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To think when you go on holiday with family....

110 replies

babybearsmummy · 06/07/2013 16:52

That room should be allocated depending on people's needs?!

Here goes (I'll try to keep it short)

O.h, dd (15mths when we go) and I have been invited to go on holiday in October with o.h's parents as they have booked a 6 berth lodge in Devon for a week and thought we could do with some time away too. Great, we thought, we looked on the website and found it had one bedroom with a king size bed and en suite with bath and overhead shower. One bedroom with a double bed and a third bedroom which is a single room. Also another bathroom with just a shower (no bath)

So we were under the presumption that we'd have the room with en suite so we could bathe dd as she doesn't like the shower, then dress her in the privacy of the bedroom before putting her to bed in the single room. This would mean o.h's parents would have the double room and use the other bathroom with just a shower as o.h's dad is disabled so can't climb into a bathtub to shower.

But no. They want the master room as they want the bigger bed. They also want to shower in the non-en suite bathroom due to o.h's dad's disability. So we'd have to go not their room to bathe dd and walk her across the cabin to get her dressed in our room or hers.

I know I'm being petty, but it just doesn't make sense to me. I wouldn't be so annoyed if they were actually paying for the holiday but, due to o.h's day's disability, they get a £750 holiday allowance each year, so I don't understand why they have first dibs when our needs are greater!

Someone smack some sense into me!

OP posts:
arethereanyleftatall · 06/07/2013 22:04

This is quite possibly the most ridiculous and ungrateful thing I've ever heard. It actually beggars believe that you have thought to complain about this. Awful. wow. Yabvvvvvvu

ExitPursuedByABear · 06/07/2013 22:10

I am still I interested in the finances.

MrsSchadenfreude · 06/07/2013 22:14

Mmm, well, I think you've had some sense smacked into you. Which is what you asked for...

MrsLouisTheroux · 06/07/2013 22:47

Have I got this right?
Your MIL and FIL want to have the king size bed and easy access to the bathroom at night presumably.
Their en-suite doesn't have a shower so they want to use the other bathroom too.
Well, you have drawn the short straw as there is no real privacy for either party in this arrangement but to say your needs are greater is a bit Hmm .
If it is a free holiday and their benefits are paying for it then I suppose they call the shots.
FWIW, my DC hated the shower the first time I tried to rinse hair using it and screamed the place down but I persisted (!) and it didn't take long for them to get used to it.

foreverondiet · 06/07/2013 23:25

Yabvvvvu although would be reasonable to ask to bathe your dd in their bath each night and if that's going to be a problem then don't go. Have showered with babies of all ages - I agree not 100% ideal but ok if necessary... Wouldn't have occurred to be for one minute that they wouldn't get best room - different perhaps if splitting costs.

Wuldric · 06/07/2013 23:30

Yabvu, but you probably know that now, right?

Alisvolatpropiis · 07/07/2013 00:04

This is hilarious.

Well done on making such a funny post.

Surely it is your intention to be funny because other YABVU. Your dd is a BABY. She doesn't need privacy. Get a fucking grip. If she was 15 I would see your point.

MrsWembley · 07/07/2013 10:37

Well, OP, have you run away? Can you come back and answer any of the questions posed?

Pimpf · 07/07/2013 10:43

If its that much of a hardship the don't go, pay for your own holiday instead!

ImNotBloody14 · 07/07/2013 11:16

one day OP, you will be doing something really big, like burying your FIL and it will hit you just how little this crap really matters. you will realise how stupid it was to have wasted a wonderful holiday with family feeling resentful of the extra 6 or whatever inches bedspace they had. this is not the important stuff. not at all. let it go. you will feel so much better about life if you let go of immature shit like this. it doesn't matter. it really doesn't. you'll realise it one day and feel like a dick about this.

Emilythornesbff · 07/07/2013 11:25

As long as they're happy for you to use the bath for dd (no reason why she should have to "get used" to showering) then YAbu.
IMHO.

BarnYardCow · 07/07/2013 11:27

Seriously, take a washing up bowl or tummy tub and then you can bath her outside if its sunny,it is ok to change their routine on holiday!

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 07/07/2013 11:28

Could DD not have her shower/bath in the morning? Just shift the routine around for the holiday.

If you are actually serious, yabvu about the rooms btw.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 07/07/2013 11:28

Cross posted Barn Grin, great minds...

PRwench · 07/07/2013 11:32

Holidays are an ideal time to get kids used to things out their comfort zone at home. Both of my kids made the switch from bath to shower on their first family holidays as there was no other choice, so easier to cajole them into them.

Your FIL has additional needs and has paid for your holiday. I'm sure you can cope with the situation as it is!

WireCat · 07/07/2013 11:36

Op, this is hilarious!

Entitled much?

And a 15 month old needing privacy?!

Yabu.

Kat101 · 07/07/2013 11:37

We have been on 'holiday' with pils several times now, a couple of them where pils have paid for the accommodation. Admittedly we've not had an identical issue, but similar issues crop up which causes a silent resentment on one or both sides. Yes you are a bit entitled as you are not paying, but if the bedroom setup is unacceptable to you and you're going to seethe inside for a week, then it's not a holiday at all and you'd be much better avoiding the situation and booking/paying for your own holiday.

SnookyPooky · 07/07/2013 11:37

Is it a wind up or reverse AIBU?

Letticetheslug · 07/07/2013 11:44

How can your needs be greater?

You are young with a 15 month old, they are elderly and he is disabled.

MotherofDragons82 · 07/07/2013 11:46

Well, what a pickle, OP. What to do? Either you upset your PFB by giving her a bath an hour early, or make her use - gasp! - a shower.
Maybe you shouldn't go. Keep her at home so her schedule doesn't get all mixed up, and she can have as much privacy as she likes.

MrsRogerSterling · 07/07/2013 11:54

I just can't understand why a 15 month old baby needs privacy and why taking her from the bathroom to the bedroom to dress is deemed such an inconvenience Confused

aderynlas · 07/07/2013 11:58

Remember my daughters having their bath outside the caravan in a plastic bowl, they loved it. Little watering can each, happy days.

Emilythornesbff · 07/07/2013 11:58

Actually with such a young child I would either bathe in sink (if it's large enough) or take a baby bath and use that in the shower room.
I would buy a bath on location and just leave it there if there's no room on the car.
That way there's less bathroom hopping.

VestaCurry · 07/07/2013 12:15

Um.......the needs of the disabled person come first.

And you need to get a grip.

CloudsAndTrees · 07/07/2013 12:29

Can't you get your dd dressed in the bathroom if taking her from one room to another wrapped in a towel is too much of a hardship?