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about FB holiday pic posting

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travellingtime · 28/05/2013 16:11

I'm sure this has been done to death but I have to get it off my chest, its really very trivial, but I have to vent.
Why do people insist on putting photos on FB when they are off havign such an amazing time on their hols?
Is it because they want the world to know how fab it is where they are?
Is it to show off ?
Is it because they are more interested in trying to demonstrate to everyone else how fab things are than actually enjoying how fab everythign is
Is it just that I'm not really as into FB as they are therefore its lost on me ?

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Callofthefishwife · 28/05/2013 16:15

I have no idea why others do it but I do get some pleasure out of seeinng where my friends have gone on holiday after a long build up of excitement, saving etc. Sometimes I think OMG that looks fab wish I was there, could go etc. Other times I think - Hmm, not my cup of tea, but you are enjoying yourself so thats fine.

I suppose it depends who you have on your FB but I only have people I really care about whats going on in their life on mine. If you have every Tom, Dick and Harry you dont really give a shit about then I suppose it must be annoying.

oldendaysending · 28/05/2013 16:16

It takes seconds to upload a picture on a phone or tablet; yabu.

needaholidaynow · 28/05/2013 16:17

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LadyBeagleEyes · 28/05/2013 16:18

My niece, her partner and two little boys are away at the moment, and she's posted loads.
I like seeing where she is, and seeing the boys.

Cosmosim · 28/05/2013 16:19

Because they're sharing with their friends? Or are you one of those with 600 "people" as your "friends" who then bitch about them?

MrsMcEnroe · 28/05/2013 16:20

I do it instead of sending postcards.

That said, I only upload one or two pictures per holiday, and I am only FB friends with people with whom I am friends in RL (sorry for appalling grammar in that sentence!)

Blueandwhitelover · 28/05/2013 16:20

why is it sad to post your pics? if someone doesn't like looking at them, it is easy to delete someone.

newgirl · 28/05/2013 16:20

I think there is an element of 'recording' the moment for themselves

cardibach · 28/05/2013 16:22

needaholidaynow does it mean they are sad? Or that they have friends and family who would like to see? As oldenday says they can be uploaded in seconds. This summer I will be taking the child of another family member away with me. When I get an opportunity I will be posting pictures so that her parents can see what she is up to.

CAF275 · 28/05/2013 16:22

Not nearly as annoying as pictures of food imho. Or inane drivel such as "just woken up" or "off to the gym". Now they really DO make me feel stabby.

FreyaSnow · 28/05/2013 16:22

Various reasons:

They may be on a shared holiday and putting the photos on Facebook allows others on the holiday to have a copy. It also helps you stay connected with people you might not see much when you're not on holiday together and is a way of complimenting them on being good company that you want to keep shared memories of.
Some people genuinely get pleasure from seeing people they know enjoying themselves on holiday.
Elderly relatives might not got much time with younger family members or may be too infirm to join in. They like to see what the family is doing, particularly if children are on the holiday.
They may be on holiday somewhere of cultural, historic or environmental interest that other people haven't been able to visit but are interested in hearing about and seeing images of.

Butterkistbutterkistrarara · 28/05/2013 16:23

Why do you have facebook? Surely using a social network means that you want to see your friend's picture, and want to keep up to date with what they are doing?

If it annoys you, delete the friend or facebook itself!

BellaVita · 28/05/2013 16:24

YABU.

CAF... You would have felt very stabby with me this morning!

exoticfruits · 28/05/2013 16:25

I really don't know why people bother with FB if it upsets them so much!

I don't write much on there but I do when on holiday because it is a way of keeping in touch and I don't have to send postcards. I only have real friends on there who are interested -if they are like OP why on earth don't they defriend or hide the posts?

From MN I find that you should never post if:

you are on holiday
your children do anything out of the ordinary
if your children do anything ordinary
if you are miserable
if you do anything with friends that doesn't include your entire FB community.

I am only on there to share my photos and they are more interesting if I am away from home.

meddie · 28/05/2013 16:25

Doesn't bother me. Its nice seeing friends have a lovely time on holiday.
But as for those dinner pics.

Do you remember when you used to take a picture of your dinner, then take the film to the chemists, wait a week for it to be developed, then go round all your friends houses and show them the pics?
No.... me neither. Please stop it.

shoesandwine · 28/05/2013 16:25

Wow, I'm surprised by the negativity.

I only have family and very close friends on FB, and I love flicking through their holiday photos to see what they've been up to. Similarly, I enjoy posting my own photos. Isn't it a nice thing to see people having a good time when they are people you care about?

They DO want the world to know how fab it is where they are.

Of course they do, and what's wrong with that? The world is full of amazing places, it's nice to share!

Incidentally, you can apply to "showing off" argument to anything on Facebook: DCs, houses, hobbies, intellectual interests.....

Maybe you're just a bit jealous, OP, but that's your problem, not the poster's.

needaholidaynow · 28/05/2013 16:26

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Notsoblonde · 28/05/2013 16:26

My parents and in laws are on fb, as are lot of my friends and relatives who I don't often see, they like to see the dc on holiday, if "friends" think that's sad that's their problem not mine, they can delete me as a friend if they desire.

MrsMcEnroe · 28/05/2013 16:27

Yes, I meant to say that I like looking at my friends' holiday pics on FB too! They are my friends; I am happy that they are enjoying themselves, and it is nice to share that a little bit.

exoticfruits · 28/05/2013 16:27

I like seeing my friend's updates on holiday-if I didn't want to see them I wouldn't be social networking with them.

(do some people even understand what a social network is? )

BonaDea · 28/05/2013 16:27

I don't see anything wrong with posting some pics when you get back or perhaps an odd snap while away, but I agree that people who post on fb incessantly while away on hols are a bit sad. Enjoy your holiday, stop showing off!

Last year, a friend of a friend posted almost every day on her three week honeymoon. I just thought it was very sad. She should have been enjoying spending time with her new hubby not posting on social media sites!

FreyaSnow · 28/05/2013 16:28

Why is posting on FB while on holiday sad? Is reading a book on holiday sad? I always read on holiday.

exoticfruits · 28/05/2013 16:29

Post them when you get home

Why? I take my iPad-I keep in touch-when I get home I am busy again.

Patchouli · 28/05/2013 16:29

I don't have facebook
But I did think this was one of things it's for

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travellingtime · 28/05/2013 16:31

I think I could have predicted most of the answers, you guys posted and I did it a little tongue in cheek. but its interesting none the less
I do see that there is some perfectly good and reasonable motivations for posting pics on FB when you are on hols, I guess its part of the wider social media debate really. That is to say that a lot of the posting is about is what we want other people to see, and what we want other people to think about us and what we are up to.
Perhaps I'm just a little old fashioned in my thinking in that when I'm away on holiday I quite like that I'm cut off from friends & family who are not on holiday with us, and its enough for me to tell them about it when I get back or send them a post card
As it happens the friends who are posting are pretty good friends and it is nice to see them enjoying a holiday that they have been looking forward to for months.

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