to think that most women would rather have a girl/girls than a boy/boys?

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I have read so many posts with pregnant mothers who are upset that they are having a ds and in real life I find that mothers who have all boys or boys first, tend to denigrate them to mums of girls and put their daughters on pedestals. Mums of girls tend to not mind having no boys whereas all boy mums seem to feel sad that they have only boys. I have never come across any women who only wanted boy(s).

Am I right in thinking that most women want to have girls and wouldn't mind having all girls if they have more than one child, whereas boys are almost always seen as second best and not the desired choice of most women?

I think most parents can't imagine better kids than the ones they have.

tumbletumbe;: "before the baby is born women want a girl". Er, well thats' just utter rubbish, isn't it?

FussandMess: "No one ever admits it you see". Glad she's hiident he thread. Hope she never comes back. Seeing as she is so stupid and set in her ways, thats she's decided to hide the thread, becasue no one could convince her. Becuase they just can't admit it to themselves.

What a idiot, she is.
Good ridance.

Is this what other MOTHERS are? God save me, from being included in this group, or other people thinking I am such a moron as her.

Goes off... don't know why I am so aggitated by just stupid women .......

NO

I didn't mind which I had. Got a boy. He's got endless energy, loves mud and all things toilet, won't sleep eat or do anything without a fight. Very very boyish. Everything is a car or train.....and I couldn't be happier!
Would love to have another DC one day, and don't mind if its a boy or a girl. :-)

The things is with girls is all that picking flowers, plaiting hair and playing with dollies - I couldn't bear all that

I wanted a boy, as it happens it was twins and we had one of each. I love having those awesome little people. When we were told it was twins we hoped for one of each or if same sex then 2 boys.

Wonder if folk who are so set on the sex should really be having children.

Begonia - if you adopt and express a preference for one sex, you would be expected to give some really well thought through reasons why you should be allowed to "prefer" one sex over another.

I really don't think "I think we just think girls are nicer in general" would cut it

Its been a real eye opener to me - not that some people would prefer a girl child over a boy but how convinced some people are that everyone must feel that way, how egocentric can you get!

It does explain why boys are more difficult to place for adoption though if that is the prevailing attitude in women. But didn't you all marry, well you know boys (or at least mostly)?

Agree begonia. They should be disgusted with themselves.

All this "Oh but I don't like manicures and pink" bullshit. Or "Well I like running around muddy fields" shit. I hope you got boys who like fashion and girls who like cars you judgemental fucks. Stop projecting your gender stereotypes on your children before you irreperably harm the next generation with your closed minded idiocy.

And I hope your children never know how you wished them away for a different, 'better' child.

I have a sil who has 8 yr old twin girls and although they are not identical, she always dresses them exactly the same, from head to toe in pink!

It really grates on me.

But when I see a little boy dressed in little mans clothes my heart melts. Aaaw, likkle boys!!

Stuntgirl:

I'm not a judgemental fuck wit, I couldn't care less what sex parents prefer ( if any ? ) - but given the choice I would have preferred girls.

Sorry for daring to express an opinion.

Really lucky to have two healthy children - I am grateful to for that - could not really have given a toss whether they were boys or girls

Hear, hear Hugglepuff

I wanted a boy. I was convinced I was having a boy. I got a boy. I don't know why but there you go. When he was born I probably would have thought 'Ooh, there's a turn up' if they'd handed me a girl, then I would have fallen desperately in love with her and not have cared one single jot that she was a girl, because she would have been mine. I would have embraced pink and dolls and all enjoyed shopping for hair bobbles. How utterly horrible to think otherwise.

two boys here could, nt love them more please don't tell me what I would wish for!

Ok, fair enough. I have been proved wrong and I accept that it was a mistake to make these assumptions. Apologies to all. .

a lot of absolute shart is on this thread

I wanted kids, didnt care what gender. I have two boys and am constantly getting "aww, will you try for a girl" .

kewcumber, I've never understood that either! All these women who shudder at the thought of a boy and most of them live with a bloke! They must be delighted you think so little of their own gender .

the toys try 5 boys and constantly getting "are you trying for a girl?"

makes my piss curl!

Breathe, that's so interesting what you say about having one of each and making gender assumptions based on that. Lots of my friends with one of each tend to do that!

It's only when you have two or more of the same gender that you realise how different they are regardless of gender.

My eldest is incredibly sensitive and over thinks everything, which a lot of my friends describe as a girl trait, and my youngest is very fussy about what he wears and whether it "matches" or not!

I don't know why so many women have a fear of boys - it's terribly sad and it hurts when those comments are said about your own children within earshot of them.

Fenton poppy cock, my boys pick flowers for my hsir, DS2 loves stroking my hair ( and weeding out grey hairs!) and granted they don't play with dolls, but I swear they can pitch their screams that they sound like girls!!!

I hoped my tongue in cheek was obvious mumof6

My boys are screamers too, make daisy chains and have tea parties for their dinosaurs.

"I would have embraced pink and dolls and all enjoyed shopping for hair bobbles."

This is the assumption I'm talking about. So if your female child, once born, and developed with a personality all of her own, didn't like your preconceived notions of what being female meant, what then?

I think you are talking bollocks OP. I have never heard such pathetic nonsense in all my life. You may not have met any mums who prefer/preferred just to have boys but I am one of those mums.

I can't think what else to say I find your post so ridiculous.