not anything really- apart from windscreen wipers!
Inspirational sayings are also out- as are pictures of cats.

So, it's ok if people "brag" by phone/text/email

Aaaah so if I text someone "my child is an utter genius, aren't they wonderful, far better than yours" its ok.

Clear as mud.

I wouldn't have thought someone posting "i'm so proud of my little girl for her wonderful report" could possibly induce SUCH small-mindedness but what can you do.

All about your issues and none about mine.

I'm bored with the minutiae of my own life, never mind everyone else's.

righto, bragging via text/email is ok.

bragging via an infinitely quicker and easier medium, ensuring all the right people (and no one else!) gets the message, and the ability to converse as a group if desired, is Not On.

Are there any other rules in this invisible rulebook? (Clearly most people ignore the first and most important one - only have actual proper friends on your friends list )

I would he happy to mention DS2s wonderful distinctly average report, we just received, on FB as i am hugely proud of him but feel I couldn't mention DS1s exceptional one and that fact he has just been awarded an academic scholarship for juniors in fear of upsetting soneone or getting nasty comments like on here!

Oh, MrsMelons, that is sad.

It really annoys me (other people, not you!) that to mention average is ok, but to mention brilliance/top of the class/academic excellence is frowned upon.

Well done both your ds'!

I love reading child-related "bragging" on FB. I love reading about the achievements of my friends' children and seeing the pleasure my friends take in it (and I'm quite nosy. so shoot me).
I don't share my own kids' achievements as there is a real tall poppy syndrome in this country - as clearly demonstrated by this thread. A lot of people have a big problem with others' success and achievements and like to cut them down. I don't want to rub people up the wrong way so I don't do it. But I like it when others do; good for them.

I am clearly a bit of a cow because I like a good laugh at people who seem to think I've never met their child and no nothing about them. How they think such rubbish is plausible is beyond me. Must have been their identical twin that was at my daughter's sleepover, then!

MrsMelons that is really, really sad. You SHOULD be able to celebrate both your children's fantastic achievements.

Firesideskirt - you're so, so right. I have only recently had the epiphany that it is ok to celebrate her wonderful achievements because she's brilliant - and I shouldn't have to have an apologist attitude over that so not to make it seem like I'm bragging. Because I sure as hell don't want her wanting that message