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To buy my partner socks?

118 replies

BabyClam · 09/07/2013 17:19

We have been together 11 years and have a five month old DS.

Since starting maternity leave I have taken over all the family finances, house stuff (decorating etc) and shopping. We have our own money for clothes and discretionary spending.

I just bought him socks because I saw them in the sale. I wouldn't object to being bought socks myself, I think it's thoughtful, it's not a gift or anything.

He says he doesn't want me to think of socks when I think of him. Socks are what nans buy you at Christmas, apparently.

So AIBU or is he?

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MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 09/07/2013 17:21

I've bought my DP many socks over the years.

I don't think of socks when I think of him.

He was just pleased to have socks.

Confused

He sounds bonkers. Are you sure you haven't misheard??

Grin
TheFallenNinja · 09/07/2013 17:22

Yanbu. I love socks Smile

Tee2072 · 09/07/2013 17:31

I buy my husband socks all the time. If a person needs socks, buy them socks!

ThreeEyedRaven · 09/07/2013 17:45

He's being a mef.

Buy him some really garish ones and tell him they're the type of socks you think of when you think of him Grin

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BabyClam · 09/07/2013 18:02

He was totally serious! I tried to make him explain but he couldn't.

It's something like parenting him, in his eyes, that seems to be the issue.

I didn't have the heart to tell him that his stinky socks have been the bane of my life since we moved in together (and remind me of my dad). I was hoping to get enough so I never have them in the wash with my or DSs things and can just boil them up separately.

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PiHigh · 09/07/2013 18:11

Dh would love it if I bought him socks. Actually you've reminded me I promised him I'd buy him some this week.

SupermansBigRedPants · 09/07/2013 18:29

DFiance reminds me when he needs socks - I tend to buy thick ones and he has mentioned he'd prefer thinner ones 'next time'.

he hates buying his own clothes and I love it Grin he 'gets' to buy his own trainers and occasionally jeans. Joggy bottoms he has Bought himself as I refuse to - he suits them but they are common and I hate them Blush

pigglepaggle · 09/07/2013 19:07

Just something I do when supermarket shopping. If I notice he's out of shaving gel, socks and undies are worn I throw them in the shopping trolley. Clothes he can buy himself

ClaraOswald · 09/07/2013 19:26

I buy my DH socks. Usually when I am replacing my own.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 09/07/2013 19:27

I don't often buy DH socks (unless they are stocking fillers) as he is fussy. But when I do buy him things he says thank you, even socks on Fathers day!
The point is you thought of him, and thought I don't want his toes to get cold, or sore from his shoes rubbing. He should be thankful you thought of him at all.

scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 19:32

Yes he bloody right he's adult man,your lover.youre faffing about buying socks
You're not his mother pack it in
I Think if you buy yourself Some nice undies he'll be more appreciative than socks

Squitten · 09/07/2013 19:36

He's being a drama queen. It was a practical purchase because they were on sale. It wasn't a birthday present!

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BabyClam · 09/07/2013 19:58

PiHigh - sale on ASOS, they have tons.

Scottish mummy. Ouch! You may well be right though, I think that's what he's getting at.

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scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 20:02

Christ your his lover,not his mother stop faffing about buying socks
I'm telling you if you find self buying dp,socks,pants youve lost your couple mojo
It's like your dp would you rather he thought granny tights or Clinique

purplemurple1 · 09/07/2013 20:03

Buy hime some sezy underwear, why should you be the one to get cold/uncomfortable Smile

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/07/2013 20:04

My DH is like that. He doesn't want me to buy him things that his Mum would buy and I totally understand. We have friends who do this by habit....the female buys ALL the family clothing, hers, his and the DC!

It's a bit odd if you ask me.

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:05

I buy my husband socks people need socks Confused

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 09/07/2013 20:05

Yes but they can buy their own!

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:06

meh If im in town and he needs socks i get him socks i dont buy him clothes though but socks it is no biggie really

piprabbit · 09/07/2013 20:08

I buy my DH socks. He wears black socks, I wear black socks, the only way to tell them apart is if I wear plain ones and he wears ones with a stripe in the knit (texture not coloured). And the only way to ensure he has the right sort is if I buy them, otherwise we would descend into laundry chaos.

Vivacia · 09/07/2013 20:08

I think it's good he feels able to talk to you about such things. I also think he has a point. Sounds like he's trying to tell you that he was wants some attention as a lover and not just 'dad'?

scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 20:09

If your dh capable of employment,independent choice he can buy own socks
It's wee wifey to buy your man socks,pants
If he needs socks he can buy em

schooldidi · 09/07/2013 20:12

I buy dp socks. For Christmas and birthdays. He doesn't want/need much so his presents always include socks, and pants too if I have really been unable to think of what to buy him.

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 20:13

FFS, they were something you thought he'd like and they were in the sale. What if they had been a CD? That would have been different I presume?

Tell him a) to stop being an arse and b) that you find his socks odour to be offensive in the extreme so he is now washing his own. STBX washed his own socks when we were together for exactly that reason, and he didnt have a problem with doing it, or me buying him socks either for that matter!

NoComet · 09/07/2013 20:13

My DH wouldn't have any socks (pants, shirts, trousers or any other item of clothing) if I didn't buy him them.