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about FB holiday pic posting

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travellingtime · 28/05/2013 16:11

I'm sure this has been done to death but I have to get it off my chest, its really very trivial, but I have to vent.
Why do people insist on putting photos on FB when they are off havign such an amazing time on their hols?
Is it because they want the world to know how fab it is where they are?
Is it to show off ?
Is it because they are more interested in trying to demonstrate to everyone else how fab things are than actually enjoying how fab everythign is
Is it just that I'm not really as into FB as they are therefore its lost on me ?

OP posts:
usualsuspect · 28/05/2013 21:56

Are you calling most people on this thread twats?

Sparklingbrook · 28/05/2013 21:58

I want a 'hide subject' button.

Lizzylou · 28/05/2013 22:00

Nice Moody, you want ketchup for that humongous chip of yours?

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:00

Poor Moody is obviously strapped into a chair every night clockwork orange stylee and forced at gun point to look at thousands of holiday snaps.

Because clearly, judging from the responses here you have no choice whether or not you have a Facebook account and whether or not you click through hundreds of photos from people you feel nothing for but withering contempt.

Talk about sad empty lives.

usualsuspect · 28/05/2013 22:02

Maybe Moody doesn't have any FB friends.

Poor Moody no mates.

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:05

I do think this is an interesting subject for psychologists.

Why are so many of you 'friends' with people you dislike?
Why do you act aghast that people 'waste time' with social media sites when you clearly can't tear yourselves away?
Why does the thought of someone else enjoying a nice time fill you with bile?

nenevomito · 28/05/2013 22:08

Only have people I know well on my FB these days and I like seeing their photos. Its good to see people I like having a good time. Why wouldn't you want your friends to share that they're having a good time?

I post holiday pics when I get back home too, although a highly edited version without me on any of them Grin

MoodyDidIt · 28/05/2013 22:14

:o

sorry, but i DO think its show offy and twatty uploading holiday pics every 5 minutes and tagging yourselves at . just enjoy your holidays ffs never mind bloody facebook

and its not that i personally am jealous, my last 2 holidays in the last 12 months have been in california and new york... and i had better things to do than go on fb putting pics up

mind you am not exactly fbs biggest fan atm, i have come off it for now anyway as i can't stand the way it seems turn some people into show off dickheads ....(or maybe just exposes them for being that....)

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:16

So why do you allow show offs and twats on your timeline?

And how, with your jet set glamourous life, do you find the time to remotely care what they do?

LadyBeagleEyes · 28/05/2013 22:20

I don't get all these people that have twattish friends on Facebook.
I only have people I like, who's holidays I love to see, and vice versa if I could be arsed taking pictures.
I always forget.

WafflyVersatile · 28/05/2013 22:23

How is it worse than sending a postcard?

Actually I was getting a bit annoyed as a friend was away and posting several pics a day which was filling my newsfeed, obscuring other statuses. A couple of pics posted to your timeline then an album when you get home is sufficient.

The internet isn't just something you do when bored at work, it's part of people's lives and a way of keeping in touch which is more immediate than postcards and 3 hour long slideshows when you get back. It's just part of everyday life at home or abroad.

usualsuspect · 28/05/2013 22:25

I just wonder what some posters think FB is for.

I'd love to see their FB pages.

MoodyDidIt · 28/05/2013 22:25

erm where did i say i lived a jet set glamorous life, hardly, just saying i have had a couple of decent holidays in the last year or so

this is exactly why i have come off fb for a bit - because while most of my facebook contacts are lovely in RL - i think it really brings out the worst in people.

does anyone else think that? cant be just my friends, can it... Confused

exoticfruits · 28/05/2013 22:26

Why are so many of you 'friends' with people you dislike?

This seems to me to be the main problem. I can only think that people 'collect' anyone they happen to know to bulk up numbers. If you stuck to people you knew and liked, even if you could count them on one hand,you wouldn't have the problem.
You can also hide updates from specific people and it is very easy when it says X has posted 20 photos to just scroll on past without looking. You actually have to click on them to look.
If you are not happy with your life, and think that everyone else is having a better time, then you don't appear to be suited to fb anyway.

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:27

300 pictures of their manky cat that no one has 'liked'. Hence all the bitterness and RAGE.

usualsuspect · 28/05/2013 22:32

I would have liked to see photos of New York.

MoodyDidIt · 28/05/2013 22:34

Why are so many of you 'friends' with people you dislike?

this is the POINT of my last post. i LIKE and know everyone on my fb, from old school friends, to best friends, to family - but something about it just Brings Out The Inner Wanker

i mean, hell, even my own MOTHER pisses me off on there :o

honestly, i am genuinely really interested in the psychology behind it all.

usualsuspect · 28/05/2013 22:36

Maybe FB is not for you.

I can't say that FB ever gives me the rage

exoticfruits · 28/05/2013 22:42

I can't see why it would give you the rage. MN is full of threads about fb-I'm sure it just means that people who get upset/angry about it should close their accounts and find something else.

pictish · 28/05/2013 22:43

Nor me.
I like it.

MoodyDidIt · 28/05/2013 22:46

MN is full of threads about fb

i know. it does seem to be a very popular subject despite how many people it gives The Rage......i do honestly find it fascinating though

poss need to get a life...... :o

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:53

WHY does it fill you with such rage that people you love are having a nice time?

I have a couple of friends who I suspect are trying to 'big up' their lives, but I know they are having a shit time at the moment, so whatever gets them through the night I say. There is one man who tediously bangs on about politics, I am friends with his brother so don't want to delete him, I just hide his news feed instead.

It really is very simple. You don't like it, don't engage with it. It is not compulsory.

But this constant snipe, snipe, dig, dig, holier than thou 'I just don't see the point of Facebook' is beyond tedious. It doesn't make you look cool or smart. Just a bit small and sad and lost.

greencolorpack · 28/05/2013 22:56

My personal rule is to keep quiet about the holiday and then go and share one or two pictures. That way people realise I was off somewhere on holiday but I was too classy to endlessly bang on about it beforehand. LEts face it, only I will enjoy the holiday, I'm under no illusion that anyone else could care less. I'm more into sharing party pictures. I would take having a party over having a holiday any day of the week but Im aware in this messed up materialistic world most people think a holiday is a bigger deal than a party.

I don't believe in talking about Holidays or money or property or anything involving crass money talk. I gave up a friendship because we were struggling with three kids and no time off and this friend kept going on about "three sleeps til Egypt!" and worse, "I am so tired, I really deserve this break!" crap on Facebook. I was eaten up with jealousy, I know that is bad but I was. Taught me a lesson not to boast on Facebook. And certainly don't claim you "deserve" anything.

Spero · 28/05/2013 22:59

I don't mind if my friends have holidays. I am sometimes quite interested.

I don't begrudge them their happiness. Because they are my friends and I either love them or quite like them.

MoodyDidIt · 28/05/2013 23:00

its nothing to do with wanting to look "cool" or "smart" spero.....and i don;t hate facebook or not see the point of it, i do see the point of it, it can be a very positiven thing, after all, it was made to keep in touch with friends and family....but i maintain that it can and does bring out the tedious nobber in people

or maybe its just MY fb friends it does that too but i doubt it ;)