To think that the older retired generation have it too cushy ...

[suebfg]

Nice holidays, large houses now worth £££, good pensions etc. (I know I am generalising her)e.

And the young/middle aged people can't rely on an inheritance as the elderly people may have to sell their homes to pay for care. Yet the elderly people did get an inheritance and are enjoying it on their holiday spending sprees.

[suebfg]

Monty27, that is completely uncalled for.

[suebfg]

No, you are wrong scottishmummy - I don't think you have read the thread properly - but heyho, that seems par for the course on here tonight.

[Monty27]

Why Yams?

OP has a right to say how she feels. And MNHQ does not put threads easily. Its said, its done. Why pull? Report it yourself, see what MNHQ says?

OP is expressing herself....

[Monty27]

I'm sorry Sue I wouldn't offend if I didn't think what was being said is offensive. I wouldn't go out to do that.

I did say 'do tell' if you have an issue, but you haven't 'told' apart from being really awful about older people. :(

Not on.

[yamsareyammy]

There are now several pas on here, Monty, including yours.

[yamsareyammy]

MNHQ dont like bunfight threads, which is what this thread has become.

[bassetfeet]

Well off? oh how I wish OP.
Every spare penny was spent on my children. I havent had a holiday in 10 years or night away . Savings are enough to cover any immediate appliance breakdown and a funeral.
I am not complaining at all. This has been the way it is for all my adult life. And it is fine by me .
DO NOT make generations fight and feel resentful against each other .

Inheritance ? forget it . My dear mum is paying £600 a week for her care and all out of her savings and house sale . Most of it gone now.

We older people do care hugely for the struggles of the younger generation but we are not all on holiday and spending . Most of us are looking after our grandchildren and helping as much as we can .

[SoggySummer]

The 70's and 80's were pretty shit. My parents were out of work and I recall seeing my mum cry because we were so skint they were strugglin to feed us and thought they would loose the house.

They ended up OK though and yes have a home that we will never aspire too.

I think its wrong to assume they went through life tickety boo. They went through shit as well but I do agree - alot have come out the other end doing alot better than most of our generation ever will.

[suebfg]

I think referring to someone as unhinged is really below the belt. I think I have been measured in my responses and not personal.

[scottishmummy]

Unfortunately.I have read all the thread
Inc your protests thats it's not you seeking inheritance,it's a family member
I'm commenting upon your notion that pil should leave an inheritance. Greedy,graspy

[Mintyy]

I don't think you have been measured in your responses actually sue.

[suebfg]

Oh give it a rest please. You are saying the same thing over and over again ....

[Mintyy]

"yawn" and "get a life". I wouldn't describe those as measured.

[scottishmummy]

Oh it's tough isn't it.not only do the pil have temerity to spend own money leaving no inheritance
Now you've got to contend with people disagreeing with you
No wonder you're irascible

[suebfg]

Wow, wow, it's like a nest of vipers

[Monty27]

Oh, so I'll bow to you to you and apologise for my diction ie 'unhinged'. It may be rather a strong word, as maybe uneducated may have been strong.

Does 'pissed off about something' serve it well.

I stand up for the pensioners who have looked after their hard earned cash and themselves :)

[cocolepew]

Yabu.
My mum and dad are both 70, they went out to work at aged 14. My mum gave her wages to her widowed mum who, herself worked 12 hour days in a factory.
Neither got an inheritance because there was nothing to leave.
Why should your pil hand over money they worked for?

[tallulah]

Yawn. This same subject seems to come up again and again and again and is always the same format. "Why should the baby boomers have..." then going on to talk about the elderly. Get it right people. Baby Boomers were born between 1947 and 1964.

I am a baby boomer. We have debts and no savings. I will have a civil service pension that gets smaller by the week. DH works in the private sector and has no pension at all. We bought our first house 30 years ago for £20k - a 2 bed terraced. Each time we moved up a bit prices had leapt - just like for everyone else. We have a 1930s semi that is nothing special - just like lots of other people. We won't pay off the mortgage until we are 65. Not blaming anyone else; we chose to have a number of children and they cost money. Had we stopped at 2 I expect we'd be raking it in

Trying to compare people's lives across the decades is like comparing apples oranges and coconuts.

I completely agree with WhereYouleftIt. No tax credits, no central heating, no car, no phone. Lots of older people lived with their parents for years. People didn't move in together, have children, then expect to have a big house. YABVU OP. Have a

[scottishmummy]

Such a lot on your mind,pil profligate spenders,no family inheritance
Mn nest of vipers
And all you ever said was yawn and get a life. Wouldn't say boo to the goose

[yamsareyammy]

scottishmummy. With respect, you have said the same thing about 5 times now. Though I know you are allowed to do that.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

OP : Contentious and offensive generalisation from her PIL to all retired people.

Vipers : You're wrong and this is why, expressed in robust MN style.

OP : You're all so rude and I'm ignoring your refutations because all I'm really interested in is shit-stirring. Yawn.

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

You are clearly worried about this family member and have mentioned that you think they will die before the PILs. Ate they ill? Is that what's bothering you, OP?

[suebfg]

Yes, they are very ill - nearly died last year.

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

Sorry, are they ill...

[LuisSuarezTeeth]

So you think pils need to support them more? Have you talked to them at all?