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Original poster

To think if you have an all day wedding you should have food before 9pm?

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Buffetblues · 05/05/2013 18:17

We've been invited to a wedding in August the invitation said that, despite the ceremony being at 1.30pm, there will be no food until the buffet at about 9pm?

AIBU to think that if you want to cut catering costs on your wedding day, you don't get married so early? It's seems really selfish to me to have an all day wedding with no food but I'd be quite happy if the service had been at say 4pm?

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Buffetblues · 05/05/2013 19:22

Believe me backforgood I've tried. She honestly thinks that inviting people she hasn't seen for ages is the right thing to do as they will want to join in the celebrations. She thinks the afternoon will fly by and no one will notice that they haven't eaten. It might for her as she's the bride but I can't help thinking the the real reason for the huge guest list is because it won't cost them any more for extras to attend and presumably people who attend will buy presents.

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woopsidaisy · 05/05/2013 19:22

That should be go to the wedding which starts at 1/1.30.
And drinks in the pub after are often just a cup of tea.
And supper is usually served at 11pm.

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:23

Order a pizza in.
To the venue.

PLEASE

ENormaSnob · 05/05/2013 19:28

Sounds like the shittest wedding ever.

I would decline.

Have they got a poem requesting cash instead of a present?

Pancakeflipper · 05/05/2013 19:28

It is way too long a gap to hanging around. Take food and soft drinks and refuel in your car if you go.

Reminds me of a wedding that was similar. But they didn't say anything about no food until 8pm. Impossible for those with young kids. One of the ushers disappeared late afternoon and returned with fish'n'chips and then a mass exodus started to find the nearest takeaway. The bride was not impressed.

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:29

PLEASE THEY HAVE A NATIVE AMERICAN POEM
And release a dove?!

LadySlatternlysHoover · 05/05/2013 19:30

No to the dove. Too risky.

Somebody might see it as food.

DeskPlanner · 05/05/2013 19:30

Have they got any entertainment or anything ? Seems a long time for you to be hanging round making small talk. At least they have warned you about the long wait for food.

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Buffetblues · 05/05/2013 19:31

No poem norma-that would have required effort- just a blatant request!

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LimitedEditionLady · 05/05/2013 19:31

Ladyslatternslyhoover that was well funny!

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:31

Lol.
Someone will be mainlining sugared almonds by 4.

OR op take a kettle and some pot noodles.

CheshireDing · 05/05/2013 19:32

YANBU

Although I love people's suggestions of ordering a pizza to the venue Grin

We got married at 2pm, the had canapés and Pimms (which more and more of kept seeing to come out of the kitchen whilst we were all milling around the gardens), I reckon the canapés were available for about 90 minutes, then we ate our main meal at about 5pm. A 9pm we had tea/coffee and cakes and truffles.

If you compare your friends wedding to that I think it is safe to say you will all starve to death Gin. It'll be like something off Shawn of the Dead.

Please order pizza Grin or stay home.

FarBetterNow · 05/05/2013 19:33

Pancake: fish'n'chips - definately the answer!
or book a burger van or butty van to drive by.
Make a lovely big picnic and make quite a palaver about picnic blanket on the grass etc - do NOT be discrete about eating it.

I would collapse (literally) if I had to wait that long to be fed.

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:35

We married at 4. Went right through. Long enough IMO. Not an endurance event

EduCated · 05/05/2013 19:36

Hungry people will not mingle in a carefree, heads thrown back kind of way.

They will become savages, eying up their prey, working out who's weaker so they can beat them to the buffet when it finally appears and speeding vigilante rumours about Great Aunty Marge harbouring a spare Mars bar in her handbag.

DeskPlanner · 05/05/2013 19:36

In this case, I really wouldn't go. It sounds like you don't like them much, and I don't blame you. I would feel very resentful if I thought the B&G where only after the gift I'd brought.

LadySlatternlysHoover · 05/05/2013 19:37

Oh yes EduCated you can just imagine the battle to the buffet.

ENormaSnob · 05/05/2013 19:38

Tell me more about the blatant request. I feel there is more judging to be done Grin

Love the pot noodle idea.

Or you could really mark the occasion and take a camping stove and pasta n sauce packets.

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:40

I used to have a mate i met in central London. When you went on a night out she always forgot about food. So you got hammered. Eventually we started taking a pack of sandwiches.

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:40

Lol. Turn it into a festival.
OR pull along your own hog roast on wheels.

EduCated · 05/05/2013 19:41

Hungry people get that particular glint in their eye. The sort that would make you think nothing of trampling small children and animals to get the first slightly soggy piece of cardboard pizza.

LadySlatternlysHoover · 05/05/2013 19:41

Grin Nehru

Nehru · 05/05/2013 19:42

Or take along a new bijou piece of jewellery fashioned out of party rings.

You could flog them to the fat bridesmaid for a tenner each.

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Buffetblues · 05/05/2013 19:42

Not much to tell norma the invite just said we don't need things for the house so we'd like cash! Quite ironic when it also said we're not feeding you!

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ENormaSnob · 05/05/2013 19:43

Just remembered that decathlon sell those rehydrated packets of food for extreme sports people.

You could probably get a few portions of cottage pie in your clutch bag.