daughter given choc cake at scool, she is allergic to cows' milk.

[MyNameIsRio]

That. They all know. Had their new teacher (who they will be having next year) for Fri afternoon and she was given birthday cake. Her own teacher has a stack of her own snacks. Now do I write to new teacher and headteacher?

Rio: Some people on here are incredibly ignorant.

I have no idea whether you should ignore them or not.

Speak and write to the school, so they have no excuse in the future.

Most shop cakes have dairy in - though I'm sure you know that already.

My DD thought her 8 year old had grown out of her dairy intolerance, so she had a small amount of cheese for three or four days.
We realised she was still intolerant when she thought she was trumping and pooed herself (twice).
I have been told that if you do not grow out of dairy intolerance or allergy.
For the doubters - I was told it by a homeopath so it is probably untrue and woo.

Best wishes to you and your DD.

Threads like this scare the absolute shit out of me.

Threads like this could kill my son.

I dread when he goes to school for this exact reason.

Not threads, 'mistakes'.

Just checked my marj again and it says 'may contain traces of dairy'. It is all other fats such as vegetable fat. I presume by 'may contain traces' it is saying that it should be dairy free but they cannot guarantee it.

Obviously it then depends on how intolerant/allergic a child is.

I just think it is a honest mistake and fortunately no harm was done. Therefore a quiet word to the teacher would be enough.

I react to milk, I get an upset tummy and generally spend the morning after on the toilet for an hour or so.

Anyway, I don't react to cheese or butter. I know what I have is not a true allergy, might be lactose intolerance.

So I might not think a child allergic to milk couldn't have cake.

I agree with saying 'dairy' rather than milk.

The point is that the reaction could have been worse - yes the child was "lucky" this time but ALLERGIC REACTIONS CAN BE FATAL and have to be taken seriously.

The point is not that the reaction was mild, the point is that the child was given allergens by a teacher and the op was asking for advice on how to deal with this.

No one has done the op any favours by retesting her son. Tests and challenges need to be done in a controlled way with advice from a specialist. Not just a "lets see what happens" approach.

No one was saying that the op should go in shouting and screaming to the nursery!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If this was a thread about a child not being given medication, or say, a 4 year old child being allowed to cross a busy road on their own the responses would have been very different.

What youarewinning said.

Allergic responses can vary and be mild one time and then dangerous next time
Exposing a child to something they have had a serious reaction to is a.big slip up.

Kobayashi..may I suggest you educate yourself and stop being so bloody rude to the OP.

How was she given cake without your permission anyway? We have to get parents' signatures for any kind of food eating/tasting (besides their normal fruit snack).

Not sure the reactions wold have been different harverina, to be honest.

And thats from a parent who has more challenges with her dc than most, along with some significant mistakes by teachers and health care professionals. I just think everyone is human and there has to be some acceptance of that. Mistakes happen, and yes sometimes they can result in a dreadful consequence as I know from bitter experience. But thats life.

You must tread carefully with allergies.

Dd tested clear to tuna and salmon..school unbeknownst to me shovelled tuna into her.

She was OK.

I tried her with small piece of salmon and she ended up in hospital

Allergies are not fads or being PFB.

I don't need educating thanks, I've a lifetime of knowledge about allergies.

If this was a thread about a child not being given medication, or say, a 4 year old child being allowed to cross a busy road on their own the responses would have been very different.

Exactly Harverina, I nearly posted similar myself. just because the consequences were not severe this time does not change the fact that the child was under the care of the school and this should not have happened. It could potentially be a fatal outcome if it happens again.

No one has done the op any favours by retesting her son. Tests and challenges need to be done in a controlled way with advice from a specialist. Not just a "lets see what happens" approach.

Exactly. Nobody knows how someone with an allergy will react which is why foods are best avoided if they are known problem foods unless being reintroduced under medical advice.

It will have been an honest mistake from the teacher, and thankfully the consequences were only 'mild' however, next time it could be a more serious reaction (for the OPs child or any other with allergies) so perhaps its a good time for the school to think about how the train ALL staff on such matters.

My sister has allergies at at school her photo with a list of relevant information on the allergy was in the staff room, the food tech room and every teacher who taught her was aware - this was in a secondary school so in a primary setting that should be even easier to do.

Well kobayashi your lifetime of knowledge missed the fact that a reaction can be mild one time and not the next.

TSC I sympathise with you trying to be helpful at first and getting head bitten off but people taking allergies seriously are not "hysterical loons".

My DD has had mild reactions and also ones requiring hospital treatment.

MyNameIsRio - how did you inform the school of the allergy, did your GP do a letter? If they have specific medical advice like that they should be taking it seriously, if your GP is friendly I would be asking them to scribe a quick note in the guise of keeping the school up to date, to reiterate that she must not have dairy and will be retested in hospital when she is 7.

My understanding is that having a diet completely omitting the allergen gives the best chance of outgrowing it, so I would be v v pissed off.

No "hysterical posturing" here.

Shouldn't belittle people's real concerns like that.

moremint I'm afraid it's just the nature of AIBU, that some posters feel the need to rip shreds off the OP when most normal sane people would agree that she is NBU.

OP what has your childs worse reaction ever been?

I have dreams regularly about my son accidentally being given something with milk or eggs in and he doesnt have a reaction or has a mild one, in my dream Im thrilled. I wake up and I am gutted.

Im real life, I dread him accidentally being given an allergen.

But if he was, and his reaction was mild, Id be doing cart wheels all the way home.

That does not mean its ok for the, to fuck up though, for all the reasons mentioned above.

You should speak to the teacher and make her very aware your dd has an allergy.

My ds1 has a very sever milk and egg allergy, he cannot even touch anything containing them. The first few reactions were mild though, hives and vomiting (before we knew) and after the third exposure his whole face and throat swelled and he had to go to a+e. He is re tested every year (he's 6).

Dd2 on the other hand (3) had the same reactions but is also retested yearly and seems to have all but grown out of her milk allergy (but cannot yet tolerate milk to drink or yogurt). All reactions are different, sometimes dcs have a milder reaction sometimes very severe. You never know with allergies so its better to be on the safe side.

It may be worth having your dd tested again, but like with my dd a 'negative' test doesn't mean 100% they are no longer allergic at all.she can only tolerate dairy in cooked products so far.

You can buy the wristbands off amazon saying dairy allergic, I have them for my dcs for when they go on trips/to parties etc.

But TSC, no one on this thread has suggested going in all guns blazing or blaming. But they do need to be told that this happened and remind them of her DD's allergies.