to feel upset that the guy I met for a drink turns out to have been charged for grooming a 13 year old girl?

[drfayray]

He was found not guilty. Linguistics saved him...will explain more.

I have been internet dating and have been meeting quite a few men recently. I am a great believer in meeting as soon as possible. I also wait to be contacted. This one person D seemed interesting (is an actor -small roles) and was quite amusing. He told me that he rarely meets women in real life but suggested meeting me. So I go to a bar that I know well in a suburb (am in Brisbane) that I frequent so I feel safe. He turns up and we talk. He is a bit of a luvvie about his acting. He talks about himself and does not even ask me anything about myself. Now this may sound arrogant and I am sorry if it does but he does not make any remarks about my looks. All the men, without fail, have complimented me on my looks. I do not look my age as am 51 but can pass for late 30s. He also did not fancy me...I felt that quite strongly. I can usually tell too.

There is something about him that irks me...I cannot put my finger on it. Anyway, after an hour we leave with him saying 'I will call you!" Yeah sure bud...

Then I google him. I don't know why I did this..I have never googled any of the guys I have met. Usually...they might want a second meeting and I don't. Then that is it. I chuck 'em out of my mind. But this D...

I find his roles in tv and plays. I find a lot of pix of him. Then I find that in 2007 he was found not guilty of grooming a 13 year old girl The so-called girl was actually a policeman. The things that D wrote were awful...things like 'do you have pubic hair yet? or boobs? I like small boobs...and give the 'girl tips on how to masturbate, saying he shouldn't be telling her this but he is so horny....

His defense was that he was role playing and never believed that the girl was a teenage girl. The use of words like spaz and veg and spare (for wagging school) were used to show that the girl was not a girl as no self-respecting teen would use such words. The jury took 6 hours to find him not-guilty.

I feel ill. And I do not understand why he wanted to meet me as he made a point of saying how he was so busy with his acting and his 4 children - he has them one week on one week off - that he rarely met women from the site. He also said that his ex gave him a lot of trouble and the marriage broke down because of her...well it actually fell in with his case...

One of the strange things is that I actually googled him....I don't know what made me do it? My instincts? I do try to listen to them.

This has really shocked me.

Denise Welch is fab. She looks a bit like LaQueen.

She does rather doesn't she? Same hair etc iirc

I think LaQueen looks a lot like Jane Torvill.

OK - I've resisted asking this question up to now.

But I have an itchy trigger finger...

Why are all your photos taken from that peculiar angle? Didnt you get a crick in your neck OP?

Because it's how everyone takes a pic these days: not me though! Although I'm often accused of having a duck face

It's the MySpace pose. Made popular by erm... MySpace.

I wonder if Denise Welch is on MySpace, seeing as it is about ten years out of fashion, much like her fucking clothes.

Is it really?

How bizarre!

Looks ridiculous if you ask me.

Although no-one was asking me.

Who is Denise Welch? Who is LaQueen? Why has this thread gone pearshaped?

The Myspace pose

Thank you Marmalade!

That was funny!

And now I'm going to be good and resist the urge to be naughty.

Because Boffy turned up. It always goes pearshaped when Boffy turns up.

I am rubbish at remembering people on here, but I knew who you were straight away because you never seem to write posts without mentioning your looks. Why?

"2. Look up at the camera with your eyes without lifting your head, because otherwise you will not be accepted by your peers if you use your neck."

If you look up all your wrinkles fall to the back of your head. Tru fact. this is why you should always have sex on your back.

But then your tits fall round your back as well. It's a fucking minefield. Do it standing up. But then your belly swings like a porky pendulam. Oh crikey.

Don't have sex.

That is the answer.

Ooh, erm that sounded like I have mirrors on my ceiling didnt it?

I don't.

Honest.

If you pretend that you are caressing your partners hips you can use your arms to hold your tits up.
Or blindfold your partner.

Oh salmotrutta you dirtbird

Coco- that is genius. I shall implement it forthwith.

Did Cosmo ever do a position of the week that was "best for not displaying pendulous guts/tits"?

Probably not because only lithe young things read Cosmo. I must check Red magazine. They need to get onto this pronto.

I just tried a 'myspace pose' on myself with my iPod. Now I'm almost wetting myself laughing at it!

The things you learn on MN!

I can't do the MySpace thing, one whole half of my face becomes eclipsed in shadow by my impressive hooter. I look like a pouty, crossed eyed Phantom of the Opera.