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AIBU?

was she being a bit of crap friend or am I just entitled?

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RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 19:56

Asked my friend last week if I could borrow her sat nav. She said yes that was fine, but I could I text her to remind her.

So this morning I text her and asked again if it would be ok, she text saying yes. I then said great, I'll come over to yours at 6.

Drive to hers at 7, knock on the door - no answer. Ring her 3 times - straight to voicemail.

Get fed up of waiting outside her house.

She finally rings me back and says sorry we went shopping and I forgot.

If I'd asked her last week then yeah of course it's easily forgotten about, but I'd literally reminded her just hours before.

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SirChenjin · 16/04/2013 20:20

No, she was unreasonable. If someone asks to borrow something and you agree then you don't 'forget' and go shopping, esp. when they've phoned to remind you!

CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:17

I'm interested that various people are suggesting she webt out to deliberately avoid the OP. it's not actually that unusual to forget stuff...

..... I do on a regular basis!

CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:15

If course it wasn't great of her to forget but I'm not sure her forgetfulness makes her a crap friend in my book. By 'entitled' I just meant that it's her sat nav. She doesn't have to lend it to you so if you want it ypu'll have to forgive her forgetfulness and get her to suggest another suitable time. In the meantime have more

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 16/04/2013 20:15

you shouldn't have been late

Sorry, couldn't resist.

I think that once someone has agreed to do something, then - barring accident or some other unforeseen thing - they actually are somehow obligated. They promised. You can't just promise something then go nah, don't fancy that now, it's mine, I don't have to...

That's rude.

I think she was rude and I think that if she didn't want to lend it to you, she should have just said so.

lottieandmia · 16/04/2013 20:12

She's a crap friend. I can't believe she would have forgotten tbh. YANBU

Tobagostreet · 16/04/2013 20:09

Oh, and I agree with CharlieB - have a .

Tobagostreet · 16/04/2013 20:08

Ah, so you weren't late? Hmmmm, it's a tough one. I am the type of person who genuinely can forget an arrangement made - even one made recently, so I'm still going to err on the side of its not worth falling out over.

YANBU to be a little annoyed, but she is still (I assume!) loaning you something you need.

Laugh off her sieve of a memory, thank her for the loan of the Satnav (when you do get it) and move on.

ChilliJo · 16/04/2013 20:07

*IN! Not UN.

Note to self: next time you poke fun of someone's typos, make sure you don't have any of your own. Twat.

RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:06

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MrsMelons · 16/04/2013 20:05

You are not being entitled, she said you could borrow it so it was rude of her to go out without telling you. If that was me I would have called you and dropped it off on my way shopping or something. If someone does you a favour it doesn't mean they are automatically entitled to act inconsiderately.

SarahAndFuck · 16/04/2013 20:05

You are not being entitled, you asked and she agreed, you double-checked and she agreed again. It's not like she turned you down and now you are complaining.

It is a bit crap that she forgot, but it sounds like an honest mistake. An annoying one for you, but not worth falling out or stressing over.

Brace yourself for a very long thread filled with people not reading the clarification that you made a typo about the time you arrived.

RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:05

TBH you're still entitled. She's not obligated to lend it to you. If ypu want to borrow it it will have to be in her terms.

How so?

I asked her with a weeks notice, which she said yes but to remind her. So that's what I did, on the morning and tell her what time I would get to hers.

I get there and she's not in.

She could have said no she didn't want me to borrow it.

I wouldn't have been bothered if she'd text me to say - got to go shopping so come over later.

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ChilliJo · 16/04/2013 20:05

I take it back; YANBU to expect her to be UN when you've agreed it so shortly beforehand (YABU to post a typo that makes you look U )

CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:04

Poor Riding you're not having a good day are you!

Forgetful friend messes up arrangment and then lots if Mn'ers leap all over you for bring late! have some

RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:03

So why did you say 7?

It was a typo, sorry. I didn't check the thread before I posted it.

If I'd got there an hour late then yes of course it would be my fault. I wouldn't need to ask if I was being unreasonable.

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WTFisABooyhoo · 16/04/2013 20:02

ah ok. you were on time. then she is in the wrong.

MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:02

OK. I switch back to YANBU.

TWinklyLittleStar · 16/04/2013 20:01

CharlieBlanche · 16/04/2013 20:01

Ok x-posts.

TBH you're still entitled. She's not obligated to lend it to you. If ypu want to borrow it it will have to be in her terms.

You are however allowed to be a bit peeved.

RidingMyYoni · 16/04/2013 20:01

I GOT TO HER HOUSE AT 6

Sorry for that stupid typo. Completely changes the OP.

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MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:01

"I got to hers at 6."

So why did you say 7?

LineRunner · 16/04/2013 20:01

You need to start the thread again.

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WTFisABooyhoo · 16/04/2013 20:00

you were an hour late and she had things to do. you expected her to wait around to do you a favour?

MardyBra · 16/04/2013 20:00

Oh sorry - I missed the hour late thing. Yabu.

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 16/04/2013 20:00

She just forgot, its really no big deal.

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