To ask you on average when do "babies" STTN

[SunMoonStarship]

DC1 slept through from 5 months. DC2 (11 months) wakes multiple times. I recently read somewhere that only 50% of 9 month old babies sleep through the night (STTN).

I'm exhausted and desperate for sleep. Luckily DH and I have family to help out and take the kids so we get a break.

But I was wondering what the average age was for babies STTN. I've heard it's 6 months but the stats above disagree with this.

I know all babies are different (look at my two DCs!) but basically, if I knew it was likely DC2 would STTN by 12 months or 18 months or something, then I would be able to see through this sleep deprived fog.

So AIBU to ask you when you're DCs STTN?

Thanks

[Sallystyle]

I thought I was awesome because mine went through so early. I thought I must have had some kind of sleeping super powers. My fifth was really an eye opener, I am sure she was such a bad sleeper just to teach me a lesson

[SunMoonStarship]

Hi. Only just getting round to reading these.

neunundneunzigluftballons- your comment about "it came as a shock that they won't return the faulty one" made me laugh- thank you! It's exactly how I feel.

I had DC2 in the main part of tiny trolley as it was one of those ones without a seat (don't worry senza shoes!). A little old lady asked how much he cost and I replied that she could have him for free as he still didn't sleep at night!

[SunMoonStarship]

No fledtoscotland you can't say DC2 4 years old- this is what worries me noooooooooooooooo

[YoniBottsBumgina]

But it depends how manageable it is really. Hell of a difference between a babywho wakes every hour demanding huge amounts of input to go back down and one who wakes once at about the time you go to bed anyway and then sleeps through until some point where they pad softly down the hall and crawl in for a morning snuggle/extra couple of hours' sleep. (the only "training" I did with DS was to train him to come to us rather than cry and wait!) Or if you co sleep and they just stir a bit to make sure you're still there and barely wake you.

[Jengnr]

Sleeps from 7-8pm until 5-6 ish from about 9 weeks.

[Cloverer]

Yes, to be honest from about 9 months it didn't really matter to be that DS still woke once or twice a night - he didn't need a feed he just needed his dummy back and reassuring pat/sometimes a cuddle. After 12 months he didn't even need the dummy, just a quick cuddle and he was back to sleep.

[Jan49]

At 5 months, fully bf, but sleep was from 11pm to 8/9am. Then we went on holiday and he slept in the same room as us and started waking once a night and I can't remember when that stopped.

[Groovee]

Dd went 9.30pm-5am from 9 weeks which to me was through the night. Then at 16 weeks went through the night 6.30pm-6.30.

Ds didn't sleep through until he was 3 and a half. He went from being up numerous times to 13 hours a night, which was a huge shock for me. I thought he was dead!

[Squitten]

DS1 was nearly 3 when he stopped waking up and getting into our bed. DS2 was nearly 2 when he started to reliably sleep through but can still sometimes wake up in the night.

We're just assuming our immient arrival won't be a sleeper either!

[BabyMakesTheYoniGoStretchy]

All of mine slept through by 5 weeks,just by themselves,nothing I did or didn't do.

[Purplebananas]

DD - 20 weeks. DS - 22 weeks. I'm counting STTN as sleeping 12 hours though.

I'm told that some people count STTN as sleeping in a 5 hour stretch, if that's right then they were both doing it in about a week or two.

[stopmovingthefurniture]

I'm losing the will to live. My twenty month old slept through from seven weeks until it all fell apart at ten months. Now she sleeps with DH in the spare room, sometimes rousing every half an hour to check he is there. We're going to Mill Pond it...

[ElphabaTheGreen]

Still waiting here for 11mo DS to consistently sleep for longer than three hours at a stretch. Haven't met 'STTN' by anyone's definition yet. He might have done a five hour stretch twice in his life, but I'm too bloody tired to remember specifics.

[loofet]

I think it's a matter of opinion as to what you consider sttn to be. For some it means from whenever their bedtime is (so say 11 p.m) to 5 or 6 a.m whilst for others its 7 p.m-7 a.m.

For us- DC1 slept 6 pm-7 a.m from 6 months, DC2 did the same from 2 months and DC3 is almost 9 months and sleeps 6 p.m- midnight, has a change and feed and sleeps til 6 a.m. So all babies are v.different. BF v FF can have some bearing on it, separation anxiety, their own temperament and also weaning. I think they say 6 months is average because they start to wean then so should in theory be fuller for longer.

[Midlifecrisisarefun]

DS2 was about six month the memory is a bit vague, DD was nine weeks. DS1 is twenty five YEARS and still sleeps poorly!! He was five years old before he slept more than two hours! That's why the memory of DS2 is vague!!

[SmellsLikeTeenStrop]

All mine have been different, longest was 2 years, quickest was 8 weeks. To me, STTN is from around midnight where they get their last feed, to any time from 7 AM.

[pointythings]

DD1 - 10 weeks.

DD1 - 11 months.

And you do realise that in a young baby, 5 hours or longer is classed as STTN?

[TwinkleTits]

DS1 - 6 years old. Years -

Ds2 - 2 years old and nowhere near.

[Purplebananas]

I was told that recently about the 5 hour thing, I had never heard it before. I would have considered 5 hours as '5 hours between feeds' when they were little, not sttn because we weren't getting a full nights sleep because they woke up mid way through the night.

Every baby is different and everyone has their own gauge of what sttn is so maybe the original question would have been better worded as 'When did your baby sleep through XX hours?'

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

DD was 5 weeks, DS more like 18 months and it took a lot of controlled crying. Was worth it though as he is much happier now hes getting more sleep! As are the rest of us!

[DesperatelySeekingSedatives]

Meant to add that DD went through a phase at around 2 for a whole fecking year of waking in the night due to night terrors. Most nights she went back to sleep straight away in my bed with me but other times she wanted a drink and a chat (at 3am- ALWAYS 3am!)

[bishboschone]

Both mine exactly the same . 10-7 at 7 weeks 7-7 at 12 weeks . Both very very different babies. What does your dc do when they wake up? Do you feed or just re settle? I trained mine from day one and took no chances with dc2 even though he was prem and had reflux he did exactly the same as dd.

[CoteDAzur]

DD at 4 months and DS at 5 months, both after CC (following the advice of their paed).

[RooneyMara]

No idea whatsoever, but I co slept and fed on demand for all of them for ages so it wasn't much of an issue.

Ds3 is 4 months, he sometimes goes for about 6 hours overnight but after that it's all over the place.

But he's next to me so it's not too bad really.
Just as well because no one is around very much to help!

[TheYamiOfYawn]

DD 2 and a half. DS three and a quarter.