DH is being unreasonable [title edited by MNHQ]

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To think that it's bloody ridiculous how much research is going into which Doctor to go to for a vasectomy and how little (none on his behalf) it was for me to go on birth control?
I mean REALLY... Get over it and get it snipped!
Happily married, 2 grown kids, no plans for any more (fingers crossed) Time of life I would like to not be screwing up my hormones and reach menopause in some kind of natural state. All he has to do is pick which Dr he would like to go with and in/out Bobs your uncle.
IABU to think Google is a bugger and should be banned from all Husbands on a quest for vasectomy horror stories?

Should add he really does agree/want to get it done.

YABU. If he's already agreed to get it done, let him choose a doctor that he will have confidence in.

I'd rethink your thread title if I were you...

Leave him to it. Thing is vasectomys are not always straight forward. There can be a lot of pain for weeks or months after and general aching in the balls. Let him do his research. If he is doing this for you and him then support him.

Ubermumsy why?

'Special'? Let's hope you aren't using it as shorthand for special needs, eh?

I think 'precious' may have been more appropriate.

Wtaf does 'special' mean, here?

I've heard 'special' being used to mean right pain. For example I arranged a course at my previous work and some of my team were really quite difficult. The course leader said they were very 'special'. I would suspect that it's this sort of meaning that the OP has in mind. Not sure if there is or isn't any relationship to the use of 'special' as in special needs.

A vasectomy is a major op, which can result in some unfortunate circumstances. How about you support him rather than belittle him?

My 'D'H refuses to have one

The fact I've had 15 years on the pill, 2 pregnancies & I'm still sorting out birth control is irrelevant apparently. Bit of a sore point in our house

Oh & I've been awake since 5 due to his snoring...wonder if I can do a DIY one on him

Sorry I didn't answer... YANBU

Reportedfor most offensive thread title ever

'special' is regularly used to be derogatory about SN, usually accompanied by a silly voice too

nooks, I've only ever heard it in the context prissy describes. Even if not meant that way here, it seems an unwise choice of word.

Yes, meant or to,I dont want to read it

Grr or *not

Hardly the most offensive thread title ever but agree it's stupid.

It's surgery. Let him deal with it his own way.

But then again, what's the name of Justin's show? Something Special? Is that offensive?

Tis the most offensive I have seen on here

Comparing name to a show for kds with SN is fatuous and obtuse.

I've said my piece, not debating it. That title is offensive.

yanbu.
and i didn't even think of the word special as being related to special needs at all.
i took it as it was probably meant.
that your hubby is being a bit of an arsehole.

I think the OP may have meant "Precious"

It depends how it was meant I guess - "special" I have heard used in place of the horrible R word.

OR it could mean

"Acting like he is something special" = Acting like he deserves more than me

Stop having sex until he does it?

Surgery is surgery and why didn't you research when going on birth control?

yes Shagging

OP

I think if this is how he approaches big life choices (lots of research) then let him be. It is a big deal

In this thread title's usage of the word, I certainly thought it was offensive.

Okay. So it's offensive to use it as a thread title but not on a TV program because the show is for children.

That makes perfect sense.

I take back my earlier comment. There's nothing wrong with the thread title. And I have a son with SN.