...about wee in the kitchen sink?

[stoopstofolly]

Genuinely don't know who is being unreasonable in this situation! I was visiting neighbour. We all live in tall terraced houses, with no downstairs loo. Her DD is potty training, so there was a potty in the kitchen, on a mat. DD used the potty- then her Mum emptied it in the kitchen sink and washed it away with water.
I was a bit (shock). She saw my face, and explained that wee is actually sterile when it comes out, which explains why you can drink it (if you want!) and that she puts bleach down the sink every evening, and doesn't ever use the sink for anything except getting water, as all dirty pots go in dishwasher, and she doesn't do handwashing! Plus- it was only a little girl fairy wee....
I felt that although it's not something I would do, I could see her point. However, when I told DP he was appalled, and is now refusing to go round there next weekend for the BBQ we've been invited to. Says he wouldn't enjoy the food! I've pointed out that it's unlikely she'll marinade the sausages in the sink, but he won't be budged.
So- is she unreasonable for tipping wee in the sink?
Am I unreasonable really not to care?
Or is DP unreasonable for being horrified and refusing to go round?

DP has agrees to listen to Mumsnet jury!
Thanks for reading!

[lottiegarbanzo]

Well, in a kindly meant sort of way, your DP is nuts.

Germs are everywhere. Once he's sterilised your house and sealed himself into a bubble, then maybe I see his point. Otherwise, nah.

[formicadinosaur]

dh is over reacting. Yes it is gross but they aren't having a BBQ in the sink.

[SuedeEffectPochette]

I like to think I have high standards but this would not really bother me. A poo in the kitchen sink would though!

[cantspel]

Your average bbq contains twice as many germs as your loo seat. Does that mean you wont be having a bbq?

Oh and better give up oral sex as well as there is 42 unique kinds of bacteria inhabiting the skin of the penis.

[BlackeyedSusan]

logically, you go to the loo, wash your hands and think no more of it. you then eat food that has been prepared with hands that have had poo, or wee on them.

does he wash his hands everytime he goes to the loo?

[lottiegarbanzo]

Also, he only know about this because you saw it. Just think of all the horrors, happening in every house you ever visit, that you don't know about... Ergo, he cannot leave his (sterilized, vacuum-packed) house.

[lessonsintightropes]

TantrumsandBalloons and THERhubarb you have both made me snort wine out of my nose laugh harder than I have in ages. Thank you both so much and particularly for making me feel less shit about being a bad housekeeper being slightly more relaxed about this than other posters.

[stoopstofolly]

This has been my second mumsnet post EVER. In years of lurking. Thank you to everyone. I've howled with laughter and decided to relax my (already lax) housekeeping standards further, as there is obviously NO POINT IN EVEN TRYING. DP has now read all 6 pages of comment, and is frankly in shock. Certainly gave us something different to discuss over supper!

[EugenesAxe]

everlong - in theory no it wouldn't bother me DH pissing in the sink. In practice I'd ask him not to because his piss seems to go everywhere, and with a Pourty I can direct the jet straight down the plughole.

stubborn - I also have a pathological hatred of the word pussy. I once happened to see a documentary about zoophilia (slightly more socially acceptable bestiality), in which some fat, greasy farmer from a state in the Deep South explained his love for his horse - after seeing her take a piss one day - with the words: ''Nd I thought: "Horse pussy. Girl pussy. Pussy."'

I hated it before that, but it took it to new levels of grossness.

[THERhubarb]

I sometimes work in a B&B as a cleaner. You would not believe the disgusting mess some people leave for us to clean.

One lady shat in a towel, wrapped it in tin foil and left it on the table.

Others I swear use towels as toilet rolls, they must floss their arses with them.

Some piss the beds - you can tell these ones as they make the bed really nicely for you. Gawd knows why they don't strip it.

I have come to the conclusion, after more than a year of cleaning up other people's mess, that the majority of people have very little in the way of standards. Either that or they let their standards down big time when they go away. They spill coffee on the sheets, they eat biscuits in bed, they never rinse the shower after them, they leave streaks of toothpaste in the sink, they wipe their make-up off with towels and some of them, I swear, must wipe their arses on the carpet doggy style.

As for love juice (or love-jizz) don't get me started, I've found it on the curtains!

So next time you ever stay in a guest house or B&B just remember that the cleaner is quietly judging you on what state you leave the room in. So wipe your arses with the toilet paper provided and tell your men not to spray their love-jizz like a fountain over the room please.

[emmyt1]

Why did the mum not get the child to use toilet paper to clean herself after or was this also thrown down the sink? Pretty disgusting way to teach personal hygiene!