To ask you on average when do "babies" STTN

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DC1 slept through from 5 months. DC2 (11 months) wakes multiple times. I recently read somewhere that only 50% of 9 month old babies sleep through the night (STTN).

I'm exhausted and desperate for sleep. Luckily DH and I have family to help out and take the kids so we get a break.

But I was wondering what the average age was for babies STTN. I've heard it's 6 months but the stats above disagree with this.

I know all babies are different (look at my two DCs!) but basically, if I knew it was likely DC2 would STTN by 12 months or 18 months or something, then I would be able to see through this sleep deprived fog.

So AIBU to ask you when you're DCs STTN?

Thanks

ds1 was 6w but it stopped a few months after that. He is nearly 5yr old and still wakes.

ds2 was 12m and sleeps through most nights. He is 19m now wakes still but I don't have to go into him I can hear him talking to himself or playing with his cars.

ds3 is 8m and wakes 3 times a night.

All FFS btw.

DS didn't sleep through until controlled crying at 11 months before I returned to work. He was bf till 8 months, started weaning at 4 months.

DD1 12-6am at 6 weeks, 7pm to 7am at 3 months. This was a shock, I didn't realise babies could sleep that long. Even now at nearly 9 DS is not a good sleeper and makes a fuss at bedtime.

I'm really glad they came that way round, I hadn't been lulled into a false sense of security.

DD2 slept through from about 6 months.

DD was 16 months and slept through once I night weaned her. She was BFed.

DS is 24 days and slept 7 hours last night. He's a had a couple of 5 and 6 hour stretches so far too. Will it continue? We'll see. He's EBF.

DS has always been a pretty shocking sleeper. He is 3.5 and STTN about 2 nights out of 7.
First slept through at 20months, but was pretty sporadic. Has had the odd phase of doing a whole week or so sleeping through, but normal service is always resumed

DS1: 9mo, after doing CC (in absolute desperation as he never slept more than an hour at night, didn't nap more than 20 mins in the day and I was teetering on the brink of PND with exhaustion)
DS2: 4mo (entirely spontaneously, much to my shock and delight)

Both were BF until long after they slept through the night. Both champion sleepers now although DS1 still more likely to wake randomly in the night.

16 months for dd1, but my neighbour's 3 year old doesn't sleep through.

Oh, and remember when you're looking at stats around sttn that medically speaking that means sleeping at least one stint of 5 hours. Not what most of us mean by sleeping through.

DD was 6 weeks, and thought it was a flook...
DS was also 6 weeks.... both FF and used the same routine...

DS started sleeping through consistently at around 2.5 years.

I know a few people whose babies STTN at 6-8 months but it wasn't what I would count as consistent - more like they mostly sleep through unless they are ill, teething, have a bad dream, need their dummy put back in etc etc. I think people often say their baby STTN when they actually mean they just don't wake for feeds anymore.

DS stopped waking for feeds at 9 months.

IMO all healthy babies who are weaned onto 3 meals a day (6-7 months) are capable of sleeping all night (well 10.30pm-7am anyway) but some will need some help getting towards this. I wouldn't personally do controlled crying before 6 months (and weaned onto 3 months a day including protein) as they genuinely might be hungry in night. If they drink milk in night they will eat less in day and then be hungry at night, so need to cut down on night time feeds.

Some babies will do it all on their own, others will need guidance - some parents are prepared to give guidance some are not.

DC1 (DD) - slept through at 10 weeks, but woke up again at 5 months, after a week she was weaned and slept through the night.

DC2 (DS1) - didn't sleep through night before 6 months - so was given "guidance" at 6 months after weaning - basically hipp night time milk at 10.30pm and then water (or maybe started in week 1 with watered down formula??) when he woke in the night - plus some controlled crying - slept through the night at 6.5 months.

DC3 (DS2) - v similar to DD initially, but started waking again at 5 months and needed same guidance as DS1 at 6 months once weaned.

I think it's happened twice, ever, with DS and he's 13 months now

I found that getting DS to go through the night without a feed was easy That didn't mean he didn't need us in the night though.

I wasn't prepared to just ignore him if he called out for me in the night, so I guess we had to wait til he was ready.

My feeling is it's around 2 years if you really leave them to it. Obviously some babies will naturally sleep through earlier and some later. I think by 18/20 months we were in the blissful territory of not waking up in the evening, once at around 11 and through until morning.

DS1 I taught to self settle between 3 and 4 months I think, then he had a bad sleep regression (it took two hours of rocking to get him to sleep) at about 9-11 months. I used The No Cry Sleep Solution book to retrain him.

DS2 slept through from 9 weeks until 9 or 10 months then he started waking more and more (and stupidly I started giving him milk whenever he woke up). Just done sleep training with him (again, v mild techniques) and he is sleeping through again.

Remember though it is all about what is manageable for you and your family - DS2 will often wake about 5.45am which works fine for us as he has some milk then I get up about 6.15, though I've seen plenty of threads in the past where the OP thinks waking that early is a problem.

I also have two DSSs, now grown up. With one of them, to get him to sleep when he was a toddler DH had to drive him up and down the dual carriageway each night when he got home from work. By his teenage years we couldn't get him out if bed (though the house did smell of Lynx).

Dd1 was 18 months when she reliably sttn.

Dd2 started sttn at 6 weeks. Then stopped again at 16 weeks and still wakes up most nights now at 3. I expect she'll eventually stay in her own bed all night. It would take more work to try and train her than it does to just bring her into bed with us.

About 2.5 years for each of mine.

I forgot to add, with lots of children good / poor sleep does seem to be a phase. I know plenty of children who slept badly as babies and now sleep well as toddlers / older children, and vice versa.

About ten months

4 years. I'm knackered

Ds is a year old. He first sttn at about 7mo but didn't do it consistently until I stopped bf at 10mo. he now occasionally wakes when the bloody birds are singing and I hear him chatting away in his cot but I only go in if he's crying.

Both my children miraculously slept through from 6 weeks or so (BF), but then stopped at around 4/5 months.

DS finally started again consistently at 15 months
DD is 8 months and still waking at least twice (yawn)

My ds is 12.5 wks and had been going from 10-5 on a bad night and 9-6 on a good night. Ebf and if he does wake he cried for maybe 2 mins before finding his thumb and going back to sleep.

It's brilliant but I'm terrified it won't last and scared of having number 2 cos the odds if getting another one like this are not good!!

DS slept through at 12 weeks, was bf until 7 weeks then ff. We did visit cranial oesteopath at 8 weeks and 10 weeks, I really do feel this made a huge difference as before that DS was not happy (traumatic birth at 37 weeks gestation, in SCBU for a week with pneumonia).

3 years. Sorry!

Reliably from 7pm-6am? Probably around 3yrs.