To not want to meet friends tomorrow for picnic as they'll be drinking?

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My friends (a couple) have recently gotten over a bad health scare...it was her...the female half. She had a terrible illness which came on suddenly and almost killed her.

She's been out of hospital for two weeks. Her DH suggested my DH and our DC go to see them tomorrow as theres a very nice beauty spot near their flat....we could have a picnic with the DC he said. I agreed...our DC are 5 and 8 and theres are 3 and 1.

Then I got a txt saying "We're going to be having a couple of bottles of wine...so bring a beer or whatever if you want..."

AIBU to get a bit judgey? She's still recovering...I mean she was in a MESS....she was at deaths door. We're going to meet them on the train as we have no car atm...so drinking isn't really a good idea...and we;ll all have the DC with us.

Am I a big misery guts? It's just put me off a bit. We're not drinkers really so I said no we wouldn't be drinking.

Oh and Oreo, my sons friend was blown up in Afghanistan 4 years ago aged 18.. My dds teacher was killed on a school trip. My non drinking/smoking super fit slim mil died if cancer at 64...
My hard drinking/ smoking grandad died at 92.

You never know when your number is up and personally I would rather enjoy the here and now.

Yes, YABU. Very.

YouTheCat...

I'm a non drinker atm but I would be ever so grateful if, you know, you could keep that pear cider on ice for me until I'm no longer bf and have a baby sitter?

(Licks lips, lies back and waits)

Ooops too late!

Ahhh crap

Is this why you are LookingForwardToMarch?

its a glass of wine, which if she is sensible and sticks to 1-2 glasses as well as water It will do her no harm.

Haha no

Dd was supposed to be born in march (surprised us in feb)

I am looking forward to a lovely pear cider though! I'll have to namechange!

' drinking is for adults'
' affects you judgment and makes you feel sick'. No, it doesn't me. I feel fine.
' I have let my children see me slumped in a corner and slurring me words'. Me neither. I drink like fish, but don't get pissed, tipsy, slurry words.

Some of you have wierd ideas of what 'drinking' entails.

Yabu. Everyone knows drinkers are more interesting and fun.

X: what did you do last weekend?
Y: got pissed, talked rubbish and fell over.
X: what are you doing this weekend?
Y: getting pissed, talking rubbish and falling over.

Imagine how unfulfilling life would be without such intriguing conversation.

I drink. I don't talk rubbish. I don't fall over.

There's a time and a place for alcohol, and i believe a kids picnic isn't one of them.

I think OP is worried for her friend. This thread has now become ridiculous with posters even saying they themselves are, miraculously, unaffected by alcohol

Op is hungover

I agree, drinking isn't for kids picnics! Roll up a spliff instead.

Who are all these people who just get pole-axed every time they drink?

Is there no one who just drinks a glass or two of wine at the weekends and that's it?

MN, it's a funny world (this doubles match is boring).

I think chilren do need to see adults drinking sensible.

Expat, agree ill die of something. Bound to eventually. It's not the responders that bother me. Many are witty or knowledgeable. I just felt the op wasn't behaving as a friend really... I find that more interesting than the actual topic!

Exactly Expat, the implication is that none of us who drink (or the OP's friend) are capable of just have one or two glasses. We must all be rolling around, incoherently slurring at each other and covered in vomit.

I do hate the assumption that you can't parent if you have even a sip of wine. Or that a glass during the day leads to all afternoon drinking.

Some of us can control ourselves

These threads always end like this.

The non drinkers saying that they and they alone will live to 200 and that every one who drinks get pissed every single time, throws up, talks shite and falls over. They will also die in a puddle of their own shit and vomit aged 35, looking like a 90 year old.

It patently ridiculous! My mother likes an occasional glass of wine and she has never been drunk her entire life, yet she is thrown in with the Special-Brew-Crew sitting on a wall shitfaced at 8am :o

Kids picnic is the perfect place for alcohol.

Well I've got a BBQ to go to tomorrow and i'll be the only non-drinker there so i'm nervous; the irony is I loved drinking but I take medication now that means I can't even have a glass of wine!

YABVU. Don't drink if you don't want but you have no right to judge others on whether they want to or not.