To wear a bright scarf to dads funeral?

[monkeynuts123]

My father died and I want to show some celebration of his life in an otherwise serious and sad funeral service. I want to wear a bright scarf and will otherwise be wearing black formal clothes. Is a big splash of colour like this going to offend people do you think? Mentioned it to mum and she thinks it's ok but rest of family can be bitter twisted bunch and I don't want to do anything to give cause for attack but at same time want to wear something that symbolises life. I don't want to link to scarf but it's silk and vivid pinks, purples and turquoise.

A bright scarf sounds like a lovely idea. I think more and more people are beginning to wear bright colours to funerals. At my dad's funeral I wore black trousers and jacket, but with a very bright green top. Lots of people wore splashes of colour. Wear your beautiful scarf and remember all the lovely things about your dad.

Definitely do it! He was your dad, and it won't offend anyone.
Like cathpip's sister, I wore 6 inch platform heels to my gran's funeral, along with leggings and a tunic top. My gran was all about her killer heels when she was young, and (luckily for me) I inherited her legs so she loved me wearing stuff that shows them off.
1 auntie sarcastically asked if I was changing into something appropriate! While my mum's cousin told me how much I reminded her of my gran with the heels and looking glam!

Sorry about your dad.

I wore all white to dads, with a christmas decoration in my hair (not as bad as it sounds - it was a weird china butterfly that I had pulled off the tree amd jammed into my hair at new year which had amused my dad greatly at the time). We were called back from holiday so I had to make do with what I had in my case (mum banned black) so they were lucky it wasn't a sarong.

My nan always had fabulous shoes, right until the end she had the most comfortable shoes you can buy, but in snakeskin. When she died me and my sister honoured her by wearing great shoes to her funeral.

He's your dad, celebrate his life as you see fit.

So sorry for your loss. Xx

I've been to a few funerals where colours have been encouraged.

The first (when I was only about 9 and not allowed to go to the service itself), was my DM's uncle's funeral - he'd insisted no black, so the house/street ended up full of men in navy suits and ladies in sober colours (DM I think I remember wore a plum suit).

The second was 6 years ago - friend was a musician (rocker) and only in his 50's so word got out for everyone to wear a colour. I wore a tan skirt with black top & knee high boots, but one man was clothed in a bright purple suit with matching hat and a beautiful jewel coloured scarf - really brought a smile to everyone's faces.

Last one was a very dear friend of mine, who was a tradilionalist but eccentric at the same time. Again, we all wore mainly black with a colour - I wore my black dress with purple trim and my purple silk scarf.

Where what you like - your dad would be proud of you.