to feel saddened about " breast feeding covers

[Theas18]

lady on the next table in the cafe I'm in ifs beat feeding a lovely month or so old baby under a huge bib.

maybe she feels " happier about it" and all that but really. What do you see for a happily breastfeeding b baby-the back of a sweet little head? no big deal and very normal.

Why are we ( society) doing this to mums and babies. surely a 6 month old won't tolerate it anyway, so I guess they give up then :(

[mrsjay]

maybe she doesnt want to whap them out for all too see this woman is feeding her baby and yet you OP are still moaning and looking for something to moan about, really it is nothing to do with you how women want to feed their babies breast or not, some women actually want a little privacy while they BF their babies

[mrsjay]

boobs should not be any different to legs or arms, it is sad they've been so over sexualised that women feel they have to cover them yes.


if boobs were no different from legs and arms then we would all be walking about with them out whenit is hot how to you feel about bums and penises

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

I tend to use something while bf in public as Ds4 is nosy and tends to pop off alot, totally up to her if she wants to cover up and noone else's business!

[JugglingFromHereToThere]

I had pretty nosy babies too Moomins - especially dd

• Perhaps she was saying "what you looking at ?"

[peteypiranha]

I really dont see the point in them tbh, as breastfeeding is natural but some people feel insecure and have bought in to marketers myths to spend money.

[mrsjay]

Isee breastfeeding mothers are dammed if they do and dammed if they dont woman again can not win whatever they choose to do even by other women that makes me not a mum covering up to feed her baby

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

I do think if anyone sees nipple they are probably looking too much, we are going away next week and I'm sure feeding during the evening entertainment will be fun with him off and on every 10 mins. He's not too keen on having things over his head now either and he likes to pull my top right up so he can get his hand there too.

juggling maybe she could feel eyes staring at her

[ManifestoMT]

I think it's disgusting that women are breast feeding without a covering. They should be MADE to wear this covering

m.flickr.com/#/photos/8671041@N07/4794526851/

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

I think everyone should wear those, even if they're not bf!

[PoppyAmex]

It's a very natural act... so are the acts of urinating or defecating or inserting a tampon for example.

Some people don't feel comfortable exposing much skin in public; that's not sad or terrible it's their choice.

Let's not make this yet another issue for breastfeeding women to worry about ffs.

I know I had plenty to worry about in terms of right latching / baby comfort etc. to also be laden with some sort of weird guilt for not making a stand and "owning" my breastfeeding in public.

[ManifestoMT]

They are good aren't they.

Being serious though I used to use a pashmina. It stopped any unnecessary nipple flashing when they got distracted and unmatched themselves. More to the point it hid my stained feeding bra from public judgement.

I used to leek like a fountain

[ManifestoMT]

Leak not leek although cabbage leaves made an appearance

[Mintyy]

Dear God, I really do wish people wouldn't compare breastfeeding to going to the toilet or inserting a tampon!!!

[ShatnersBassoon]

OP, you must get upset every time you see clothed women if a piece of cloth covering a bare breast truly saddens you

[PoppyAmex]

Sorry if you find it offensive somehow, but it is a physiological function (albeit possibly a very emotive one for some).

[threefeethighandrising]

MrsCosmopilite that's funny

Thank goodness she noticed!

[LadyBryan]

I'd far rather someone breastfed in the way they felt comfortable rather than not at all.

Might not be anything to do with whether she feels comfortable - maybe baby is a nosy little thing and won't concentrate unless under a cover.

I fed my daughter to 3.5 years, never once used a cover and didn't care who saw what. Doesn't mean everyone feels that way

[LadyBryan]

Oh and IMO if people are unhappy about seeing breastfeeding mothers then that is FAR more their issue than mine.

I have nice boobs

[ShatnersBassoon]

I've got decent boobs too, but I always attempted to keep them covered when I was breastfeeding, just like I do when I'm sitting in a cafe not breastfeeding. I'm not used to having bare breasts in public, so I feel more comfortable by keeping them covered, no matter what I'm doing.

[whiteandyellowiris]

I find it sad she feel a need to do this too.
I mean that's what they are for for goodness sake

[rainrainandmorerain]

of course YABU. And with bf rates being so low here, objecting to covers is fiddling while Rome burns.

I never used/don't use an actual cover for bf-ing, but then I had/have a baby who latches on well, feeds easily, and as I'm quite clumsy, just lifting my top and unclipping a bra strap is as much as I want to deal with (also a cover would be one more thing to take with me on a trip out).

But if I had bleeding nipples, a fussy baby, very explosive let down or anything else which made it complicated, I'd be glad I had another option to explore.

The threads about covers always go the same way. A lot of contradictory guff and muddled thinking along the lines of 'how silly, women should just get their breasts out anywhere and be totally unselfconscious! and I always used a muslin or pashmina to cover up anyway...'

Which amounts to nothing more than 'my way is right and someone else's is wrong.' Pointless. Remember too that for women who have suffered sexual assault or abuse, issues of control over our bodies and who sees them can be difficult and emotive. A cover could be a godsend.

[LadyBryan]

Shatners, my comment was a touch tongue in cheek. I don't mean I get my bazookas out at every given opportunity. But nor am I willing to be made uncomfortable by people moaning because they might see a flash

[MoominsYonisAreScary]

Oh yes the explosive let down in the beginning , I managed to hit the toddler from across the room a few times.

[sarkyone]

I fed ds1 till he was 3. Never used a cover. Now ds2 is a different matter. I use a cover all the time as it's too hot to wear another layer - even in this dismal summer, he fusses and gets distracted if he can see all around and I have very big boobs and a lot of flesh gets exposed!

If I forgot my cover I'd still feed him but would tuck something into my bra strap to cover his head!

[zoraqueenofzeep]

yabu, not everybody is happy with exposing their breasts, I wouldn't get mine out in public for anything and for the first few months after childbirth there is no way I would have risked anybody seeing a flash of flabby flesh anywhere else on my out of shape torso either. Breastfeeding covers are great for those who want to feed while maintaining bodily privacy. Women have the right to feed in whatever way makes them feel comfortable.