...about wee in the kitchen sink?

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Genuinely don't know who is being unreasonable in this situation! I was visiting neighbour. We all live in tall terraced houses, with no downstairs loo. Her DD is potty training, so there was a potty in the kitchen, on a mat. DD used the potty- then her Mum emptied it in the kitchen sink and washed it away with water.

I was a bit (shock). She saw my face, and explained that wee is actually sterile when it comes out, which explains why you can drink it (if you want!) and that she puts bleach down the sink every evening, and doesn't ever use the sink for anything except getting water, as all dirty pots go in dishwasher, and she doesn't do handwashing! Plus- it was only a little girl fairy wee....
I felt that although it's not something I would do, I could see her point. However, when I told DP he was appalled, and is now refusing to go round there next weekend for the BBQ we've been invited to. Says he wouldn't enjoy the food! I've pointed out that it's unlikely she'll marinade the sausages in the sink, but he won't be budged.
So- is she unreasonable for tipping wee in the sink?
Am I unreasonable really not to care?
Or is DP unreasonable for being horrified and refusing to go round?

DP has agrees to listen to Mumsnet jury!
Thanks for reading!

this really would not bother me... if the person had a washing up bowl that they used for utensils and just held salad stuff under the tap to rinse..

its a bit of wee and after the tap has been turned on, it is a negligible if at all trace of very diluted wee... it wont kill anyone..

there is probably more piss in the tapwater that we drink daily..

fairy wee? Sounds like she's away with the fairies!

I would g,o make excuses for DH, avoid eating, then never eat or drink there again.

I actually stopped eating and drinking at a friends house because of her sink habits not urine bit worse than that I think. friends kids often ill with minor ailments and now I think I might know why.

There's obviously no such thing as 'clean', when you really analyze it. Which we are doing.

It would be impossible, and not even desireable, to be totally germ free. It's not something i get overly hung up about. The closest we ever got to it is in an operating theater (Hopefully)

But i still wouldn't want wee in my kitchen sink.

And yes, i eat out - but i hope for the best and don't think too hard about it. I would hope though, that kitchen staff in a decent restaurant would be washing their hands in the wash hand basins in the toilet area, after using the toilet, rather than the kitchen sinks?

NEVER EAT OR DRINK THERE AGAIN

For all you know she might piss all over the salad and cook actual dead animals - can you imagine?

I would personally break off the friendship, seal her entire house (for the safety of the neighbourhood) and disinfect you and your family straight away.

THINK OF THE CHILDREN!!!!

Not that bothered. I use a washing up bowl in the sink and consider that the 'clean' bit in which to wash salad or whatever.

Don't see the problem with brushing teeth or washing a baby or anything else in a kitchen sink.

Re midwives and wee in the sink from sample pot, my midwife did that and when one of my boys had wee tested for urine infection the Dr did the same, tested wee, tipped it into the sink, rinsed sink and washed his hands. They must do it with all urine samples, pot then went in yellow bin.

When preg I often weed into a jug or cup to then tip into the little tube, tipped down toilet, rinsed and then washed in hot soapy water.

People often recommend bathing baby in the kitchen sink, pretty sure most babies will pee whilst in sink/bath.

Frankly I'd have her shot for 'fairy wee' alone.
Strangely, the actual issue wouldn't bother me much if she does clean as she says, though I would have expected it to, and personally I wouldn't ever do that.

Actually, although the wee may be sterile, wheat about the potty? As soon as it hits, what's it picking up? I may be revising my previous lax statement.

Was something in the paper at the weekend about how lots of 21st century health problems are caused by everyone being hyperhygeinic and how it was a good idea to be a little bit less fussy about foods. They were talking about asthma and similar. If the sink's been rinsed, don't see what the problem is. Fairy wee though? Dear God.

Do people not clean potties, I use an anti bacterial bathroom spray after I rinse it then that and hot water. Plus give it a good scrub every so often, but tbh don't use thte potty much just a seat on the toilet which also gets cleaned with bathroom cleaner.

Urine is totally sterile

My mum does this when we are at her house. Her house is 3 storey with the kitchen at the bottom. She lets dd use the potty then empties it in to the sink. She does bleach the sink after though. I tend to trek up the stairs if I'm there to empty it.

At home dd doesn't use a potty so I think she waits til she is in end kitchen at grandma's so she can use the potty.

This post reminds me of the story DH tells of the horror of discovering his climbing partner used to wee in his pot if camping overnight at a climb. The same pot he used to brew tea in for everyone in the morning. Never took any food or drink of him again. Yuk

This is my favourite autocorrect:

1. Aw, I miss you too..

2. Don't think I'm weird but I am sleeping with that shit you left in the bathroom.

3. WHAT?

4. Yeah it smells like you and it makes me feel better when you're not here

5. If you're trying to be cute or funny it's not working

6. oooooohhhhhhhh mmmmmmyyyyyyyyyyyy godddddddddddddddd
   **SHIRTS
   I am going to kill myself right now.

Oh and this one:

1. I love you

2. I love you too with all my heart
   Don't forget that

3. I never wipe

5madthings I'm glad you don't use the potty much. Did it get too small?

rhubarb

But I can shamefully admit that when our toilet was blocked and whilst waiting for repair man after dp had spent hours trying to fix it I did actually poo in the potty I was busting and the neighbors were out. It was an interesting experience....

I used to bathe and guinea pigs in the kitchen sink. I once had to do a chicken as well when its bottom was a bit dirty.

I bleached afterwards.

You had to do a chicken when its bottom was dirty?

Is this a confession?

Just for the record, you used to bathe in the kitchen sink with your guinea pigs and do chickens with dirty bums. After which you would bleach.

And they say I'm weird!

No, I put them into the kitchen sink by themselves, I didn't get in with them. I bleached the sink after I'd finished bathing them. The chicken's bottom had to be bathed as well.

I've done this before, I couldn't really care less about tiny children's wee.... I would pretend I do though and dispose of it properly if I had visitors. So all of you people who wouldn't eat at the home of an occasional piss-sink-chucker may never be totally safe

Not surprised after you'd done it hiddenhome! Poor chicken.

I wee in the bag of guests.

I once took part in an OCD experiment where we all had to wash our hands in the toilet (a flushed one, mind!) and then eat biscuits without wiping/ rewashing hands... guess what - nobody died! I'm firmly in the "building up the immune system" camp of hygiene (cos I'm lazy)