To tell this woman to stop bloody tutting and shaking her head at me?

[FigaroCat]

I was friends with a mum from the school run for a couple of years. Our DDs are friends and are in the same class most years. I wouldn't say we were very close friends but we got on well, met up regularly with the girls, and often texted or phoned each other.

About 6 months ago the mum stopped talking to me, almost overnight. If I went up to her at the school to talk she would just walk off, and texts were ignored. I tried to speak to her a couple of times and ask if I'd upset her at all but she just ignored me, and she now walks straight past me if she sees me, with her nose in the air.

Fair enough, I don't think I've done anything wrong at all but her choice who she's friends with and all that. However....she works 3 days a week and her mother, who is in her late fifties, does the school run for her. I previously got on well with her mother and we'd have a bit of a chat and small talk at the school. Since my friend stopped talking to me, her mother has done so too. Again no huge loss, but every time she sees me she starts shaking her head, and tutting at me.

We were just walking home from school an hour ago and my friend's daughter was behind us and called DD's name. DD turned round and waved, and I turned round too, and my friend's mum was glaring at me, tutting, shaking her head. She often tries to get eye contact with me on the school run, for example if I am talking to another mum she walks past me, looks at me and again loudly tuts, shakes her head, and glares at me. Also at the end of the Easter term there was an assembly, which my friend's mum went to, and again there as she walked past me to sit down she glared at me and shook her head.

It's like I've done something terrible and sordid and I absolutely disgust her. I don't much care now as to what they think I've done, as my ex friend's childish approach to things has made me realise she's not worth bothering about but her mum is really pissing me off.

WIBU the next time she does it to tell her to bloody well stop doing it and to get a life? DH says to ignore her but that's easier said than done!

Figaro cat is currently in a police cell for attempting to choke the tut out of someone

Just read 8 pages and no update..

I'd eye contact & curtsey with a really big every time she huffs..

I really need to know what all the tutting is about...

..or little pig costume..

I think we've done something to offend the op. Should we ask her what the problem is?

Maybe she confronted and there was a fracas...

Argh all those pages and no update

I heard that they got into a fight and they are now both in detention in the Heads office.

They think you are having or have had an affair, I bet.

Who? OP and Tuttut?

Well it's obvious what the chuffing issue is....

The op forgot to bloody update school gate Mum on something really important

Arf!

I'm now tutting and shaking of my head.

Dear oh dear oh dear

This happened to me: random grandma that I walked past on way in and out of school. Used to exchange a nod/small talk about 2 year old DS2. Overnight she decided to ignore me. Not sure why - maybe I didn't smile one day, I don't know.

She was a very glamorous grandma and wore huge sunglasses so I could never see her eyes - all I had to go on was a cat's bum mouth every time she saw me.

I didn't care really - there was no connection between us - but it did get annoying being glared at going in and out of school.

Came to a head one day when I was walking in and she was leaning in to talk to a dad in a car. They stopped talking, she straightened up, and gave me a withering stare from the top of my head to my toes.

She didn't count on fact that I was bullied when I was a kid and I'm not a kid anymore and also I might look like butter wouldn't melt in my mouth but I'm a northerner in the south.

I screeched to a halt and said through gritted teeth: what is the matter with you?

She was really shocked and stammered: I don't know what you're talking about.

I just said: then stop giving me the daggers every time I pass you.

And she did.

Call her on it - it's the only thing that works.

I have started a thread in Chat telling OP that we are all waiting with bated breath for an update from her. (because I am a nosey cow)

I am reporting this thread for causing those of us that are waiting for an update, undue anxiety and curiosity.

Ok I am in no way waiting with baited breath to see what happened next and this is not just marking my place. COME ON OP!!!!!

Just read this thread and I need to know too now!

ffs figaro have just got homeand logged in especially to see if tutter has been dealt with. Where are you we need next instalment!

Tut

shakes head

Is it too rude to pm her to remind her to update?

Oooh what happened....

EyeoftheStorm Hooray for Northerners! We don't take a lot of shit before we bluntly say, 'What is your problem?'

Come on Figaro - we're all longing for an update...

tut tut tut.

Eeeek, I must know!

I too have been mysteriously blanked. This woman went from discussing her bridesmaids gowns with me ("because you'll have to wear one") to not answering my phone calls. No falling out, nothing! Still to this day.

Have to know what happened, OP, come on back and tell us!

I have had this also....but she has recently started "liking" everything I put on FB ...(hangs head in shame at acknowledging I use FB)