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AIBU?

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To think when you go on holiday with family....

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babybearsmummy · 06/07/2013 16:52

That room should be allocated depending on people's needs?!

Here goes (I'll try to keep it short)

O.h, dd (15mths when we go) and I have been invited to go on holiday in October with o.h's parents as they have booked a 6 berth lodge in Devon for a week and thought we could do with some time away too. Great, we thought, we looked on the website and found it had one bedroom with a king size bed and en suite with bath and overhead shower. One bedroom with a double bed and a third bedroom which is a single room. Also another bathroom with just a shower (no bath)

So we were under the presumption that we'd have the room with en suite so we could bathe dd as she doesn't like the shower, then dress her in the privacy of the bedroom before putting her to bed in the single room. This would mean o.h's parents would have the double room and use the other bathroom with just a shower as o.h's dad is disabled so can't climb into a bathtub to shower.

But no. They want the master room as they want the bigger bed. They also want to shower in the non-en suite bathroom due to o.h's dad's disability. So we'd have to go not their room to bathe dd and walk her across the cabin to get her dressed in our room or hers.

I know I'm being petty, but it just doesn't make sense to me. I wouldn't be so annoyed if they were actually paying for the holiday but, due to o.h's day's disability, they get a £750 holiday allowance each year, so I don't understand why they have first dibs when our needs are greater!

Someone smack some sense into me!

OP posts:

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 07/07/2013 12:33

Hahahaha

So we were under the presumption that we'd have the room with en suite

Despite the fact that you aren't paying a penny?

You sound absolutely deluded.

Birdsgottafly · 07/07/2013 12:57

I thought that the P&C parking places were taking the piss, this is unbelievable.

When your in-laws were growing up, many had tin baths and outside toilets, so they probably think that you would manage with beds to yourselves and indoor plumbing/heating, silly them.

fabergeegg · 07/07/2013 12:58

OP, you are officially an incredibly spoilt person. Based on what you've said here, your inlaws are being very charitable to spend their holiday with someone so entitled and critical.

Regarding your second post, in which you said you just thought they'd have chatted about it first, I'm confused about what would have happened in that conversation to change this situation for you. You would have had the opportunity to explain that you thought you needed the bigger room. They would have said that they'd decided to have it. A 'chat' would not have provided you with what you seem to feel entitled to.

Also on the subject of that second post, can you see how obviously you changed your motivation to defend yourself against critical comments? In the OP, there was no mention of thought or care for your PIL. Instead, you talked about the privacy that your daughter needed, and how little they needed the ensuite and big bed. In your second post, you disclosed that your primary concern had been the comfort of your PIL. How is anyone going to believe that now? You asked for some 'sense'. You received it. Accept it. And try to be nicer.

BlameItOnTheBogey · 07/07/2013 13:04

ROFL at this OP.

To answer your Q: YANBU to assume that when you go on holiday rooms should be allocated according to need. In this case, your PILs need is much greater than yours so they get to choose. You can either say 'thank you' and take the room offered, or you can not go. Your choice.

ImperialBlether · 07/07/2013 13:06

And if they are "going to bed" at six or seven, they're either going to have a shag or they're trying to avoid you.

Lj8893 · 07/07/2013 13:06

I got to agree with everybody's responses!!!

Am not surprised the OP has failed to return and defend herself.

SauvignonBlanche · 07/07/2013 13:08

I don't understand why they have first dibs when our needs are greater!

How are your needs 'greater'?

LongGoneBeforeDaylight · 07/07/2013 13:10

Jesus. Some people act like they're the only people in the world to have a baby. Having a baby does not trump needs of a disabled person! They have invited you and you are moaning here about them

Surely Dd will be being bathed before your PILs go to bed, so will get privacy then anyway.

mombie · 07/07/2013 19:11

my 18 mth old has no shame or decency
.He has bathed in a sink, shower, bucket and even with mum. he is not fussed about necessities like en suites. come to think of it he is number 4 so we r a bit more relaxed about it.
Word of advice, learn to relax and appreciate the little things, wish somebody would offer me a free holiday. I would happily sleep in a box for a free hol.

kinkyfuckery · 07/07/2013 19:25

WTAF? You sound completely entitled princess, what's your 'OH' saying about it? Why not book your own fucking holiday!

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