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Original poster

To think when you go on holiday with family....

110 replies

babybearsmummy · 06/07/2013 16:52

That room should be allocated depending on people's needs?!

Here goes (I'll try to keep it short)

O.h, dd (15mths when we go) and I have been invited to go on holiday in October with o.h's parents as they have booked a 6 berth lodge in Devon for a week and thought we could do with some time away too. Great, we thought, we looked on the website and found it had one bedroom with a king size bed and en suite with bath and overhead shower. One bedroom with a double bed and a third bedroom which is a single room. Also another bathroom with just a shower (no bath)

So we were under the presumption that we'd have the room with en suite so we could bathe dd as she doesn't like the shower, then dress her in the privacy of the bedroom before putting her to bed in the single room. This would mean o.h's parents would have the double room and use the other bathroom with just a shower as o.h's dad is disabled so can't climb into a bathtub to shower.

But no. They want the master room as they want the bigger bed. They also want to shower in the non-en suite bathroom due to o.h's dad's disability. So we'd have to go not their room to bathe dd and walk her across the cabin to get her dressed in our room or hers.

I know I'm being petty, but it just doesn't make sense to me. I wouldn't be so annoyed if they were actually paying for the holiday but, due to o.h's day's disability, they get a £750 holiday allowance each year, so I don't understand why they have first dibs when our needs are greater!

Someone smack some sense into me!

OP posts:
AuntieStella · 06/07/2013 16:56

Consider yourself smacked.

They're the hosts. It's there decision. Their priorities are not the same as yours.

If you find their choices unacceptable, then perhaps you should arrange your holidays separately in future.

TidyDancer · 06/07/2013 16:56

Are you kidding?

EliotNess · 06/07/2013 16:57

Who is paying for the holiday

snickers251 · 06/07/2013 16:57

Agree with Stella

phantomnamechanger · 06/07/2013 16:58

so this holiday is free, ie no cost to you, have I got that right?

yet you think you can dictate who sleeps where?

Entitled, much?

McNewPants2013 · 06/07/2013 16:58

perhaps he needs the bigger bed because of the disability.

caramelwaffle · 06/07/2013 16:59
Sirzy · 06/07/2013 16:59

Are they paying? If so they get the first choice of room.

LIZS · 06/07/2013 16:59

yabu . dd could make do with the shower, just take a universal plug and run the shower into the tray. Their holiday , he's disabled and could do with extra bed space. Not sure why your needs are greater tbh.

HotDawg · 06/07/2013 16:59

It makes little sense but suck it up, its a free holiday.

caramelwaffle · 06/07/2013 17:00

There'll be no problem with asking them to use the bathroom for 15 minutes to bathe the baby(?)

NatashaBee · 06/07/2013 17:00

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ExitPursuedByABear · 06/07/2013 17:01

Are you serious?

They invited you but you want first dibs. And why do you need privacy for your DD?

And who provides the holiday allowance?

caramelwaffle · 06/07/2013 17:01

That sounds good LIZS

SoldAtAuction · 06/07/2013 17:01

suck it up buttercup! so your big issue is having to adapt where you bath your child....really?!
this has to be a wind up!

RaisingChaotic · 06/07/2013 17:02

YABU

Squitten · 06/07/2013 17:03

So you don't have to pay anything for this and you have the cheek to bitch that they're using their allowance to pay for YOU?! Furthermore you are complaining because you have to suffer the epic inconvenience of bathing your DD in a room not ensuite to your own?

Wow.

Wallison · 06/07/2013 17:04

Why are your needs greater when he is the one with a disability? Am I missing something here?

Just exactly what sort of privacy does your three year-old need? Does she bathe by herself in an en-suite bathroom at home?

If I were you I'd just be grateful that a member of your family has thoughtfully provided you with a free holiday and try to deal with the harrowing experience of your daughter bathing in an en-suite that is not attached to her own room with the best grace in the world.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 06/07/2013 17:05

Use their bath to bathe your DD and you are sorted.

Original poster
babybearsmummy · 06/07/2013 17:06

Not sure who provides the holiday money, just that they have their doctor sign a form and they provide their bank details and get the money.

I'm not trying to be snobby or entitled, just thought they'd have chatted to us before hand. They have a double bed at home so wouldn't make a difference sleeping in one on holiday.

I was more concerned about us walking into their room/ space/ privacy than dd's privacy. O.h's parents sometimes go to bed at 6 or 7pm if they've had a long day (which they will be on holiday) and dd goes in the bath at 6 so we could be disturbing them sleeping by needing to use the bath.

OP posts:
Wallison · 06/07/2013 17:06

Oops sorry 15 month-old but I think my points still stand.

Chocotrekkie · 06/07/2013 17:06

Maybe he needs the ensuite to use the bathroom in the middle of the night ??

Why can't you dress your child in the bathroom after the bath ??

Wallison · 06/07/2013 17:07

Yeah right you are all concerned about them really.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 06/07/2013 17:07

Also, are the double and single next to each other? If so, makes sense for you to have the double.

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 06/07/2013 17:08

She could have her bath earlier.