To ban kissing my baby on the lips

[Nora2012]

I'm not sure if I'm the only person in the world who has this view but I hate when other people kiss my baby on the lips. My MIL is the main culprit and it makes my skin crawl. I won't deny that we don't get on, so that exasperates the issue, but it's not just a hello/goodbye kiss, she picks bet up and just slobbers all over her face. DD is only 6 months old but has started cringing, I'm sure she doesn't like it, she doesn't laugh. The MIL also smokes and although I won't allow DD near when she's actually smoking her breath constantly stinks of smoke. How do I approach this situation? My husband and I show DD affection all the time, so she's not lacking in love. I just feel she doesn't treat DD as a person with a right to her own personal space she just treats her like a doll who's just there for her to pull and poke.

Ugh hate people kissing others (excluding partners) on the lips and really hate people kissing babies on the lips, particularly mine.

How on earth will you breach it though, so so tricky. I once did it to a friend who would with fag breath kiss my nephew. I did it in a jokey but I mean it way, think. I do think thatthat was so much easier than doing it about my own child. However you do it you will be thought of as being precious.

I've never had anyone try to kiss any of my babies on the lips. If they did I would have told them straight not to do it again. I didn't kiss my children on the lips. I don't kiss my grandchildren on the lips.

I have to say that my mother never kissed us on the lips either, the reason being that the herpes virus could be passed on that way. It made complete sense to me tbh, so I probably followed her lead there.

Babies' cheeks are for kissing. That's what they were made for!

OP - I hope you don't mind if I come over all disgusted when your baby smacks ME a big drooly slobbery one of the lips! Don't get offended if I make a point of asking you not to let your baby do that again! YUCK!!

The crap you read on this site sometimes...honestly.

Since when were kisses on the lips unhygienic and for grown ups only? I can understand full on snogging being inappropriate but a kiss on the lips?

I kiss my baby on the lips all the time! She loves it. When she looks like she's not enjoying it I'll stop .

pictish surely if you don't want a baby to give you a slobbery kiss on the lips you are more than capable of turning your mouth away so it lands on your cheek?? A 6 month old baby is trapped when granny comes towards them with her fag breath etc so it is a bit different.

If I can see someone has a coldsore they are not even allowed to hold/touch dd because I can't trust that they have not touched their sore or washed their hands properly.

Ignore the people who say YABU, when Fag Ash Lil starts slobbering over their babies, they'll break their necks to start an AIBU thread!!

You all sound deranged!

Bleurgh - I hate to see people kissing babies or children on the lips. Just odd.

How do you avoid your babies kissing you on the lips?!! I couldn't if I wanted to, DD2 actively wants to kiss me on the lips, I'm not going to stop her!

I just hate this! To me kissing on the lips is between partners. I would have to say something to her.

Yuck. YANBU.

I am amazed that people think kissing babies on the lips isn't a bit odd.

There you are now, OP, plenty of backup for your views that your mother in law shouldn't kiss your baby on the lips, completely unconnected to the fact that you dislike her.

So, what will you ban next?

I am amazed that people think kissing babies on the lips isn't a bit odd.

I'm amazed that people think that's the only place you shouldn't kiss babies.

Oh my word. I'm slightly in shock over the number of people who think kissing your baby on the lips is odd. This might actually be the weirdest thread I've come across in a long time.

It's just a kiss. It's a sign of affection.

Apocalypse. I am now wondering if I have in some way harmed my DC by not kissing them on the lips as babies.

I kissed every square inch of my three babies, including their lips. They kissed me too...on the lips!! I still kiss all three...ON THE LIPS!!!
What disgusting people we are.

I'm amazed that people think kissing the product of their wombs (or their wife's womb) is gross is weird. They are babies! I get why you wouldn't want fag breath but in general, I don't get people who are anti-lip kissing.

I think I have left it a bit late pictish. DSs are 13 and 11. not a chance.

They are all bonkers...and they have congregated on this here thread to celebrate their shared lunacy.

What an odd thread, amazed at the amount of people who think there is something 'wrong' about kissing a baby on the lips.

My eldest is 11. I just asked him 'give us a kiss then' and he did - on my lips! MWAH! Just like that!
The filthy oddball.

When DS2 comes in I will give it a whirl pictish.

I think it is a normal sign of affection, and helps to create a bond. I would genuinely think that someone who didn't kiss their babies on the lips was somehow uptight or repressed, or had some weird hang ups.

My parents always kissed us on the lips, in fact I probably do still kiss them on the lips sometimes.

I am pleased that some more normal people have arrived with the same opinion. I was, once again, feeling like I was occupying some kind of parallel universe to the rest of MN!

Oh no Ali. I don't think I am uptight or repressed.