...about wee in the kitchen sink?

[stoopstofolly]

Genuinely don't know who is being unreasonable in this situation! I was visiting neighbour. We all live in tall terraced houses, with no downstairs loo. Her DD is potty training, so there was a potty in the kitchen, on a mat. DD used the potty- then her Mum emptied it in the kitchen sink and washed it away with water.
I was a bit (shock). She saw my face, and explained that wee is actually sterile when it comes out, which explains why you can drink it (if you want!) and that she puts bleach down the sink every evening, and doesn't ever use the sink for anything except getting water, as all dirty pots go in dishwasher, and she doesn't do handwashing! Plus- it was only a little girl fairy wee....
I felt that although it's not something I would do, I could see her point. However, when I told DP he was appalled, and is now refusing to go round there next weekend for the BBQ we've been invited to. Says he wouldn't enjoy the food! I've pointed out that it's unlikely she'll marinade the sausages in the sink, but he won't be budged.
So- is she unreasonable for tipping wee in the sink?
Am I unreasonable really not to care?
Or is DP unreasonable for being horrified and refusing to go round?

DP has agrees to listen to Mumsnet jury!
Thanks for reading!

[emmyt1]

Why did the mum not get the child to use toilet paper to clean herself after or was this also thrown down the sink? Pretty disgusting way to teach personal hygiene!

[THERhubarb]

I sometimes work in a B&B as a cleaner. You would not believe the disgusting mess some people leave for us to clean.

One lady shat in a towel, wrapped it in tin foil and left it on the table.

Others I swear use towels as toilet rolls, they must floss their arses with them.

Some piss the beds - you can tell these ones as they make the bed really nicely for you. Gawd knows why they don't strip it.

I have come to the conclusion, after more than a year of cleaning up other people's mess, that the majority of people have very little in the way of standards. Either that or they let their standards down big time when they go away. They spill coffee on the sheets, they eat biscuits in bed, they never rinse the shower after them, they leave streaks of toothpaste in the sink, they wipe their make-up off with towels and some of them, I swear, must wipe their arses on the carpet doggy style.

As for love juice (or love-jizz) don't get me started, I've found it on the curtains!

So next time you ever stay in a guest house or B&B just remember that the cleaner is quietly judging you on what state you leave the room in. So wipe your arses with the toilet paper provided and tell your men not to spray their love-jizz like a fountain over the room please.

[EugenesAxe]

everlong - in theory no it wouldn't bother me DH pissing in the sink. In practice I'd ask him not to because his piss seems to go everywhere, and with a Pourty I can direct the jet straight down the plughole.

stubborn - I also have a pathological hatred of the word pussy. I once happened to see a documentary about zoophilia (slightly more socially acceptable bestiality), in which some fat, greasy farmer from a state in the Deep South explained his love for his horse - after seeing her take a piss one day - with the words: ''Nd I thought: "Horse pussy. Girl pussy. Pussy."'

I hated it before that, but it took it to new levels of grossness.

[stoopstofolly]

This has been my second mumsnet post EVER. In years of lurking. Thank you to everyone. I've howled with laughter and decided to relax my (already lax) housekeeping standards further, as there is obviously NO POINT IN EVEN TRYING. DP has now read all 6 pages of comment, and is frankly in shock. Certainly gave us something different to discuss over supper!

[lessonsintightropes]

TantrumsandBalloons and THERhubarb you have both made me snort wine out of my nose laugh harder than I have in ages. Thank you both so much and particularly for making me feel less shit about being a bad housekeeper being slightly more relaxed about this than other posters.

[lottiegarbanzo]

Also, he only know about this because you saw it. Just think of all the horrors, happening in every house you ever visit, that you don't know about... Ergo, he cannot leave his (sterilized, vacuum-packed) house.

[BlackeyedSusan]

logically, you go to the loo, wash your hands and think no more of it. you then eat food that has been prepared with hands that have had poo, or wee on them.

does he wash his hands everytime he goes to the loo?

[cantspel]

Your average bbq contains twice as many germs as your loo seat. Does that mean you wont be having a bbq?

Oh and better give up oral sex as well as there is 42 unique kinds of bacteria inhabiting the skin of the penis.

[SuedeEffectPochette]

I like to think I have high standards but this would not really bother me. A poo in the kitchen sink would though!

[formicadinosaur]

dh is over reacting. Yes it is gross but they aren't having a BBQ in the sink.

[lottiegarbanzo]

Well, in a kindly meant sort of way, your DP is nuts.

Germs are everywhere. Once he's sterilised your house and sealed himself into a bubble, then maybe I see his point. Otherwise, nah.

[curlew]

So. You go to the fridge, and find that there is some forgotten beef stock you made that's gone off. What do you do with it and where do you wash the bowl it was in?

[Fuzzymum1]

I wouldn't like it and I'm not sure I'd want to eat there even though I know t's unlikely to cause a problem. What horrified me was an obsessive very house-proud person I knew who spent about 6 hours every day cleaning her house emptied her son's potty down the kitchen sink, rinsed it with water, then dried it with the dishcloth and continued wiping down the draining board! I never ever went to her house again!

[Ubermumsy]

In a similar vein, do the easily shockable know about what might be called "foreign matter" tolerances for food? As in, the allowable quantity of stuff like bird droppings, rat shit, insect appendages etc in chocolate, or flour, or peanut butter etc. Good ol' Wikipedia entry here

Bearing in mind that much of it is invisible to the naked eye. So you don't even know you're eating it.

And don't get me started on faecal contamination of meat, especially mince. If cooked thoroughly then it's not hazardous, but you're still eating cooked cow pats.

Bon appetit!

[limitedperiodonly]

cum shopping

Another reason why it's a good idea to avoid facebook.

Wee spores and poo particles. Nooooo

[cunexttuesonline]

I did this when DS was toilet training if I couldn't be arsed to walk upstairs and bleached sink daily.

[TantrumsAndBalloons]

Ok, booby juice is worse than lace panties.

And I am not a fan of the word cum either.

Especially when people use it the wrong way on FB etc.
for example my cousin.
Do you want to cum shopping today?

All wrong.

[stubbornstains]

"Pussy". Ack.

And as someone upthread has just pointed out, any house containing a potty training toddler is bound to have every surface coated in invisible wee spores. Just embrace it, and think of the exercise it's giving your immune system.

[TimeofChange]

I think toothbrush covers are not good.
Surely it the germs breed faster than if they are exposed to the normal air.

In the same way that a damp dishcloth festers if left in a heap, but is fine if hung over the taps.

Bleach isn't good for the environment either.

[limitedperiodonly]

Booby juice. I might die now.

[limitedperiodonly]

I hate boob.

Breasts, tits, anything but the coy 'boob', or worse 'boobies'

And 'on the boob' for breastfeeding makes me cringe.