to hate mothers who go on and on about how they think their children are marvellous

[Klingyston]

Particularly one at school who does this all the time and in doing so puts my daughter down eg says hers is best at English in the class so by default better than mine. Really groom

YAdefNBU
I have exited Facebook for this reason. Its beyond tiresome to the point of offensive.

Is her child brighter than yours? If so, do you care?

Yes nothing worse than a parent being proud of their children's successes.

Curse her.

None of my facebook friends ever do this because they are better than yours

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Smile sweetly and say "that's lovely" and walk away, no point in giving it any space time or thought as it is immaterial in your life, walk away knowing your dc have your love and support.

Arsing link.

are YOU talking about me?

Boasting has never been considered attractive, even prior to FB.

Also, Other People's Children Are Boring (upper-class mantra that seems due for revival in our narc online age).

What Jammy said.

And it smacks of insecurity, those who harp on about these things.

But my daughter is the cleverest child ever to be born and you will never know about the goddess in your midst unless I tell you.

My daughter is totally marvellous!

She's 4 months old and I think she is brilliant.

I don't really care or expect you to though.

Maybe forget about comparing your child to others and spend your energy thinking of all the things that make your children amazing instead.

'That's nice...gotta dash.' Keep moving.

I can honestly say (and it's not a conscious effort) that I am largely unaware of the details of other children esp if someone attempting to Make A Point.

I think I must make vaguely be making all the right sounds but basically I only seem to process information about my own.

But Dahling, my kids are totally mahvellous! Innit?

In RL - yes they're fine, growing up fast, need to work harder, tiresome teenagers - oh the state of their nedrooms.

On here - they are gorgeous, so proud of them - looking at them now and I'm welling up.

My children ARE marvellous. Sometimes a am totally amazed that i managed to produced two such smart, beautiful girls. But i would not ever put anyone's child down. That is not very nice. All children are amazing - even though with some you just have to look that bit harder to see it.

YANBU if they are putting your kids down, YUBalittlebitU if they are just celebrating their kids.

Oh soz hunny, but I am just so proud of my lil' man and my princess, I would be a bad mummy not to tell everyone. Faaaahmily is just so important, innit? Like this status if you're proud to be a Mum! or if you want to be plagued by adverts for baby stuff and Fuggs forever

They arent BU to be proud of their kids, but they are BU to be putting down others and rubbing it in, if thats what they do. I work with kids and some parents honestly think the sub shines out of their mostly average offspring. Its nice to hear positive parents but when they go on about how little darling is top of the group i do have to grit my teeth. I think they forget i work in the school, know their childs teachers, an know exactly how average they are.

If someone said to me that their child was the best in the class I wouldn't think it was particularly putting mine down unless I'd just been boasting about them. it could be a statement of fact or a deluded parent anyway it wouldn't be true because mine are naturally the best at everything

I live in such perpetual fear of doing this that I am now guilty of making my children seem like thick-as-two-short-planks feral monsters (when the truth is obviously that they're the best children in the history of the world ever). And if they do really well in something I'm so wary of saying anything about it to people that they probably end up without the credit they deserve.

There's a middle ground - I do think you should be able to celebrate your child's achievements. Just tread carefully :o

Sad thing is it makes you dislike the child.

Perhaps said child really is top in English. Stranger things have happened...

really?

If her child is top of the class in a subject then surely that's ok to be chuffed about.
I don't see that as putting others down, just a bit boastful.

off topic - I still feel lost on
Mondays. you ok?

I don't agree that it's acceptable to boast like this even when it is true. Yes, perhaps to grandparents etc but not to other parents whose children are in the same class! It is being naive beyond belief to think this wont cause offence to other parents.