My only child's auntie will not be attending his first birthday party.

[Lurksome]

May I have a small rant please?

The only relative on my husband's side of the family that COULD make my son's FIRST bday party is not coming. This is my husband's sister, and only sibling. She has just told me she has decided to go away with her husband in the UK for the long weekend instead. She sends her apologies about the party. They go away about six times a year; no children by choice. We asked them to be God parents when my son was born but nothing is official. Now I am reconsidering that proposition! Fuming mad I am!

get a grip, it's only a first birthday not a wedding!!

Was she integral for pass the parcel or musical bumps?

Kids parties are for kids, they are fecking boring for adults.

No one is really that interested in your children except you. A hard concept for some parents, she will have other birthdays and Aunty will I'm sure attend. Enjoy your child's first birthday

I know a Dad that couldn't be bothered to go to his daughter's first birthday on the basis that "she'll never know". Which she won't. For now. Until her mum tells her! I thought that was a bit shabby, but seriously - his auntie??? WGAF?

You need to take a long hard look at yourself OP!

(Or is this a wind up, hopefully??)

I wouldn't expect her to attend any of his birthday parties to be honest!

I dislike childrens parties and don't think I've been invited to or attended any or my nieces or nephews.

Hope you have a nice party and she and her DH have a lovely weekend.
Simples...everyone happy

YABU .

My sister didn't meet DS2 until he was 18 months old. They didn't come down for the christening. They live about two hours away. It's no biggie. Neither of my sisters have ever held, picked up my children, neither of them have been in sole charge of them. It's slightly irksome but they don't have kids and just aren't that into them. I don't see why people with busy lives need to drop everything just because they are related. A first birthday party is more for parents.

i never go to my nephews birthday party, same as my sister did not attend mine when they were younger, when I had kids she was young free and single and was a good auntie but not really that interested, now hers are little I love them but am over kids parties, couldn't think of anything worse, would rather spend time with them when its not manic..

YABVU.

First birthday parties are crap for people without children. Utterly crap. Yabu. Plus your baby won't have a clue whether she is there or not.

AnonYoni (and others) - the OP has already taken a look at herself and fallen in with the views on here.

I enjoyed the boys' first birthdays and Christmases because they were too young to open their presents, so I got to do it.

Your child's first birthday is a massive deal to you, not a child free aunt. Sorry.

I'm sure you and your DC will have wonderful day celebrating.

A few years ago I was the SIL in this scenario, same thing except for the childless by choice, we were TTC at the time, DNephews first birthday party was the weekend of our wedding anniversary and me and DH chose to go away just the two of us and celebrate what we hoped would be our last child free anniversary (luckily it was and we had DD shortly before our next one). There could be all kinds of reasons your SIL doesn't fancy the party, don't take it so personally and don't sweat the small stuff like birthday parties that the child won't remember, not important in the grand scheme of things.

A one-year old doesn't know anything about birthday parties. This is all about you, OP, and how you think the world should revolve.

Well here's the silver lining. When she has kids, you are in no way obliged to attend their parties.

Lurksome can I be a stand in? I'd love a little cuddle with a cutsie baby and I enjoy eating cake . DD is 3.5yo now and not quite as small and cuddly as a 1yo, plus she talks loads.... a quiet cuddle with a gurgly baby would be bliss.

We had to host a 1st birthday party for DD as the grandparents wanted one. Her 2nd birthday was just DD, DH and myself. Her 3rd birthday was a 'proper' party at a local farm park. She asked for it herself and was already inviting people before we'd even organised anything!! Don't worry about being PFB, it happens to all of us!

I think it is perfectly fine for the auntie to plan to go away with her partner.

I never want people there on my dcs birthday! They are mine and i want to celebrate with dp and the kids but both of our families are freaking obsessed with kids my dsis gave birth last monday and keeps on at me to come see her dd2 - it's her third kid really not all that exciting. (I say this whilst pregnant with my own dc3 and don't expect a fanfare for popping a baby out my yoni)

It's shite that your dhs dsis isn't coming for your sake but to her i doubt it d be that exciting, sorry.

It is no big deal to anyone except you - your DC won't know, care or realise they should care. Any day will do to see them.

I am my only Aunt to DN of my brother and I can tell you my SIL would have frozen me out, in her own special way, if I had not attended DN's first birthday.

My DN is gorgeous, my SIL is barking. I put up with the madness as I love DN and my brother (poor bastard, I wish he would grow a backbone).

Maxium but still all the same.

Families eh ??

your baby is important to his auntie she loves him doesn't mean she has to drop everything for him, and worship at the altar of a 1st birthday party, I know this is very important to you but please stop fuming that and not everything revolves around your baby,