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Original poster

was she being a bit of crap friend or am I just entitled?

31 replies

RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 19:56

Asked my friend last week if I could borrow her sat nav. She said yes that was fine, but I could I text her to remind her.

So this morning I text her and asked again if it would be ok, she text saying yes. I then said great, I'll come over to yours at 6.

Drive to hers at 7, knock on the door - no answer. Ring her 3 times - straight to voicemail.

Get fed up of waiting outside her house.

She finally rings me back and says sorry we went shopping and I forgot.

If I'd asked her last week then yeah of course it's easily forgotten about, but I'd literally reminded her just hours before.

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TWinklyLittleStar · 16/04/2013 19:58

Were you an hour late or is that a typo? If you were then YABVU. She shouldn't have to sit around waiting to do you a favour. If you came over at the time you said you would, then she was being crap.

ChilliJo · 16/04/2013 19:59

You said you'd be there at 6 and you turned up at 7, perhaps she was still in at 6?

Tobagostreet · 16/04/2013 19:59

Maybe she was home at 6 (when you said you'd be there) and couldn't wait?

She's doing you a favour, if you need the Satnav, go and pick it up when she returns home from shopping, smile and say thanks.

Don't get too caught up about it - not a big thing to fall out over.

Original poster
RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 19:59

Shit sorry - typo.

I got to hers at 6.

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CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 19:59

So you ask to borrow an expensive bit of equipment and she nicely says yes. You turn up an hour late and then whine on the internet about her being a crap friend?

Yes. Entitled.

MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:00

Yanbu. She agreed, you texted her as she asked. She should have remembered.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 16/04/2013 20:00

She just forgot, its really no big deal.

MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:00

Oh sorry - I missed the hour late thing. Yabu.

WTFisABooyhoo · 16/04/2013 20:00

you were an hour late and she had things to do. you expected her to wait around to do you a favour?

LineRunner · 16/04/2013 20:01

You need to start the thread again.

MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:01

"I got to hers at 6."

So why did you say 7?

Original poster
RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:01

I GOT TO HER HOUSE AT 6

Sorry for that stupid typo. Completely changes the OP.

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CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:01

Ok x-posts.

TBH you're still entitled. She's not obligated to lend it to you. If ypu want to borrow it it will have to be in her terms.

You are however allowed to be a bit peeved.

TWinklyLittleStar · 16/04/2013 20:01
MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:02

OK. I switch back to YANBU.

WTFisABooyhoo · 16/04/2013 20:02

ah ok. you were on time. then she is in the wrong.

Original poster
RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:03

So why did you say 7?

It was a typo, sorry. I didn't check the thread before I posted it.

If I'd got there an hour late then yes of course it would be my fault. I wouldn't need to ask if I was being unreasonable.

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CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:04

Poor Riding you're not having a good day are you!

Forgetful friend messes up arrangment and then lots if Mn'ers leap all over you for bring late! Grin have some Wine

ChilliJo · 16/04/2013 20:05

I take it back; YANBU to expect her to be UN when you've agreed it so shortly beforehand (YABU to post a typo that makes you look U Wink )

Original poster
RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:05

TBH you're still entitled. She's not obligated to lend it to you. If ypu want to borrow it it will have to be in her terms.

How so?

I asked her with a weeks notice, which she said yes but to remind her. So that's what I did, on the morning and tell her what time I would get to hers.

I get there and she's not in.

She could have said no she didn't want me to borrow it.

I wouldn't have been bothered if she'd text me to say - got to go shopping so come over later.

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SarahAndFuck · 16/04/2013 20:05

You are not being entitled, you asked and she agreed, you double-checked and she agreed again. It's not like she turned you down and now you are complaining.

It is a bit crap that she forgot, but it sounds like an honest mistake. An annoying one for you, but not worth falling out or stressing over.

Brace yourself for a very long thread filled with people not reading the clarification that you made a typo about the time you arrived.

MrsMelons · 16/04/2013 20:05

You are not being entitled, she said you could borrow it so it was rude of her to go out without telling you. If that was me I would have called you and dropped it off on my way shopping or something. If someone does you a favour it doesn't mean they are automatically entitled to act inconsiderately.

Original poster
RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:06
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ChilliJo · 16/04/2013 20:07

*IN! Not UN.

Note to self: next time you poke fun of someone's typos, make sure you don't have any of your own. Twat.

Tobagostreet · 16/04/2013 20:08

Ah, so you weren't late? Hmmmm, it's a tough one. I am the type of person who genuinely can forget an arrangement made - even one made recently, so I'm still going to err on the side of its not worth falling out over.

YANBU to be a little annoyed, but she is still (I assume!) loaning you something you need.

Laugh off her sieve of a memory, thank her for the loan of the Satnav (when you do get it) and move on.