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To buy my partner socks?

118 replies

BabyClam · 09/07/2013 17:19

We have been together 11 years and have a five month old DS.

Since starting maternity leave I have taken over all the family finances, house stuff (decorating etc) and shopping. We have our own money for clothes and discretionary spending.

I just bought him socks because I saw them in the sale. I wouldn't object to being bought socks myself, I think it's thoughtful, it's not a gift or anything.

He says he doesn't want me to think of socks when I think of him. Socks are what nans buy you at Christmas, apparently.

So AIBU or is he?

OP posts:
mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:49

batting* now pants I never buy as apparently i buy them too big

scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 20:50

And breathe does it feel better to get all that consternation out
I'd rather buy myself nice lingerie than buy do socks.and he appreciate that more
My dp has seen me wheeled in theatre for a crash cs not time to apply the make up

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:53

yip feels all better thanks for asking us wee wifeys get bored you see

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 20:53

I am just Shock that you consider that he would prefer you buying nice underwear than his socks occasionally!

Are you sure? Have you asked him? Maybe he is thinking "FFS, she spent all afternoon in La Senza, yeah she looks great, but would it have killed her to call in at M&S and pick me up some boxers?"

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 20:55

Sorry, submitted too soon.....

your attitude to you in nice undies etc is very insulting, thinking that all he is bothered about is doinking you while you wear your suspenders. There is more to life! True partnership is accepting the less fragrant parts of life as well as the honeymoon bits, so buying sock is not in any way a marriage killer anymore than him seeing you giving birth is!

VitoCorleone · 09/07/2013 20:55

This thread is weird.

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:55

I am a bit Hmm too I bet he would love for somebody to occasionally buy him some socks oh well different strokes for all that

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 20:56

This thread is weird.

getting het up about socks

ThreeEyedRaven · 09/07/2013 20:56

What the actual Fuck? You lot are bonkers.

It's just socks, not a political statement!

scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 20:57

Never have bought dp socks.
no need he works in town
He has a visa card

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 20:57

Oh and if a man is the sort of man who will become mothered by his wife buying his socks then he was a prick anyway. Women who say "If I didnt buy them then he wouldnt" are saying that they prefer him to wear nice socks that dont stink and dont have holes, so they buy them. He isnt bothered but is happy for her to do it if she wants to. The same way that a husband who is as neat freak will do the tidying over and above his share, because his wife isnt bothered about a few bits of clutter and he is, and not mind

SquinkiesRule · 09/07/2013 20:58

Tell him to grow up, it's just socks. You didn't turn into his Mum and aren't about to start fussing about whether he put a vest on.
He's being a drama queen over it.

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 20:59

It's just socks, not a political statement!

Quite so threeeyed my post was v v tongue in cheek in case you missed that :o

LaQueen · 09/07/2013 21:00

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KirjavaTheCat · 09/07/2013 21:01

Now if he threw me a pouty face when confronted with a drawer full of holey socks, and expected me to go and fetch him some whilst he watched the tennis, it would be different.

There's no difference between picking up some chips for our dinner and picking up some socks because he needed some and I happened to be near the sock aisle. Nothing special about socks.

PinkPepper · 09/07/2013 21:02

I get most my partners clothes. He detests shopping I like it. I've more free time. He asks me too (though he's be fine if I said no)

scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 21:02

For folk who are protesting its all simply so inane to be het up there lots bolding and Hmmhumphy faces

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 21:03

(wondering what a space clown might look like) Grin

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 21:04

we are humphing and whatnot Scottishmummy as you seem to live in a land nobody else lives in

LaQueen · 09/07/2013 21:06

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scottishmummy · 09/07/2013 21:07

The. Land where adult men buy there own chuddies and socks?youllno get an invite
Seeing your too busy buying socks,chuddies
Never mind

mrsjay · 09/07/2013 21:07

Mrs a space clown looks exactly like my DH when he has bought himself something, unsupervised, and is jauntily wearing it...

Smile
LaQueen · 09/07/2013 21:10

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ShadowStorm · 09/07/2013 21:11

He seems to be taking socks far too seriously.

You seeing some socks on offer and buying them for him isn't going to somehow de-man him. It may be a very utilitarian gift, but I'm not seeing how it's like mothering him.

(Unless you've taken to buying all of his clothes, without either consulting him first or waiting for him to ask you to pick up some socks or pants the next time you're in Tesco. I can see how some men would find that annoying)

Bogeyface · 09/07/2013 21:11

It is not protesting about being het up at all, it is being het up about someone saying that they would never buy their husband something that he needed if he was able to buy it himself, even if they were there, right in front of the item in question!

AS Kirjava says, it is no different to picking up a takeaway! Its there, its needed, buy it. Why the angst about being a lover not a mother?! you can be a lover and still buy socks you know!