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HELP! Police at my door - apparently I have committed an offence.........

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TheAccused · 20/04/2013 16:20

Police just came as they have received a complaint against me.

Yesterday afternoon I nip to Tesco after school pick up. No P&C spaces so I park further down in a row of which is almost all empty spaces. I have a large 7 seater (4 DC) and get fed up of people parking so close that I can't get the toddler into his car seat without a struggle, so I park a quarter way over the next space hoping no one will park in that space as there are plenty more empty spaces next to it. I rush round, get a call from DD as she has forgotten her keys and is waiting outside the front door at home, so go quicker, get outside and find some BUFFOON has parked in the space I have parked over, so close that I can only just about get the door open on the toddler's side. The next space was empty!

As a see this, I hold my hands up and say to the DC, 'For gods sake, why did this idiot have to park so close' not seeing that there is a teenage boy sat in the car. I was not actually talking TO him at that point.

Conversation then goes something like this:
Boy shouts out 'my dad parked it not me'. I say something like, 'well you should tell him that I parked like this so I could get my child in car, now I can't, he could have parked further along'. He says' you should'nt have parked over the line'. I tell him I can park where I like, there's no law against it. He says 'well we can park where we like as well'. I tell him it would be common decency for his father to make sure the next car can open their doors. As I am in a rush, I try to squeeze DS through the door, hitting his head in the process. He starts crying. The boy in the next car laughs. I take the trolley back muttering 'tosser' to myself and give him an evil stare as I drive off furious at myself for not parking in the middle of 2 spaces and for even having a dialogue with the boy.

So police just came and said I had committed a public disorder offence as I was 'shouting, screaming and swearing' at the boy which has left him very shaken as he suffers from anxiety. The boy wants a written apology from me and if I do that, it will not go any further. Otherwise I will have be interviewed and give a written statement.

I have said that I am not apologising as I have not committed any offence and the boy was mouthing back to me very confidently and did definitely not look anxious to me! I do actually suffer from anxiety and depression and this has completely knocked me for 6.

The police will call me to arrange an interview next week. I can't believe it. I am pretty sure I did not even raise my voice. There was no one else about except my DCs and they are adamant I did not shout or swear (I have even started doubting myself). I am going back to the store on Monday to request the CCTV footage but they are not sure if anything will show up in the car park and it probably won't have picked up my voice anyway to prove I was not shouting.

I cannot understand how the police can tell me that if I write an apology, they will drop it, when they have no proof that I did anything. They were making out I was guilty Angry. Does this constitute a public disorder offence? I was just about to go out with the DCs to park before the police came. I am frozen with fear now.

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moonstorm · 21/04/2013 18:05

I imagine the OP is winding you up a little Smile

QuintessentialOHara · 21/04/2013 18:06

How can you argue that HE cant park where he likes, when you CAN? Hmm

What a numpty you are op. Grin It goes like this:

Petulant mum " You cant park so close to my car"
15 year old boy "You cant park over the line"
Petulant mum "Well I can park where I like, there is no law against it!"

Do you realize how ridiculous you sound? Surely he was not surrounding your car? Could you not reverse out a bit to get your kids in?

BIWI · 21/04/2013 18:07

From the very begining, moonstorm, I think.

WorrySighWorrySigh · 21/04/2013 18:08

Sorry, OP, I have supported you on this thread but I could not condone you leaving childish 'tricks' on someone else's car.

LadyBeagleEyes · 21/04/2013 18:10

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BoneyBackJefferson · 21/04/2013 18:11

BIWI and Moonstorm

but it has broken up my weekend and added some fun Sad

BeerTricksPotter · 21/04/2013 18:12

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prophylaxis · 21/04/2013 18:14

I think the OP is Lizzie Bardsley.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/04/2013 18:15

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VerySmallSqueak · 21/04/2013 18:15

I'm really behind you on what happened OP.

But if you put something you have with you on the door handle of someone who parks too close to you in future,you will have lost my sympathy.

Please,make a complaint,by all means,but don't unleash your anger at the way you have been treated in this instance on the next unwitting 'poor parker' you come across.

It might be me.

prophylaxis · 21/04/2013 18:18

so the OP keeps a turd in her glove conpartment to use on other drivers doir handles if they piss her off ? OP troll I think you may have over egged it with your last post.

Yes that does give the game away, everyone knows you produce the turd on demand rather than carrying one around with you.

VerySmallSqueak · 21/04/2013 18:18

And believe me,if you did that to me,I would definitely involve the Police.

That would quite possibly be assault.

Please if this isn't a wind up calm down.

Salmotrutta · 21/04/2013 18:20

I like this bit:

I have stood firm under the usual MN provocation, insults, hysteria and childishness and shall bow out from this thread

Very commendable OP you wind up merchant

musicismylife · 21/04/2013 18:21

Sorry, not sure if anyone has mentioned it but I wonder if tennager's dad was the copper who came around.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 21/04/2013 18:22

ooh the red button's working fast tonight....

foreverondiet · 21/04/2013 18:22

I hate when people don't keep within their spaces so on that basis YABU. I would also park so close - just to teach them to watch the lines in future!!!

evansthebread · 21/04/2013 18:23

My reading of this is that the police shouldn't really have been involved. I don't think I'd have called the police if someone was complaining to my teenager about my parking in a supermarket car park.

Now, if OP superglued my locks, then I would call the police and hope that CCTV caught her (just in case OP is thinking along these terms - please don't! If someone is intent on irritating you with their stupid parking, I suggest you're prolly better off fitting a protective strip on your door edge and open your car door as far as it needs to be opened IYSWIM).

Or you could go back in and complain with their number plate demanding they come out and move their car for you to gain access - over the PA system, of course.

I complained to the police after, having parked squarely in Blue Badge parking, this idiot screamed up next to me (no badge), got out and walked off before I could get out (takes me ages and I need door fully open). I opened the door and accidentally nudged his car. I hadn't noticed the thug in the back, but he got out, screamed at me, then kicked my car, putting a big dent in the rear door and got back in his! I was shaking but managed to get into the supermarket to complain. By the time we'd got back out the car was gone but I had sneakily taken a pic of his number plate with my phone.

Upshot was the manager had me in the office to calm down while he called the police. It was on CCTV but the police would NOT get involved as it took place on private land!!

As someone who has been previously complained about to the police for my abusive behaviour to a child, I am shocked that they take these complaints seriously. I HAD NOT EVER SPOKEN A SINGLE word to the child, but the police sent the mother to Victim Support and registered my name on some kind of register. I DID NOT EVEN FIND OUT until I complained about the mother (after months of abuse I taped her screaming threats at me across the garden wall). I offered the recording to the police but they said it was illegal to tape someone. They wouldn't even listen to it. I was then told that she'd complained about me within a month of moving in - we were actually on neighbourly terms at that point! The police's advice? Don't go in your garden and you won't see her as she's claiming you "want confrontation" by leaving your back door open!

I honestly think that the police need to stay out of tiffs like this and concentrate on bigger things.

Salmotrutta · 21/04/2013 18:24

Did you read Plomino's post music?

I recommend you do.

everlong · 21/04/2013 18:25

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Ezza1 · 21/04/2013 18:26

Haha music is my life, its only been mentioned a few hundred times. And that the OP needs driving/parking lessons and should not have a 7 seater car.

Terribly foul thread.

BimbaBirba · 21/04/2013 18:26

I haven't read the whole thread so apologies if this has been said on here before but why on earth can you not get your DS in from the the other door - or from the front seat even - if someone parks too close to the side with the toddler seat? Yes it's a bit of a hassle but come on! It's hardly a huge issue isn't it? You said that there were no other car parked in that part of the car park so why couldn't you just open the door fully on the other side and get him in from there?

ilovesooty · 21/04/2013 18:27

Just parked in the middle of 2 bays in Sainsbury's. If I offended anyone, I don't care

Entitled and selfish.

Next time someone blocks me from opening my doors, they shall have a nasty shock when they grab the handle to open theirs! I have a special something in my glove box for that purpose

I hope you are charged with assault.

I have stood firm under the usual MN provocation, insults, hysteria and childishness

Hmm
Salmotrutta · 21/04/2013 18:28

It's that last line ilovesooty which makes me think the OP is a name-changer with a grudge.

BoneyBackJefferson · 21/04/2013 18:29

evansthebread

You are shocked they the police take complaints of abusive behaviour towards children seriously! Shock

You might want to rethink that and figure out why they take these complaints are taken seriously.

LadyBeagleEyes · 21/04/2013 18:29

That's also been mentioned a few hundred times BimbaBirba.
does no one RTFT anymore?

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