To think if you have an all day wedding you should have food before 9pm?

[Buffetblues]

We've been invited to a wedding in August the invitation said that, despite the ceremony being at 1.30pm, there will be no food until the buffet at about 9pm?

AIBU to think that if you want to cut catering costs on your wedding day, you don't get married so early? It's seems really selfish to me to have an all day wedding with no food but I'd be quite happy if the service had been at say 4pm?

[Nehru]

Lol. Like angry rations.

[LadySlatternlysHoover]

The lucky first six that get to the buffet will fill 10 plates each, pretending that they are getting Auntie Edna / Uncle Wilf's etc. as well.

By the time guest number 7 gets there, it will just be salad garnish and crisp crumbs.

[Nehru]

army!! Although prob angry too

[Nehru]

And that red sauce they serve with buffet filo prawns

[DeskPlanner]

Yes, tell us more about the request for money. I've a feeling my judgy pants could go higher.

[CSIJanner]

Seriously,order pizza in. or Chinese. Eat it in the garden with the chopsticks you brought especially, also being used to tie back your hair.

Failing that, see if you can arrange a noodle van/ burger van to turn up in the car park. You'll be hailed as the saviour of the party as people will get irritated or even worse, drunk v quickly & fractious if they have to wait 8.5 hours later

[Nehru]

Lol. Order the van in advance as a gift to her

[ENormaSnob]

not much to tell op?

Blatant cash request with the invitation is judging gold on mn.

[littlepeas]

It's just a disaster waiting to happen. She's going to end up with bored, unhappy, hungry and probably very drunk guests. I don't understand why some couples don't give more thought to keeping their guests happy - do they really want people to go away and say that their wedding was shit?!

Pre-babies I was an events organiser and, in my experience, a mere lack of canapes can lead to guests getting too drunk, too quickly, with bridesmaids vomming in the loos, etc, let alone no wedding breakfast at all!

[Buffetblues]

Honestly, that's all it said 'norma'! They just want cash as they don't need things for the house!

[DeskPlanner]

Being hungry. during a wedding is awful. Especially if you can't sneak off somewhere near by. Stick £5 in a card for them. This wedding is going to cost a fortune in good and petrol alone.

[Sparklingbrook]

Oh yes forgot about the buffet gannets. You think you will be fed at 9pm but that's only if you elbow your way to the front.

[Nehru]

Wonder why the venue is allowing it.

[quoteunquote]

Quick book a 12 o'clock table in the best restaurant nearest the church, that's the solution others will arrive at,

Get on trip advisor and find out what your choices are, and book a table fast, before all the other guests do.

There will be a lot of very drunk people by the time they get food in the evening.

[ENormaSnob]

Shall we take bets on a pay bar?

Lack of welcome drinks and drinks with the food?

You could get one of those hats with can holders on the sides and straws to the mouth. Fill with protein shakes and you're set for the 10 hour enforced fast.

[EduCated]

You could definitely turn this into an opportunity. How ethical do you feel?

Just thinking, hungry people, captive audience, bit of prior planning... Car load of Pot Noodles and a camping stove, you'd make a fortune!

[Nehru]

My dad was vicar. Always went home after church before reception

[AKissIsNotAContract]

That's crazy. I was worried about my guests going hungry if we did canapés at 2.30 and then dinner at 5.

[ENormaSnob]

Or you could do the 5:2 diet and think positive about lack of calories.

[CSIJanner]

Tell you what - an even better idea! Tell us when the weddings going to & where, and a couple of MNer's will help to man the van whilst making a small fortune out of the captive guests

Mwah ha har!

[theoriginalandbestrookie]

I hate being hungry at weddings, it's a pet peeve of mine even when you do get an evening meal, I get low blood sugar and I can't do without food for hours on end.

At our wedding I made sure we had canapes after the ceremony, an evening meal and the buffet.
Very poor hosting to invite people all that way and then not feed them, if they are on a budget then they could arrange trays of bacon rolls, or do a posh afternoon tea or something.

I'd just not go, sounds rubbish.

[Pancakeflipper]

I think all guests should go to M&S prior to the wedding. Buy sarnies, crisps, fruit, drinks etc and then all carry their M&S carrier bags into church and ensure they are on show for all the photos.
Then after photos you can all have a jolly picnic.

[ChaoticTranquility]

Not just a pay bar but a really expensive pay bar...£10 for a vodka (single) and coke?

[Juniperdewdropofbrandy]

I'm hungry thinking about it and I ate an hour and a half ago.

What does your OH say?

[DontmindifIdo]

OP - pick up a few packs of sarnies from M&S, have them in the car, pull over somewhere on your way from church to venue to eat them, it's an hour's drive, adding 10-15 minutes on that journey and you won't be missed, or check out if there's a McDonalds drive through on the way, you know if there is, half the wedding party will be in there.

It might be worth asking the bride if there's somewhere you can eat near the church, while it's a 1:30pm ceremony, if there's a pub/cafe on the same street, you could go there at say, 12noon, and still have time to eat before the ceremony. It also might be worth flagging it to her, at which point you might find there's canapes etc sorted, so you know not to have a big meal beforehand.