Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

[thepigflu]

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

[Fairyegg]

I would far rather someone bf my baby than gave him formula. By expressing and trying to cup feed you are making it slightly less personal than bfing, however if that didn't work I would be happy for someone I Knew well to bf direct. All these people posting about just giving baby a bottle clealy have no idea that most bf babies just wouldn't know what to Do with one.

[Shamoy]

If you agreed to look after a tiny bf baby for 3 hours then you need to do that until the 3 hours are up!
I would never take a baby that age to look after for 3 hours without asking what should I do if he becomes distressed and hungry...
If that was my baby and I came back within the 3 hours agreed to find you'd breast fed him, I would be furious!!!
If on the other hand I was delayed and couldn't be got hold of, and returned at least 3.5 hours after drop off say,then I'd find it acceptable that you fed him.
You really should have sorted it out though when you agreed to babysit!!!

[UnicornsPooGlitter]

There was another thread recently about a woman BFing someone else's baby.

[Disappearing]

Breast milk is a bodily fluid, so to feed someone else's baby is akin to having a blood transfusion or similar, this is why cows milk is pasteurised. Human milk is way more pathogenic to humans than cows milk as obv we are the same species, think of transmission of bird flu between humans vs. between birds. A baby has been inside its own mother before birth, so has already shared all blood/germs/viruses etc. before birth, someone else's baby is obv not in that position.

[ICBINEG]

disappearing

"Breast milk is a bodily fluid, so to feed someone else's baby is akin to having a blood transfusion or similar,"

No it isn't. Completely different things are transmissible through blood and milk. The vast majority of things you could catch from a transfusion you cannot catch from milk.

"this is why cows milk is pasteurised."

No it isn't. Cows milk is pasturised because it has to travel a long way before being drunk, and all milk contains as small amount of bacteria at point of origin. If you wanted to store breast milk for a week while you got it to the shops you would have to pasturise that too, but seeing as it is used straight away, you don't.

"A baby has been inside its own mother before birth, so has already shared all blood/germs/viruses etc. before birth, someone else's baby is obv not in that position."

This is total shit. Unless something went wrong during birth or there is an internal bleed, the baby has not shared blood with the mother, and hence has not shared any blood based viruses. For evidence of this consider that not all babies born to HIV positive mothers are HIV positive. Consider that this is also true if they BF their babies

Apart from that what you said was accurate.....

[ICBINEG]

BTW milk is a bodily fluid, but it is most closely related to sweat. Anyone think you can get HIV by getting someone's sweat on you?

[RibenaFiend]

In that position I would like to think that I would be incredibly grateful that someone would offer to nurse my ebf child. Of course HIV etc is a real consideration but I can't believe I would leave a 12 week old baby with anyone other than my closest friends and we all know each other as well as ourself.

[tiktok]

Human milk is way more pathogenic to humans than cows milk



hahahahahahaha - where are you getting your info from, disappearing???

However, you are right that babies don't get foot and mouth disease from formula.....

[RiotsNotDiets]

Apart from that what you said was accurate.....
Well said ICBINEG!

[KatieScarlett2833]

I've done it in the past and same mum fed my DD. they are 3 weeks apart in age. Was never an issue and it meant no bloody expressing which I hated.
I'm quite that people are so upset as we never gave it a second thought. We have been v good friends for over 20 years though.

[UniqueAndAmazing]

well, we'll never know will we...

Blarhdy OPs never coming back to update. It's vair rude.

I would be happy with someone else BFing my baby.

[melika]

Just no.

[stopprocrastinating]

It wouldn't bother me, but understand why it would bother others. I could never have left my 3 month old baby for three hours though. An hour tops.

[Emilythornesbff]

Has anyone fed that baby yet?
Fwiw. I wouldn't mind a close friend bfeeding my baby.
I would be livid if someone gave her formula.
But whatcha sposed to do in op's situation??

[LouiseSmith]

@AnyFucker - was hardly a shit storm.

[claraschu]

I have breastfed friends' babies, and they have breastfed mine. I would be grateful to you for feeding the baby, but I would never have left a baby that age without discussing feeding ahead of time (never would have left the baby at all actually).

Why is it not horrifying to people that you are drinking the milk of a cow? To me, this is much more strange.

[chocolatemartini]

Glad someone could be bothered to put disappearing right. People do make up random stuff and try to pass it off as fact hope the baby got fed anyway and the mother returned. I'd have fed it if the mother was later than she said he would be. Poor thing.

[zeeboo]

I'd never leave a babysitter of mine in this situation but if someone gave my ebf baby formula it would be the last time I spoke to them. I'd be incandescent. Do people not understand about the virgin gut?
Always, breast milk from mothers breast, mothers breast milk expressed, donor milk, and formula as a very last resort.

[Justforlaughs]

I just want the OP to come back - I'm feeling like a stalker on this thread!

[TeamSouthfields]

Why wud someone leave there 3 month old baby for 3 hours, knowing they maybe Hungry !?

[scottishmummy]

Well it's not reckless abandonment.maybe had to go out,had appt,maybe wanted break

[Emilythornesbff]

I guess she was just over optimistic about feed times.
Maybe baby only f every three or four hours.

[OHforDUCKScake]

Its just dawned on me.

The OP never mentioned whether she was lactating. Perhaps she has no children, but wondered if she should just give it her breast?

I watched a film like that once, THAT was weird.

[OHforDUCKScake]

Now Im stuck trying to remember the name of that film.