My DC have not been invited to our DNiece's wedding.
Background: DNiece is the DD of my DH sister.
We are not especially close, as DH is 10 years older than his DS and they did not grow up together. Our DC's from both sides are not friends as such, and have not seen each other for a few years.
DNiece is getting married at a small country manor house later in the year. There are only going to be 40 guests at the ceremony and wedding lunch, as this is the maximum amount of guests the wedding ceremony room can accommodate. There is an evening do afterwards with a band, disco and hog roast for 120 guests.
We knew the wedding date a long time in advance, and told DH'sis that we could only go to the daytime as we have a 30th birthday party to go to in the evening.
The invitations have arrived, and while me and DH are invited to the whole wedding including the evening, our DC's have only been invited to the evening - even though DH'sis knows none of us can go to the evening because of the other party.
My DH'mum says that due to only 40 guests being invited, once bridesmaids, parents, aunts, uncles and close friends have been invited there is not room for the 13 cousins (and partners) on both sides of the family, so the decision was taken not to invite any cousins to the day, just to the evening. (None of the cousins are close).
I have sent a no thanks reply for all of us for the whole wedding as I think that families should stick together at times like this, and that all of us should have been invited to the day, especially when they already knew we had other plans for the evening.
My DC are 28 and 22.
My DH'mum thinks we are being unreasonable to not go at all, and none of the other cousins or aunts/uncles seem to be miffed at the rebuff.
AIBU to say no?
AIBU?
Children not invited to wedding - I'm not going either!
ruby1234 · 08/07/2013 16:09
Pete-
I did start to panic when I was reading it! That's my biggest fear recognising a post about my own wedding 
Sorry everyone - in the time it took me to drive home from work there are 75 replies.....
Yes, it is a reverse AIBU.
My guestzilla sister in law is furious her children haven't been invited to my DD wedding.
As I said in the original OP, there are 13 cousins on both sides of the family, all adults and all with spouses/partners. We are not a close family, the cousins really only see each other at family get togethers (funerals, 18ths, 21sts etc). My DD is the first cousin to get married. The rest of the family are quite understanding of the reasons behind evening only invitations for the cousins, but my DB and his wife have taken offence big time - we have not seen their son for 4 years and their daughter for 2, the cousins are not even FB friends and do not associate with each other at all.
I was beginning to wonder if it was me, but it seems you all agree with me!
Thank you 
Oops! I think reverse AIBU are quite fun to spot!
I think the rudest part actually is not going to the evening reception because of a birthday party...IMHO opinion I think a wedding is a one off event, whereas birthdays accur each year, therefore weddings take priority over birthdays.
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It's anonymous just spit it out. Don't fuck about pretending to be someone else. FFS. 
. Think the sun has got to be - all patience has evaporated!!!
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