To buy my partner socks?

[BabyClam]

We have been together 11 years and have a five month old DS.

Since starting maternity leave I have taken over all the family finances, house stuff (decorating etc) and shopping. We have our own money for clothes and discretionary spending.

I just bought him socks because I saw them in the sale. I wouldn't object to being bought socks myself, I think it's thoughtful, it's not a gift or anything.

He says he doesn't want me to think of socks when I think of him. Socks are what nans buy you at Christmas, apparently.

So AIBU or is he?

LQ

I have seen your wedding photos, and I have just wee'd a little bit at the thought of your handsome groom dressed as Eeyore :o

I've been married 20++ years and have 3 DC's. I buy my DH socks mostly from Sainsburys. I've never asked him if he minds, I have far more important things to think about like the gin shortage.

You should have ebayed it, I am sure there are other similarly afflicted men out there!

My DH is completely competent in the purchasing clothing department...

But I still buy him socks and pants, I buy him nicer ones than he would buy himself, ck boxers or Ralph Lauren socks, and the kids give them to him for Christmas (well mostly the socks I give him the boxers, it would feel weird the kids giving him them).

I really don't see this as an issue...

My point wasn't that partners shouldn't buy necessities for each other but that if one partner makes a point about how the other views them it should be listened to. I think that the OP's partner was right to say something, and this confiding should be treated with kindness and respect.

we go on holiday on tuesday and this thread reminded me I really need to get dd and dh socks

Just remembered something.

When I bought my tablet I needed a couple of accessories and mentioned it to STBX as I was looking on ebay. On his way home from work (in another town) he popped into a shop he knew and got me the things I needed, far cheaper than I would have got them.

Did I accuse him of infantilising me? Did he say to me that he would have got them but I was capable of getting them myself? No. I thanked him and appreciated that he thought of me.

Some of you describe your partners like incompetents who need ongoing supervision

MrsJ dont! Buy yourself some new underwear, because he will appreciate that far more when he has raging blisters after a walk along the beach!

I get all my husbands clothes, have done for 26 years. I pass him the catalogues, he circles what he likes and I order!

And I definitely buy his underwear - that way he wears the stuff I like!!!

my husband is well able to buy his own stuff it is just nice easier considerate if I do it sometimes as you said scottishing mummy your partner is in town mine isn't so if he needs a 3 pack of socks I get them, then we have hot sock sex doesn't mean I mother him or he is incapable, a partnership is give and take doesn't make women any less of women if they pick up a pair of socks once in a while

Joking aside Scottish what if your OH was working long hours and wasnt in town? Would you still refuse to pick up his socks if you were out shopping? Do you do the weekly food shop?

I devote no mental energy to thinking about DH's socks. He would never think about whether I needed socks or tights, so why should I think about his? Sometimes he says "my socks all have holes in, I'll get some more" and then buys them, with no input from me. I don't want to be in charge of another adult's socks or clothes, fuck that! I'll wash them but I don't choose or buy them (except if I saw something particularly nice, I suppose).

It's the thinking about it I don't need. I have enough to be responsible about, I'm not having someone else's sock needs outsourced to me.

LQ Hawaiian shirts are all over the place now, just a word to the wise

Brian buts thats the OPs point. It isnt outsourced and she wasnt thinking about it particularly. She saw them, thought he would like them and bought them. He is the one that made it an issue, not her!

vigilant. I'm on edge right now, in case he decides to take it upon himself to buy some holiday clothes, unsupervised (frets)

DH thinks that disney t shirts are hilarious and has a few they have 1 or 2 7 dwarves on them

brian change the socks for a shirt and I bet people would say he was a selfish twat or something

I have never fretted about my partner ability to chose appropriate clothing
Fortunately he's mastered that task
He's well rounded in that respect

I don't understand how grown adults can be incapable of clothing themselves!!!

My husband can clothe himself he just thinks disney tshirts are quirky and as laqueen said jaunty