AIBU?
My only child's auntie will not be attending his first birthday party.
Lurksome · 01/05/2013 13:55
May I have a small rant please?
The only relative on my husband's side of the family that COULD make my son's FIRST bday party is not coming. This is my husband's sister, and only sibling. She has just told me she has decided to go away with her husband in the UK for the long weekend instead. She sends her apologies about the party. They go away about six times a year; no children by choice. We asked them to be God parents when my son was born but nothing is official. Now I am reconsidering that proposition! Fuming mad I am! 
LifeofPo · 01/05/2013 13:57
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StephaniePowers · 01/05/2013 13:58
I think in fairness, first birthday's of children aren't that interesting to those without children (sorry) and I have heard my own child's grandparents moaning at having to go to their other grandchildren's first birthdays: they see it as on a par with having to sit through a particularly noisy playgroup.
If you've ever been to a children's birthday party as a childless person, you'll know what I mean 
ArthurCucumber · 01/05/2013 13:59
Is it a new thing, having big first birthday parties? Surely at that age it's more for the parents as the child doesn't know it's his birthday.
Your son isn't getting married. Not going to his party has nothing to do with whether his auntie loves him or is interested in him. It just doesn't mean as much to her as it does to you, and this is surely as it should be.
CloudsAndTrees · 01/05/2013 13:59
It's a birthday party for a baby.
Do you really think that her attendance at an event that will make absolutely no difference whatsoever to your child is really an indication of how much she cares about him?
It's important to you, but it's not to anyone else, including the child. People who don't have children can easily underestimate how much these events mean to first time parents. You would be doing your child the disservice if you allowed something this trivial to upset you, or to damage the relationship Auntie and Nephew could have.
quietlysuggests · 01/05/2013 14:02
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RustyBear · 01/05/2013 14:02
I really can't remember whether my sister was at my DS's first birthday party. I know she wasn't at DD's because we didn't have one. And I also can't remember whether I went to a birthday party for either of my two nephews. I know it seems important to you now, but I'm sure she'll be around for other occasions, ones that your DS will remember.
MrsDeVere · 01/05/2013 14:04
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