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DP away for the night - is he out of order or am I being a bunny boiler?

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AAdamsA · 10/05/2013 22:40

Long story short - I caught him fuckin' around on plenty of fish a few months back trying to arrange sex dates. I told him I would find it very difficult to trust him in the future. That's the history.

He had tonight booked to go and see a band and stay over in the city for a piss up with his mate (dp is 42, mate is 26). I wasn't happy about it but didn't want to turn into one of these people that never 'lets' their boyfriend out. But we agreed he would keep in regular contact and not get hammered.

So, they get there at 5pm, instantly start getting pissed up on shots and god knows what else and then he starts sending me drunken texts resembling those of a 12 year old: "my mate said do you know any fit, single nurses you could get him to together with?" jesus christ. His mate sends me a friend request. I accept. He then starts posting pictures of a pissed up DP on my facebook wall (luckily my pics are set to approval first). DP is obviously hammered and was hammered by 8pm.

At 7.30 he sends me a text asking if I love him. I reply "of course I do, do you love me? xx" and I get no reply. What I get instead - are facebook updates from his mate asking where the best place is to "pull" in the city they're in along with many statuses stating "we're drunk! party time!" etc etc.

So, despite his promise that he would stay in touch and not get hammered - he's absoluetly hammered and has not text me since 7.30 when I replied to HIS text asking if he loves me. He did however, find the time afterwards to go on his phone and update his facebook status.

So go on, AIBU??

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fryingpantoface · 11/05/2013 15:25

I genuinely think you need to walk away. He doesn't make you happy. That's enough of a reason without adding anything else to it!

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CourgetteSmuggler · 11/05/2013 15:52

Just finished the thread.

AA please tell me you've finished this sham of a relationship.
I've never seen a situation where one person truly hold all of the cards, that's you! Don't be a fool.

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fritteringtwit · 11/05/2013 16:15

I think you would find going around your home chucking his belongings into a binbag and dropping them off at his mummy's house very theraputic.

His hobbies are basically looking for and shagging other women, and sponging off you. Why on earth are you wasting your life on this emotional retard loser? Is he a twelve inch gold plated mega-stallion in the sack?

What's the backstory with the mother(s) of his DCs? Did they all see the light and LTB?

He's 42. He Will Not Change. Ever. Do you seriously see him as a good prospect long term?

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Ledkr · 11/05/2013 19:04

He goes around with 26 yr olds because nobody his own age would want to be like him. Posting stuff on Facebook indeed.

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DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper · 11/05/2013 21:08

Gosh, OP, you're so passive in all this...?!

You try to break up with him, but he doesn't agree with that (for such obvious reasons, to the outside observer), and you just do as you're told...?

You get to decide what happens to you. You do. You're the boss of you, not him.

And for the love of God, do NOT sign that contract.