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AIBU?

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to hate mothers who go on and on about how they think their children are marvellous

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Klingyston · 01/07/2013 20:06

Particularly one at school who does this all the time and in doing so puts my daughter down eg says hers is best at English in the class so by default better than mine. Really groom

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hackmum · 02/07/2013 17:30

Oh, boasting is awful. With most of my friends, we do a bit of shared moaning about our kids and their untidy bedrooms, disobedience, failure to complete homework and so on. And then every so often someone will mention that their child has the lead part in in the school play or was top in maths or whatever, and that's fine, because after all, you have to have some outlet for your natural pride in your child.

But there is one friend who boasts all the time about how brilliantly her children are doing and it's just miserable for everyone else, especially when she comes out with "And how is X doing?" and because X hasn't reached grade Zillion on the piano, and isn't achieving level 8 at maths at the age of 11, and hasn't played the clarinet to an audience of 5,000 in the Albert Hall, you just have to say, "Mm, OK, fine, thanks" and try and change the subject.

PeteCampbellsRecedingHairline · 02/07/2013 17:31

Only a hairdresser? Wow!

LucilleBluth · 02/07/2013 17:39

Oh no, you just lost me with the only a hairdresser comment.

SkinnybitchWannabe · 02/07/2013 17:43

My friend does that on fb. She once asked what she could buy her 9 year old ds who has the brain of a 14 year old for his birthday...I replied 'for starters give the 14 year old his brain back and buy a 9 year old one!' luckily she thought it was funny I was bring deadly serious!

Rollmops · 02/07/2013 17:46

My children are absolutely, fabulously marvellous.
You don't like it, OP? Oh dear.
But do you really think I give even a second of my time thinking about you and your little dislikes? Quite right. I don't.
Because you do not matter to me. Not an iota.

Rollmops · 02/07/2013 17:53

I do not care about other people's children nor would I ever put them down; that would be bad form. Same goes for boasting, about anything, really, awful thing to do.
But to me and my family, my children are the most marvellous human beings ever to walk this earth.
End of.

kungfupannda · 02/07/2013 18:06

"only a hairdresser?"

On a thread about boasting and comparing. Oh, the irony!

hackmum · 02/07/2013 18:16

What an unpleasant reply, Rollmops. Do you go on to other people about how marvellous your children are - which is what the OP was complaining about? Or do you just think it privately (which is fine, as presumably we all think that about our own children)?

Mintberry · 02/07/2013 18:18

My little Jean-Hamish is quite a bit more advanced than most children, don't you know? He's only 2, but he likes playing with the abacus we bought him, so we're thinking Oxbridge material.

You're clearly all just jealous!

CHJR · 02/07/2013 18:23

I have found the parents who go on and on about their brilliant children are noticeably the ones who are insecure when you get to know them better. I do find some of them a bit tedious on this subject, but I also sincerely feel sorry for those parents, and sometimes their kids, who are the ones who get pushed too hard. Mind you, I have one with serious SEN, one who's a mad genius for sure, and one who's basically normal (she BTW looks to me the one most likely to have a happy life), so if anyone has had reason to learn that our actual control over the outcome is at best, um, mysterious, I have. Also I feel secure because secretly I know that I'M the genius of the family and the school, and need to prove nothing through my kids!

amazingmumof6 · 02/07/2013 19:07

my baby took 6 steps yesterday! yay! I was so proud of her!
today she sampled the contents of her own nappy.

with kids it's all swings and roundabouts

lougle · 02/07/2013 19:10

"she is only a hairdresser"

Yep, Vidal Sassoon, Charles Worthington and Denise McAdam...what a bunch of losers, eh?

Ghanagirl · 02/07/2013 19:32

You sound lovely Rollmops "I don't care about other people's children" hope you don't do play dates
Not boasting about your kids is one thing not caring about anyone else's children is worse very selfish, how about nieces nephews, your friends kids

sue52 · 02/07/2013 19:54

Thankfully this boasting stage finishes when the child genius hits 13 and only communicates in grunts for the next 2 years.

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Klingyston · 02/07/2013 20:02

I think Rollmops is unhinged. I agree with Chjr. Whenever I have met people who are seriously impressive, they are always the most modest. And anyway, her daughter runs like a fish

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Klingyston · 02/07/2013 20:03

I Agree about the above being losers too

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lougle · 02/07/2013 20:12

Ever heard of the book 'How to make friends and influence people'?

Drywhiteplease · 02/07/2013 20:41

A friend posted a nauseating thing on FB the other night about her 2 brilliant children. I read it to my top set,county playing,completely brilliant teenaged son who said grunted
" whatever, Mum post this " I'm so disappointed with my idiot children who have totally failed in their end of term exams, what losers!" " wish I had. It says much more about the mothers doesn't it?
Ignore and move away OP

amazingmumof6 · 02/07/2013 20:47

Klingy @ runs like a fish

runs like a fish! ROFL

amazingmumof6 · 02/07/2013 20:49

and Klingy I still don't know what "really groom" in your op means.

Please explain

OrmirianResurgam · 02/07/2013 21:30

I know someone who is 'just a hairdresser' and she owns a v successful business and is raking it in. I'd be delighted if one of my kids wanted to be ;just a hairdresser' like that.

Fakebook · 02/07/2013 21:43

at "only a hairdresser".

People are lucky to have a job these days!

chocolateorangeyum · 02/07/2013 21:46

It always surprises me that there are some people who just don't get that everyone else thinks their own children are the most wonderful and talented in the world - we just don't tell everyone else about it because of course we are all completely biased!

HaveIGotPoosForYou · 02/07/2013 21:56

YANBU to dislike someone else saying their child is better than yours at anything. That's just beyond rude.

However, if someone says, 'Little Tommy is such a cutie he brightens up my day!' then I don't see anything wrong with that, really. It's not hurting anyone else.

oreocookiez · 02/07/2013 23:54

This made me chuckle when I read this post..... there is such a mother at my DD's school..... I usually stand in the same spot waiting for my DD and chat with other mums.. if this lady walks over there are big groans all round as all she talks about is how compleeeetly maaarvolous her DD is and what she said this morning and the other day and how she does this etc..... they had a school play last christmas which her DD auditioned to sing in, she wasnt chosen for what ever reason but this mum told everyone it was so she didnt show up the other singers who were not as good.... I try and just smile sweetly and not say anything to her..... she also talks about how expensive the DD's clothes are and how she buys from America....... drives me nuts lol

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