Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

[thepigflu]

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

Yeah I'm not sure how people justify in their heads that my BM is the absolute best possible first food for my baby but should not under any circumstances be offered to a different baby without extensive additional screening and a full family medical history being taken.

I mean either it's the good stuff or it isn't. There is nothing magical about one's own baby that makes it immune from all the imaginary BM nasties...

Hope the mum came back in time.

"I would also add that if the op did feed the baby without consent, and did infect the baby with something, there could easily be legal consequences. "

If you give the baby formula and it suffers a serious allergic reaction there will definitely be legal consequences.

Give water if any sign of dehydration is seen and then wait...

Just Bf feed it. The babies needs are more important than the mums here.

Next time you babysit him ask your friend to provide expressed breast milk and a bottle. Its v unreasonable of her to go off the radar & not contact you to find out how he is doing. He can smell milk on you which is why he is crying & become agitated. Is there anybody else who can cuddle him while you are waiting for his absent mother to turn up?

Ooh its been a while since one of these...

The OP has not been back. Personally I think without quite a lot more details we can't advise. Hopefully she has contacted her friend.

The OP has not been back. Personally I think without quite a lot more details we can't advise. Hopefully she has contacted her friend.

If something had happened to me meaning I couldn't be back to feed my baby, I would have no problem at all with one of my friends breastfeeding her.

Would have been preferable to me than formula.

Some people need to read the guidelines about troll hunting. Besides, the OP does actually have a non-contentious posting history.

As to the question - not without permission.

pretty sure this is genuine - OP is not a name changer and has a posting history

im presuming its genuine. Bit of a boring troll post if its not

Bit late now but I would have don't see the problem

At no point did I mention feeding formula as an alternative? And stealth, sorry, but I made no reference to you in my post, no idea why you presume I refer to you. Others stated milk banks would be obsolete if babies didn't drink other people's breast milk. That's what I refer to.

And I can guarantee if mother never came back and baby went into social services care this afternoon, it would be given formula over unscreened breast milk. As someone with a friend who contracted HIV from a blood donor (hes a haemophiliac) in the days before full blood screening, the prospect of injesting the body fluid of another person without it being screened, is frankly, horrific.

In response to the comments about HIV/AIDS-

(just to clarify- AIDS is a syndrome and as such it could not be transmitted through breast milk, HIV is a virus and can be transmitted through breast milk)-

I realise that I have been harping on about HIV, but that is because I work closely with HIV positive pregnant women and mothers.

Being advised not to breast feed their babies is often devastating for positive women. But the fact of the matter is that women that live in countries with access to clean water and unrestrained access to artificial milk are advised (WHO, NHS) to exclusively bottle feed, because of the risk of transmission.

Milk banks are wonderful resources that screen donations for HIV.

Why would your friend leave her baby with no food for over 3 hhours at 3 months old? Why can you not see that it would be pretty wierd to feed another persons baby with your breast milk? This post seems very controversial, bound to get people talking... is that the idea? If your friends baby is screaming then why are you wasting your time posting on mumsnet?

I do hope this is all bollocks.

I'd want my baby to be fed in that situation (although would never happen as would never leave my 3mo for that long). And would far rather it was bm than formula. In fact I'd be super pissed off if my EBF baby was given formula.

I would rather my 3 month old ds was bf by a friend than left to cry. Having said that I wouldn't leave him without expressed milk.

I have donated breast milk to the milk bank. Even though it is tailored to your own baby it is still beneficial for others, particularly premature and sick babies in hospital

Wrong unless you have the express permission of the mother

"...before each batch is tested by microbiologists to ensure it is safe to use. Once that process is complete, the milk is pasteurised and refrozen for up to another three months, ready to be used at intensive care units for sick and premature babies."

source:
milk banks screen donated milk