to feel upset that the guy I met for a drink turns out to have been charged for grooming a 13 year old girl?

[drfayray]

He was found not guilty. Linguistics saved him...will explain more.

I have been internet dating and have been meeting quite a few men recently. I am a great believer in meeting as soon as possible. I also wait to be contacted. This one person D seemed interesting (is an actor -small roles) and was quite amusing. He told me that he rarely meets women in real life but suggested meeting me. So I go to a bar that I know well in a suburb (am in Brisbane) that I frequent so I feel safe. He turns up and we talk. He is a bit of a luvvie about his acting. He talks about himself and does not even ask me anything about myself. Now this may sound arrogant and I am sorry if it does but he does not make any remarks about my looks. All the men, without fail, have complimented me on my looks. I do not look my age as am 51 but can pass for late 30s. He also did not fancy me...I felt that quite strongly. I can usually tell too.

There is something about him that irks me...I cannot put my finger on it. Anyway, after an hour we leave with him saying 'I will call you!" Yeah sure bud...

Then I google him. I don't know why I did this..I have never googled any of the guys I have met. Usually...they might want a second meeting and I don't. Then that is it. I chuck 'em out of my mind. But this D...

I find his roles in tv and plays. I find a lot of pix of him. Then I find that in 2007 he was found not guilty of grooming a 13 year old girl The so-called girl was actually a policeman. The things that D wrote were awful...things like 'do you have pubic hair yet? or boobs? I like small boobs...and give the 'girl tips on how to masturbate, saying he shouldn't be telling her this but he is so horny....

His defense was that he was role playing and never believed that the girl was a teenage girl. The use of words like spaz and veg and spare (for wagging school) were used to show that the girl was not a girl as no self-respecting teen would use such words. The jury took 6 hours to find him not-guilty.

I feel ill. And I do not understand why he wanted to meet me as he made a point of saying how he was so busy with his acting and his 4 children - he has them one week on one week off - that he rarely met women from the site. He also said that his ex gave him a lot of trouble and the marriage broke down because of her...well it actually fell in with his case...

One of the strange things is that I actually googled him....I don't know what made me do it? My instincts? I do try to listen to them.

This has really shocked me.

[BOF]

Red? Oh yeah. And Easy Living. That's you, that is.

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

AlexReid, where you been?!

[LineRunner]

Well I think the OP looks fab, had a narrow escape from a loon, and lives somewhere more interesting than Skeggie.

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

Easy Living is wankfrippery now. I used to love it when it was all simnel cake recipes, craft ideas, book clubs. Then they started talking about SEX and FASHIONS and i fucked my subscription off. I defected to Essentials. No sex in there. Just how I like it.

[AlexReidsLonelyBraincell]

Oh you know, Doin' this an' that nothing really.

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

Oi! Nowt wrong with Skeggers! I bet that Brisbane doesn't have a promenade as fetching as Skeggie's!

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

Dunno.

I was too busy getting hypnotised by your gently swaying gunt.

[AlexReidsLonelyBraincell]

I had a horse and carriage ride on Skegness front once. Could have died.
I was a good big sister and did it for the love of my much younger sibs.

And that is the sum of my Skeggy memories, oh and maybe the clock on the roundabout?

[BOF]

Gunt?!

[AlexReidsLonelyBraincell]

Heck, the gunt was tucked away in my Primark Spanx, Skanx.

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[MarmaladeTwatkins]

A fine example of a mock-Victorian clock tower, that.

I bet our antipodeon OP cannot boast of a hometown that features such a masterpiece...

[Ulysses]

Some people are not doing themselves any favours on this thread. Very disappointing its turning into a pisstake over a few of the OPs photos.

[AlexReidsLonelyBraincell]

Right, I am off to bed before I say the mean but funny things that are bursting to get out.

[AlexReidsLonelyBraincell]

Yikes, cross posted there.

[Gobbolinothewitchscat]

What is this sex you all talk of

Forget that - I actually need to know who the actor was.

[Salmotrutta]

So am I.

I have to get up tomorrow.

[BOF]

Ah feck, we're just shootin' the breeze now. It can go back on topic as soon as somebody posts sensibly. I'm happy the OP is so pleased with her appearance- she might want to be aware though that it's a bit weird to focus on that when the guy is a peedo though.

[Salmotrutta]

Well quite BOF that's the odd part for me.

[Ulysses]

Nah, your focusing on it more than she is. She was only responding to other comments that she might be piqued that this guy didn't seem to find her attractive. So people have thought it fit to bring up her personal photos. Very bitchy.

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

I've yet to see DrFay post without referring to her looks. She likes to talk about them. It's only natural that some posters might want to reply to her about her favourite subject.

That sounds snarkier than I meant it to but I'm tired and cba to re-phrase.

[Icelollycraving]

Ok,he was found not guilty. The things he said were a bit grim but I do think you came home pissed off that he didn't compliment your good looks in your opinion

[MarmaladeTwatkins]

No-one has commented on OP's appearance, just that the poses in the photos look a bit, erm, uncomfortable.

[BOF]

I still think the emphasis is strange.