to let dd have a day off school because i miss her?

[LittleLisa78]

DD is in reception. DP works shifts and doesn't have a weekend off til July but does have many weekdays off. Youngest DD is 1 and very full on so elder DD has not had any real one on one time with me since she was born and has been asking repeatedly for it but it's difficult with dps shifts and extra curricular activities after school. She and I both just want a full day with each other having fun and doing things it's difficult to do when I have younger DD to look after too. AIBU to consider letting her have a day off school to do this?

Is there a cure for self important obnoxiousness?

I think we all suffer from selfishitis once in a while.

SgtCalhoun you are the voice of reason.

It can certainly be very contagious

On page she said high needs, then changed it to sn.

Stone her!!

Page five I mean

Sadly I don't think there is a cure theyoni . It's seems to have become increasingly prevalent due to a steady cross contamination of arselickingitus.

As someone said way back, OP has already decided.

Not wasting any more time on this.

I think OP's DP is able to care for younger DD now. Or surely there'd be no point in keeping DD1 off school, because OP would still have to split her attention.

OP - why don't you just ask the school? If you've got a good case, they could authorise an absence. And you wouldn't have to lie.

If you haven't, perhaps they could explain to you better than we can why attendance rules exist and how they are for the benefit of all children.

Stone her at the school gates and put her daughter in the naughty corner for a week.

Does anyone still do 'lines' as a punishment these days?

No mutual arse licking going on here, no sirree

Lines! What an arse punishment that was.

Why did we think it was quicker to write the first word a hundred times, then the second and so on?

Or was that just me?

Yes! Lines!

OP must write

"I must not let my 5 year old miss a day of school because I am needy, selfish, lie and don't justify my thinking to a load of irritated posters on mumsnet in a timely enough manner"

100 times. On this thread. NOW!

That was inventive SgtCalhoun, I didn't think of that. I think I quite enjoyed doing lines actually.

Did someone really accuse AF of arselickingitus?

I'm actually quite worried now.

I am 46, when I was 6 my parents let me have a day off school as my dad had the day off . It was a beautiful day. We went for a picnic played rounders and sunbathed . It's up there in one of my top lovely memories of childhood iyswim.

It never happened again.

If it doesn't become a habit yabu op

Sorry yanbu

No I did not accuse AF.

Phew. It must have been some misunderstanding...

Thank you Bumbez for your supportive post. I told you doubters that she would remember it forever. How you laughed. How wrong you were.

I would do it.

Infact I did do it a couple of weeks ago, I let ds1&2 have the day off school to come for a picnic in the park, the weather was gorgeous and we had a lovely day. They are (were, there has been a birthday since) 9 and 10 and I don't get to spend much time doing nice stuff with them especially with a baby and toddler - and as a single parent I don't have the option of leaving the younger ones to do stuff with the older ones. I could've waited until the weekend but it was a spur of the moment thing. Plus shoot me now it was during SATs revision week, ds1 was stressed about revising for his meaningless exams, I don't think he will look back in a months time and think i really wish I hadn't had that one day off school but he will probably remember eating ice cream and having a lovely day out as a family. He starts senior school this year, and I wouldn't take him out for the day or have term time holidays then but one day during primary school isn't going to matter.

You're brave fourlittledudes batten down the hatches!

I know, I'm feeling reckless. I just think that life is to stressful to be torturing myself over the guilt of them missing one day of school, and they are far to young to be stressing over exams that mean absolutely nothing when you look at the bigger picture, never have I heard of anyone being asked what their SAT score was at age 10 during a college or work interview. I want to enjoy my children whilst I can, plus it was educational, they learnt about structures when building sandcastles, physics - how heat turns an ice cream from one state into another when it melted and I let them choose and pay for their own donuts and spend the change so we got maths in there too.

I wonder if the special time with mummy idea has come across because the daughter's parents are divorced. When we were growing up the idea of special time with a parent alone didn't happen, there were 3 of us, as the eldest child I just accepted I was at school whilst my mum was at home with the youngest 1 or 2 and when i was at home so were other sibs and usually dad.
If she has time alone with her dad on alternate weekends that is maybe where the idea came from.
I still wonder if the youngest father is particularly useless or the OP rather clingy that the father hasn't been able to cope with a needy 1 year old.
I can't imagine an illness that would have made me decide my ex never got to look after his kids alone or where he could opt out. The child is only 1. If it cries or poos or shouts more than usual why can't a man cope with this as well as a woman? There are only so many ways in which a 1 year old can be difficult to look after, i wouldn't have thought there was anything magical about being female for dealing with any of them.