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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this is a daft suggestion

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idontbeeleaveit · 15/04/2013 21:32

Am going to be working away during the week, returning at weekends for a short period (5 weeks.) Original plan was to stay in a premier inn and work are paying for this (I am going to be going to a new workplace just to bridge a gap on a temporary basis.)

DP tells me I should, on my first day, announce in the meeting that I need somewhere to stay during the week.

I can't think of anything worse. I don't want to stay in a stranger's house, I'd feel really embarrassed at asking and after a day at work I want to chill out, watch bad TV and eat takeaways, but DP thinks I should save the money.

I can see his point but I really don't fancy it. AIBU?

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StealthOfficialCrispTester · 15/04/2013 21:44

Am amazed I'm in the majority on this thread. I'm sure they usually get comments about soulless hotel rooms and how much nicer it is to stay in a family home!

Trillz · 15/04/2013 21:44

Very daft indeed.

YANBU.

hippoCritt · 15/04/2013 21:45

Have you approached hotels to see if they will do long term cheaper rate? I wouldn't want to stay with a colleague at all.

StealthOfficialCrispTester · 15/04/2013 21:45

Mrso I assume she's given a sum of money in compensation for the upheaval. Whether she spends that on hotel rooms or gin to drink in her cardboard box under the bridge is up to her, but when it's gone it's gone

Viviennemary · 15/04/2013 21:46

I'd totally hate staying in a stranger's house. And family meals with people you don't know. Dreadful. It's a crazy idea. Hotel sounds the best bet. Nice and peaceful and do your own thing. Bliss!

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idontbeeleaveit · 15/04/2013 21:46

Mrs - no, although he probably wouldn't have any qualms about doing so but I get the money as part of a relocation package, as you can imagine it isn't hugely convenient for anybody, least of all me, to be working 2 and a half hours away from my home for six weeks so I get a fixed sum of money. it is up to me what I do with it.

stealth I'm not one of them. I love hotels! Grin

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GoldenGreen · 15/04/2013 21:46

tbh I am sure it wouldn't be a problem - there'd be an embarrassed silence and absolutely no-one would offer Grin

I am sure you are lovely, by the way...just cannot imagine anyone would be offering to have a complete stranger stay for that long!

Floggingmolly · 15/04/2013 21:47

So it's just another branch of your workplace? How utterly cringeworthy for everyone to know what you're trying to do (and they will know).
Don't even consider it.

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idontbeeleaveit · 15/04/2013 21:48

no not at all golden, I agree, and I'm not sure I'm lovely Grin

it's caused a big row here as he's not having it that his suggestion is fucking insane unreasonable.

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StealthOfficialCrispTester · 15/04/2013 21:48

Me too. Even travelogue. Go in, shut door, kettle on, silence. Bliss

StealthOfficialCrispTester · 15/04/2013 21:49

Would you not offer this person money anyway? Rent in a way?

NorksAreMessy · 15/04/2013 21:49

I LOVE hotels as well...especially room service dinner in bed.

Your DH is BU and need be considered as an authority on sleeping arrangements no more

aldiwhore · 15/04/2013 21:50

idontbeeleaveit I am happily married but do you mind if I fall in love JUST a little with your DH? I LOVE people who see the world like this, even if I will never join them, HE SHARES UMBRELLAS WITH STRANGERS!! I LOVE HIM!!! Grin

Ahem, anyhoo. Just ignore. Lie. Tell him you asked and they sacked you on the spot Wink

I love hotels too, even Premier Inns (at least it's not a travel lodge or B&B) buy him a DVD of his choice with what's left over (and do make sure you eat out every night) x

Weasleyismyking · 15/04/2013 21:50

Would you not have to pay the colleague rent of some sort for putting you up and presumably feeding you?

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idontbeeleaveit · 15/04/2013 21:50

I would but I doubt DP would. He is the sort of stingy bastard that steals sugar and ketchup from pubs and coffee places

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SquinkiesRule · 15/04/2013 21:51

I'd rather a hotel than a strangers house too.
Hotel rooms don't bother me I quite like them, someone else makes hte bed and cleans the bathroom and there is more channels on the TV than at home.
Maybe a B&B if you prefer it over a hotel, more friendly and includes a nice breakfast usually, sometimes an evening meal to boot.

StealthOfficialCrispTester · 15/04/2013 21:51

Norks we clearly inhabit a different class of hotel. The only thing I have in my bed are other people's pubes

Weasleyismyking · 15/04/2013 21:52

X-posted with stealthofficial!

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idontbeeleaveit · 15/04/2013 21:52

Aldi not quite I'm afraid Grin when we were staying in Cardiff he went out in the early morning and got soaked. Woke me and the DD up at some unearthly hour using the hairdryer to dry his shirt Hmm Then complained that "some woman" had "given him a funny look" when he'd asked her to share her brolly. It was 3 in the morning - poor woman was probably terrified!

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PoohBearsHole · 15/04/2013 21:52

I would look at short term apps rather than a travel lodge as you will soon be bored of grim bedding but a serviced appt? Hotel/home

And no, I wouldn't have anyone to stay or want to stay for longer than a nigthnata colleagues!!!

sparkle12mar08 · 15/04/2013 21:53

You're really not selling him to us, you know...

LadyBeagleEyes · 15/04/2013 21:53

Can you fix up some annoying bloke to come and stay with your dp while your'e away?

Still18atheart · 15/04/2013 21:54

YADNBU

Especially if work is paying for the hotel

ivykaty44 · 15/04/2013 21:54

If it is in the summer - well the sort of warmerish weather we sometimes get here - I would rather rent a flipping caravan than stay in a travelodge. Then let dh come to you at weekends,

Travelodges are soulless and vitually no natural light, and very noisey doors
Then I guess your dh would ask friends to borrow a caravan and more such things - so possibly not .....

Floggingmolly · 15/04/2013 21:54

Your dh is starting to sounds extremely odd Hmm
He approached a woman at 3am and asked to share her umbrella? I'd have impaled him on it.